Q. There are things in my life that I would like to do, such as travelling alone, but I cannot do it as I am afraid of the bad people I will encounter along the way. I want to explore new life in all the wonders of the world but I can’t do it alone.
A. That is a very sad thought you have, only because the world has two sides to it: good and bad, and whichever one you focus upon, that’s the one you’ll get. We CHOOSE what we think about, and it is our low self esteem and low confidence that make us think of negative things all the time, when we could just as easily think about positive things, if we wanted to.
There are three things wrong with the way you are thinking:
1. Would you call yourself a ’bad’ person? If you wouldn’t, then why do you think that everyone else is bad, and that you would mainly meet bad people? The minute you lump everyone together, without recognising that we are all individuals, good and bad, you include yourself, your family and your friends among the very bad people you fear. Why? Because if everyone thought like you, then everyone else would be regarded as being bad too.
You should expect everyone to treat you well, to protect you and show you love, if you wish to be thought of like that too.You cannot get respect from others if you give none, or expect the worst of them. I have been travelling every year since I was 18 (I am now 60) and have not had a single bad incident on my journeys, and I have been all over the world, mostly on my own. But then I don’t expect people to be cruel or nasty to me. I think everyone is lovely until they show me otherwise, and I have not been disappointed ,because we tend to get what we expect in life.
2. Everyone is different and unique. There isn’t a bad group and a good group in this world. We all have it in us to be evil one minute and good the next. What prevents us being evil is our need for love, affection and being wanted, so we prefer to be loving instead. There is crime everywhere, no matter which country you are in, but it doesn’t mean anything will ever happen to you, especially if you live your life in a positive way and expect the best. Most people never experience any kind of deviance in their life time, so there is no law that say you will.
3. You get the life that you THINK about. Our thoughts make our existence. We are both writing on a machine invented by someone else purely through their thoughts. You are likely to be sitting on a chair that someone else thought about to invent. Hence if you go around every day of your life thinking awful things, then your life is likely to be one awful mess because you cannot get positives out of negatives. You will bring them to life yourself.
So stop the negativity from today. Just face your fears, which are mostly irrational and without foundation, ditch them right now and remind yourself that whatever will be will be, you cannot stop your fate. Neither can you spend your life hiding from others because you fear being hurt. Let me tell you about a little known statistic. In the UK, the second biggest cause of death for women over 50, would you believe it, is falling down the stairs!! It shows that you don’t even have to leave your home to be harmed or killed!
Face your fears and live your life, expand your horizons with travel, expect only good of the world, and you could have a most amazing life. In fact ,you will feel far more protected than going around expecting the worst. Otherwise, what is your real alternative? Living forever in fear and doing nothing? I am sure you wouldn’t feel happy and worthwhile with that.
MsCYPRAH posted on Jul 12, 2008
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