Why do people have to get so damned defensive when you confront them about something?  Why can't they just listen to what you say, digest it, then move on?  I have lived with this man for 22 years.  I can't confront him about anything without him getting defensive.  I sit here and tell him that I know what it is that he did but he has to tell me what he did when I get done like that is going to make anything better.

He has been putting off getting the yard and house and pool ready for Friday.  Today he decides he is going to do the yard.  Cut our yard, cut the neighbors yard because she is having a birthday party tomorrow and her lazy ass son, who owns his own lawnmowing company and the party is for his own son, won't cut her grass.  But does T finish our yard?  No.  He has to stop to go with the neighbor to Hospice.  I have no problem whatsoever with that.  The man that he brought back to life a year ago is now in Hospice and is not expected to live through the night.  This I have no problem with.  But he comes home and the neighbor decides she has to put up a tent thing for her party tomorrow.  Okay, no problem, but it takes them 2 hours to do it.  It is now 10pm.  He comes in and asks if I want him to blow the grass off of the walks.  Ummmmm, lets see. . . . . it's 10pm, the blower is pretty loud . . .  what do you think?  Okay I tried ot help this evening.  I can't do much because I have not been cleared by the doctor  yet.  I do what I can, then I get worn out.  I have to eat supper alone.  And I"m not supposed ot be frustrated or mad?  I walked out.  I told him he did not want me to talk to him right now.  He really didn't want me to talk to me because I would have gone off on him.

So now his plan is tomorrow after work, go to Sam's, finish the yard, clean the pool, clean the house.  he goes to bed at 10pm.  Sorry that is not enough time.  He said he would gt the daughter to clean the pool.  sure.  When are ou going to see her?  She doesn't get home until well after midnight.  She works tomorrow at 1 til 9 then she will go to Jon and Dru's until well after midnight.  She is the one that wants Jon's parents to come over Friday but she is not willing to lift a finger to help get ready for it.  I am not the only one who lives here.  All I am asking that the crap that is laying around find it's homes and vacuum and dust and clean the bathrooms.

I'm tired, I'm just damned tired and he doesn't understand that I'm tired of having everyone elses things taken care of before our own.

It will all work out and we will be okay. I promise.