There is a massive gulf between poly and open. Some folks will say they are poly when they are just open and wanting a quick shag off you. Which is a big reason I almost never mix sex with my sadism.

By the way, swingers who do the S/m thing also kinda irk me. Because again, it seems to be all about the sex.

Anyone who says, yes I can fuck this one, but you CANT do that one...well it just isnt right. There isnt a one way street in these things when it comes to family style poly. Im not talking Dom/sub stuff here...though thats a part...Im talking about people who give poly a bad name.

The ability to love many people is rare and amazing. Not everyone can do it...and not everyone can be honest about it.