As an avid reader of Bitchy Jones and occasional disagreer-with of the same (it would be creepy and weird if I agreed with everything she said) I understand, or think I understand, a great deal of her frustration with the kidnapping of her sexuality and the way it is dressed up to be something other than what she wants from it.

Bitchy Jones is, as she mentions pretty much constantly, a female dominant. A dominant woman. A "domina", or "dominatrix", if you want to use those terms. I'm rather the opposite, and the purpose of this anonymous space is to get over that.

Getting Over Being A Submissive/Masochistic Woman While Simultaneously Identifying As A Feminist And Being In All Areas Outside Of The Bedroom So Assertive That Everyone Assumes You Are A Domme

Too long a title for the blog and somewhat unwieldy.

Trying To Make "I Like Being Hit By People" Into A Workable Manifesto Without Anyone Ever Thinking You're A Pushover Because Of It

Too informal. Everyone loves formality in their abstracts, don't they?

What Does Masochism/Submission Mean To Me, Kapaṭī Ghūṅghaṭa, And How Can I Avoid Becoming One Of Those Horrible Simpering Women Who Only Talks About Herself In Lower Case Pronouns Because Her Mandom Stole All Her Shift Keys?

That's more like it. What does being the "traditionally feminine" side of the S&M, D/s divide mean to someone who is in no way traditionally feminine? What sort of future do I have in a "scene" that makes me either pee myself laughing or goggle in barely-repressed horror at the wobbly penises, men in leather waistcoats, and the avalanche of cheap PVC? And where in the hell does one find someone into blood"play" who isn't a rampaging psychopath?

This blog is going to be more questions than answers, I can tell you that now.