I'm sure I'm not the only person who has lost touch with certain friends over the years.  I often struggle with how to regain it, or if doing so is even worth it.

One friend in particular went to college about 2.5 hours away (between our hometown & my college city) and elected to remain there afterward.  Whenever we were both in our hometown we'd try to get together; sometimes it worked and sometimes, especially lately, we were too busy.  Whether we were making the appropriate amount of effort is, to me, irrelevant; the way I see it we were both putting in the same amount. 

However, we often talk online & she comes across as though she feels it's my fault.  She's never blatantly said anything to that effect, but I glean a certain amount of... helplessness?  in her lamentations about how we haven't seen each other in so long.  Hopelessness like she doesn't know what to do & I need to remedy the situation.  But why?  She doesn't realize that she's equally responsible? 

She's also insinuated that I should go visit her.  But why is it on me to do that?  She's periodically coming back this way anyway to visit her parents or other people so I would just assume try to see each other during those excursions. 

Another wrinkle is that I seem to have accrued a few friends who live in her area & was thinking about making that a stopover point when J & I visit the old college city.  However, I'm afraid that this friend won't appreciate being one of several people who we visit on a stopover point... which is sadly enough to make me scrap the whole idea & just avoid any issues with that altogether. 

Anyway, the whole point of this rant is that it sucks when someone forgets the "friendship is a two-way street" mantra.  I'm also not so sure that this friend & I have very much in common anymore.  Thus I'm not really in a hurry to go out of my way & reserve long periods of time for her company.