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He won't go away. >?!< Remember my ex...the one who asked for the necklace back...but then decided he didn't want it back...WEll...guess what? He changed his mind again....
Indian Giver!!!
OMG! Will he ever go away???
I told him to never ever contact me again because there would be dire consequences. But now i'm not sure whether to ignore him or threaten him.
I started by Re-blocking him from my e-mail (don't know how he was able to get an e-mail thru in the first place). Guess that horrible dream i had about him stalking me isn't so far from the truth.
This is like a nightmare.
I can't seem to get away from him. He's like a mosquito that won't go away but just wants to suck my blood no matter what.
The fact that he had the nerve to ask for it back (and after 4 months?!) makes me mad, feel scared, and all twisted inside.
I know now that i made a big huge mistake by being with him in the first place, but i broke it off with him...i think it was a little too late.
: (
More than anything i'm afraid of what he might do to me...He knows where i live, where some of my family lives...i'm nervous. I know my boyfriend would take care of me no matter what...but still i'm unnerved about this whole thing.
In the e-mail he did not ask politely, but said he expects it back and that he'll be watching his mail for the return of the necklace.
In my opinion, it was a gift, so it's mine. You see i posted it and tried to sell it. I am very sure he searched (and searched and searched) and found it online and saw that i was trying to sell it and now wants it back for that reason.
Am i in the right to not reply to him and to sell it since it was a rightful gift to me?
Help!!


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  • hinana said on Jul 03, 2008....
    youre right that in a way it was a gift to you..but wouldnt iving it back to him just make him stop bothering you about it?
    if youre sellivg it..what kind of necklace is this?
  • BlogTherapy said on Jul 04, 2008....
    it's a 1/4 ct. diamond necklace. The thing about the necklace, is when we broke up he said he'd promise not to ask for it back because he told me it was a gift from him to me. But the fact that he's going back on his word a second time is upsetting.
    Mostly, i'm worried at what he might do if i refuse to give it back. He's not very stable and i'm not sure what he's capable of...
    So far i have no takers...Unless you're interested  : D
     
    P.S. I also think me getting in contact with him is just what he wants. He has this twisted idea that i belong to him and that i'll someday return to him. By me keeping in contact, that could make things way worse. what to do...what to do...
  • dyingman said on Jul 04, 2008....
    Give it back.

    The money you would keep is a weight on your soul.
    Give him the token of affection he offered when he was a better man.

    Perhaps one day you'll accept an apology for this childish behavior.
    He cannot take back the love he once gave in the form of this gift. If he can accept that his affection at the time was a good thing, letting you keep the token could have been the gift of a memory you otherwise might have been able to remember fondly.  The damage you do will be more punishment than he deserves.  Unfortunately, it's more punishment than you deserve too.  Selling the necklace puts a price on the love he must have had for you.  It diminishes the value of that which he was REALLY giving at the time.  As a gift, it was "the thought that counts" which is priceless.  He has asked for a necklace back having valued it more than his own love for you.  Let it be his choice whether to exchange memories for money.  A better man will find it in a drawer ten years from now and keep the lesson forever.

    Thus are the tortures of first loves. 

    *DM
  • BlogTherapy said on Jul 08, 2008....
    Well i took the necklace to a pawn shop and was sadly disappointed. They gave me WAY less than what i hoped, so i still have it. The sale will have to be put on hold for a bit. It's hard to do too because i know he's monitoring my every move and prolly checking and re-checking craigs list to see if i have re-posted it. He's a loon! But i really want and need the money - so i want to sell it. Having it around just reminds me of him and i do not want that. I wish i'd never met him in the first place cuz all i think about when i think of him is Regret.

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