• Jenna said on Jul 16, 2008....

  Mr. Impulsive....I know you did not ask for my advice but I am giving it.  Stop sending the messages.  You have let her know how you feel, now give her some time.  She is away because she needs some think time....at least that is what I am assuming.  
  
  
  Take a deep breath......give it a day or two and call and see if she will sit down and talk face to face.  I do not know much about the situation but in your other post you said people never know what they've got til its gone.  Maybe you need to let her know how much you do appreciate her and want to make this work.  
  
  
  Hope fully you two can come up with a reconnection plan.   I wish you the best....hope you don't mind the unsoliciated (sp?)advice. 
  Good luck!

• mr.impulsive said on Jul 16, 2008....

  Jenna, she came home.  She had been at the attornys office and decided to come hom. We cried and she opened up.  She told me that I was too worried with my own needs.  That I am too selfish with my time.  Then when I give time I am horribly cranky.  I guess she's wanted to go camping since we got married nine years ago.  We went once and I was too irritable so she never asked me to go again.  There are some deeper intimacy issues too, but she was more concerned with my time as a father and making family time fun.  I am 2 weeks away from the MBA that almost cost me a wonderful marriage.  I am just praying I can make it through without coming off neglectful or impatient. 
  She has told me a couple of times she's not in love with me, but I'm hoping for a miracle.
  The real miracle was spending half of the day reconnecting with my kids as my wife slept.  Oh, I hope, hope and pray I can be a better man.  I love my kids, they are all so small.
  I guess the text messages to come home with no strings attached may have helped. 
  This marriage has been on the brink all year.  I just hope I can be strong, patient, and attentive.
  Thank you for the note.
   

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