• crybabylu said on Jun 22, 2008....

  An interesting lesson in human behavior.

• wombat said on Jun 22, 2008....

  This reminded me of what happened to me and a girl once, over a guy of course....
   
  She said she was going to beat me up.  "You know I can." she said.
   
  I told her, "Yes, I know you can.  Fighting is trashy, and I don't know how to do it."

• wishyouwerehere said on Jun 22, 2008....

  When I was in high school, there was a bully who would always threaten to beat you up after school.  Then, she'd meet you outside with a big group of her friends and of course, they would gang up on you and kick your ass.  We were in the library once when she was teasing a friend of mine.  I told her to shut up, and she said, "After school, I am going to kick your ass."
   
  I was just so sick of being afraid of her.  No one expected it - I don't know what snapped inside of me, but I said, "I don't want to wait until after school, I want to kick your ass right now." 
   
  So, I did - right in the middle of the library.  No chance for her to call her pack of bullies, just one on one - and when it was finished, the assumption was that the bully had it coming.  My father was called in, but I never got punished. 
   
  Thanks to my brothers, I don't fight "like a girl."  When we were ten, my youngest brother told me "slapping is for sissies."  LOL.  Thank God, with the exception of my boxing class, I have never had to use those skills again!

• gingersoul said on Jun 22, 2008....

  LF.......its called engaging the opponent in a relation with you. Of any kind. Anything works beside begging the opponent to leave you alone. They expect you to beg and be scared or cry.
  Instead if you react in a different way you surprise them and make them pause in their action.
  Its like when you are kept prisoner. They say you have a bigger chance to make it alive if you are able to engage in an emotional connection with you the person who hold you prisoner.
  Eye contacts, asking question about their life, make them reasoning about the action they are going to have, talking about the consequences of their behavior.....
  
  One day this guy was slapping his girlfriend in the middle of the street...i was walking by and i couldn't let him do that . So i tapped him on the shoulder and told him "Why are you doing this to her"?
  He looked at me like i was an alien but he did stopped to slap her.
  He screamed at me to back off and mind my own business. Instead i kept talking to him, asking what did she do to him and why he had to beat her up instead of talking with her....stuff like this...
  I mean this guy was huge....he could have beat her AND me with one hand...lol..
  
  Well, he stopped shaking her by her arm and barking to her.......he kept talking trash to her but he wasn't slapping her anymore...
  
  I know........i bet that as soon as i turned the corner he went back to square one....but at least i made him stop  for a while... who knows?
   
  

• lfbno7 said on Jun 22, 2008....

  Cry, I think the lesson in behavior here is that a bully chooses someone he thinks will be terrified, because the bully isn't looking for a tough fight, he's looking for an easy win. When someone shows that he's not terrified, and that in fact he is confident in his own abilities, it indicates to the bully that he has chosen the wrong victim. That was not the storyline he was looking for.
  
  Wombat, you showed spirit in your response. What happened regarding the guy?
  
  Wish, I call them bully-cowards. They only want to fight if they have everything their way. This bully-coward only wanted to fight if she had the numbers on her side and couldn't possibly lose. That's why she's a bully-coward. Nice job.
  
  Ginger, that took a lot of guts to speak up to that lunatic. I'd want you on my side in a fight. And I agree that relating person to person with somebody might break through and connect to the human being inside.

• gingersoul said on Jun 22, 2008....

  LF......its a deal......call me anytime you need me......:-)

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