• hinana said on Jun 26, 2008....

  lol 'just hasnt been diagnosed.'
  well the only question i can ask right now is... can you move?

• starchini said on Jun 26, 2008....

  Not without breaking her heart....its me suffer or her, as much as i hate being around her, id rather it be me that suffers...

• hinana said on Jun 26, 2008....

  but you lived away before right? what was that situation?
   

• uniquely-ironic said on Jun 26, 2008....

  You're a young adult now.  I'm sure she expects that at some point you'll move out again.  Why not sit and talk to her about you moving out.  If she starts whining you can always tell her that you'll be over to visit X amount of times a week.
   
  As a parent I have to say that I'd love to have my children with me forever, but as a thinking adult I know that's a bad idea.  They need their space, I need mine.  We can always be close, but their moving out is the natural course of nature.

• starchini said on Jun 26, 2008....

  ah unique, in theory its a grande idea...but no...My mother is an unreasonable selfish my way is the only way wench from hell...
   
   I sacrificed two weeks of my plans and life to "house sit"...I cleaned, kept her plants watered and just made sure the house didnt burn down.
   
  My mother is a freak about everything, nothing is right and i truly believe that she enjoys being mad.  I really do! 
   
  Well, being the sweet daughter that i am, i cleaned the house before she got home.
   
  She gets home and all is fine, at first glance she is very impressed with how well i kept the house up...
  
  Well today im at work and shes called on the hour every hour to chew my ass out creating pretend imaginary problems...
   
  She thinks i went into her china huch and rearranged...i did not.
   
  Crazy crap i dont even care to go over...shes just a fucking unappreciate crazy bitch...
   
  I cant talk to her about anything...
   
  I very much so dislike her...
   
  and dont even want to try reasoning with her...
   
  I know how it will go...
   
  Shell cry, get all but hurt, turn everything around on me and make me feel horrible.
   
  Ill end up saying sorry...and she will win..

• hinana said on Jun 26, 2008....

  baha that cleaning the house thing sounds like me..ill clean a whole bunch, and instead of sying good job,  shell mention how some other thing isnt clean, or how i didnt do something else too

• starchini said on Jun 26, 2008....

  She accused me of purposly not cleaning a urine spot one of the dogs left.."u couldnt have NOT seen it!  U just wanted ME to clean it.  Well IM NOT!"

  "U killed my hanging fern on purpose!  U couldnt have watered it!  If u did it would not have died!!!" 

  I did water her fucking plants and one died and she is convinced im lying about watering when Phil and Emilia both vouched for me

• starchini said on Jun 26, 2008....

  Shes just a bitch, u cannot reason with her.  God can tell her the sky is made of air till he is blue in the face and she will not back down bc she is positive its made of marshmallow...She can make God hate someone...i swear it she really could...

  I just wish i could truly convey how unreasonable this woman is so that u all will understand but  i just dont think i can....

  I once got spanked with a metal baton for not sorting my laundry correctly...

  I was 7....

  Does that give u a sort of idea?

• hinana said on Jun 26, 2008....

  lol i got the idea already.
  i think that if ur ready to move out, and have the resources to do it properly and comfortably, then do it. it seems you could win the lottery and you would still be expected to live at home...unless theres a sollid reason why you should stay at home, then if you have the means to move out, go for it.

• uniquely-ironic said on Jun 26, 2008....

  You need to stop being responsible for her moods.  Right now you're tiptoeing around trying not to upset her, and she knows it.  It's her control mechanism.

   

  Move, and deal with the fallout.  It really can't be a lot worse than it is now.  You're not the problem, so you need to move on and force her to deal with her own issues.

• starchini said on Jun 26, 2008....

  Oh hinana, ur mom is a clean freak too?  Mine is beyond freakish, its down right nit picky...No one else can see the dirt but she can, so if we cant see it, how the hell are we supose to clean it right???  Oh hinana...I do have the means...But it would be a big step and for the wrong reason...

  Phil wants me to live with him...He asked ages ago, before my mom and i started our problems again, i told him no, it was too soon...Well now my mom is driving me crazy and im truly beginning to reconsider it...

  But i dont want the main reason for me to live with Phil is that i cant live with my mom...

  Its just sorta confusing, im having a moral battle with myself...I do want to live with Phil, but then i dont.  I do not want to live with my mom...

  Agh!  Its extremely pheasable for me to move out, i think everyone would be happy except my parents..my dad is neutral, he supportive in all my decisions..im sure hed rather me live at home but if i wanted to live with phil he would suport it.  My mom however would be very very pissed...and hurt...

  Unique u are always right in so many ways...She really should not be my problem...She is her own worst enemy and thinks everyone else but her is at fault for her moods...But i know that if shit ever hits the fan and i get in trouble my parents will always be there to bail me out, if i stay on there good side....

  I fuck up, im not perfect, ive fucked up before and they bailed me out...If i wasnt on good terms with them and if i fucked up and they didnt help me, i dont know what would happen to me...I just want to make sure that they are there for me incase i ever need em...

  And id like to think theyd be there for me no matter what...but id feel guilty somehow asking for help if i abandoned them too....

  like i say its a battle of my morals and im just gonna hold tight till i sort them out, i refuse to do wrong knowing i coulda done right......

  uhhh my mom just called im sooooooo tempted to give her the ass chewing she deserves and say "fuck off!  Im moving!"  or i could be really twisted and give her a taste of her own medicine and be all "well if u seem to think i cant be in ur home without destroying it, im sorry, i just wont live here any more!"....that would really fuck w her head like she does with mine...

• hinana said on Jun 26, 2008....

  nah my moms not a clean freak..just demandin..she has high standards.
  ca you not move somewhere besides with phil?

• cuppajava said on Jun 26, 2008....

  I had a load of very similar experience with my folks when i was growing up.I was always blamed for everything even when it wasnt my fault.
  You need to do something - whether it is trying to talk to her and reason with her - have someone else there if you have to,but you need to do something - otherwise it will end up driving you insane,and affect the way you handle relationships with other people.
  My advice would be for you to move out - even for a short while.Til your mom can realise exactly how much you do around the house.I dont think that she appreciate you very much at all.she may love you,but thats different.
  I dont like to talk about people like this,but your mom sounds like a control freak - wanting to have her own way all the time.
  Do you have any relatives who can talk to her, or a brother or sister that can talk to her,and try and talk some sense into her? It seems that she doesnt realise that all she is really doing is pushing you away - but she doesnt know it yet.
  Your mom will only realise what she has done if you go,cos she will ask you why,and then you can give her a whole bucketful of reasons.
  I hope at least some of this has made sense.I was in a similar position with my folks.But i made the decision to move out.The funny thing is - my Dad only really started treating my like a human being after i did.In spite of the fact that i put money in the house while I was there.
  Its a strange world we live in.
  Take Care.

• starchini said on Jun 27, 2008....

  Oh hinana, its pretty vital to my finances that i live for free...I have a huge loan im trying to pay off for my surgery and i have my student loans and my car insurance and phone and blah blah i cant afford rent or electricity......its mom, or Phil...

  U make sense cuppa, ive lived away from home and it was the best our rleationship was in years.  I havnt lived with my folks sense i was 17, im 21 now and i just moved back the end of january and it has torn us apart...So 3 years i was on my own but then i took my loan out and the payments are so high, i cant afford to keep my own home. So i moved back to the parents house.

Comment on "Psycho Mom.... : /"

Currently tagged	psycho mom parents tantrum temper (Click to add tags below)
Tag this post	(Separate tags using commas, for example: New York, dating, vegetarian)
Your comment