• hinana said on Jul 03, 2008....

  youre right that in a way it was a gift to you..but wouldnt iving it back to him just make him stop bothering you about it?
  if youre sellivg it..what kind of necklace is this?

• BlogTherapy said on Jul 04, 2008....

  it's a 1/4 ct. diamond necklace. The thing about the necklace, is when we broke up he said he'd promise not to ask for it back because he told me it was a gift from him to me. But the fact that he's going back on his word a second time is upsetting.
  Mostly, i'm worried at what he might do if i refuse to give it back. He's not very stable and i'm not sure what he's capable of...
  So far i have no takers...Unless you're interested  : D
   
  P.S. I also think me getting in contact with him is just what he wants. He has this twisted idea that i belong to him and that i'll someday return to him. By me keeping in contact, that could make things way worse. what to do...what to do...

• dyingman said on Jul 04, 2008....

  Give it back.
  
  The money you would keep is a weight on your soul.
  Give him the token of affection he offered when he was a better man.
  
  Perhaps one day you'll accept an apology for this childish behavior.
  He cannot take back the love he once gave in the form of this gift. If he can accept that his affection at the time was a good thing, letting you keep the token could have been the gift of a memory you otherwise might have been able to remember fondly.  The damage you do will be more punishment than he deserves.  Unfortunately, it's more punishment than you deserve too.  Selling the necklace puts a price on the love he must have had for you.  It diminishes the value of that which he was REALLY giving at the time.  As a gift, it was "the thought that counts" which is priceless.  He has asked for a necklace back having valued it more than his own love for you.  Let it be his choice whether to exchange memories for money.  A better man will find it in a drawer ten years from now and keep the lesson forever.
  
  Thus are the tortures of first loves. 
  
  *DM
  

• BlogTherapy said on Jul 08, 2008....

  Well i took the necklace to a pawn shop and was sadly disappointed. They gave me WAY less than what i hoped, so i still have it. The sale will have to be put on hold for a bit. It's hard to do too because i know he's monitoring my every move and prolly checking and re-checking craigs list to see if i have re-posted it. He's a loon! But i really want and need the money - so i want to sell it. Having it around just reminds me of him and i do not want that. I wish i'd never met him in the first place cuz all i think about when i think of him is Regret.

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