• crybabylu said on Jun 19, 2008....

  I think I am a nice person.  Not overly so, but nice. Sometimes, I get emotional and speak my mind at the time, but overall, I would say I am a nice person.  How about you?  Are you a nice person?

• papajack said on Jun 19, 2008....

  yes, i am.  i treat everyone the way i want to be treated.

• crybabylu said on Jun 19, 2008....

  I would have to 100% agree with you on that.  In the 12 yrs. that I have known you, I have seen you in all kinds of situations, and you are always nice.

• anonymous said on Jun 19, 2008....

  i can be when i want to be i wouldnt say in general i am, but yes i am a nice person some of the time.  i can be MEAN too! =xxoo

• firesky said on Jun 19, 2008....

  i like to think i am, but you'd have to ask my friends

• Skittles said on Jun 19, 2008....

  Hello crybabylu and papajack,
  

  Thanks for commenting on my post a little while back. I’m sorry I haven’t been doing much posting these days.
  

  It is indeed a pleasure to meet you and your husband. =) But, I think you both might have mistaken me for some one else. See, I’m quite new to soulcast and have only made a few comments on other peoples’ posts. I’ve only made one post so far and should be beating myself for not taking the time to post more and meet nice people on the blog. I must increase my efforts!
  

  Although I might not be the person who you are looking for, I still hope that we can be friends.
  

  Best wishes,
  

  Skittles

• starchini said on Jun 19, 2008....

  Im too nice....   : /  I feel far too much...  i hate it. 

• SeanRenaud said on Jun 19, 2008....

  Nope.  I'm capable of being nice but I'm not nice.

• theduke said on Jun 19, 2008....

  Yup!  Mostly!

• uniquely-ironic said on Jun 19, 2008....

  If your definition of nice is someone who avoids trouble, than I'm probably not a nice person.  I am, however, a good person.

• crybabylu said on Jun 19, 2008....

  I was thinking in the line of courtesy and treating people fairly, and talking in a civil tone, etc.

• Fallyn said on Jun 19, 2008....

  i'm a nice person....but i know i can be very cold and self absorbed sometimes too.

• Zaraida said on Jun 19, 2008....

  I think I am - mostly because I mind my own business and don't bother anybody.  I stay neutral in my kids' decisions and whenever they have an argument with their kids or spouses.  Also, I was raised to always say "please" and "thank you."

• uniquely-ironic said on Jun 19, 2008....

  I'm still not sure I fit the "nice" definition.  I do show courtesy to those who return it, am fair to a fault, but civil tones are a challenge.  Especially if provoked.

• crybabylu said on Jun 19, 2008....

  The reason for the post was that I hear a lot of people describe themselves, but they don't always describe themselves as being nice, and most people I meet I would definitely say are nice.  Especially SoulCasters.  There isn't a person who has posted a comment here yet, that I could say wasn't. Thanks for your comments.

• crybabylu said on Jun 19, 2008....

  ADJECTIVE: nice
  nic�er , nic�est
  1. Pleasing and agreeable in nature: had a nice time.
  2. Having a pleasant or attractive appearance: a nice dress; a nice face.
  3. Exhibiting courtesy and politeness: a nice gesture.
  4. Of good character and reputation; respectable.
  5. Showing or requiring great precision or sensitive discernment; subtle: a nice distinction; a nice sense of style.

• lionesss said on Jun 19, 2008....

  hello, yes i would say i am a kind person, a very understanding person, i have time for people,im caring,and sensitve also discrect,, hopefully pusscat wil tell you the same and that i give big hugs when people are sad,,i dont look mean at all and i definatly would say im nice natured,it takes alot for me to get upset but when i do then MIND OUT THE WAY hahahaha xx

• she_saw_stars said on Jun 19, 2008....

  I reckon I'm too nice for my own good. I'm incredibly forgiving which I think other people use to their advantage. I'm not very confrontational so I tend to let things slide instead of maybe speaking up for myself.

• fearing said on Jun 19, 2008....

  I try to be.

• JoyousLoving said on Jun 19, 2008....

  I am nice to a fault most of the time.  It takes a lot of stress and worry and anger for me to have a cross word with someone.  I think very carefully before I am rude or mean.

• queenparanoia said on Jun 19, 2008....

  sometimes.... =)

• crybabylu said on Jun 19, 2008....

  Joyous----(I'm jumping up and down with glee)  Girl how are ya?

  fearing----Of course, you are nice, always!

  queen------Now you know you are girl!  What is this sometimes stuff?  You are nice!

  she-saw-stars-----Now, that can be a problem, believe me, that can.   We will have to just teach you how to confront more, huh?.....haha, well I'm glad to know you are nice....

  Fallyn----I have Known you here now for 9 months, and you are always nice!

  Zaraida-----Sounds like you are a nice person, to me. Glad to meet you and thanks for stopping in and commenting on my blog.

  papajack & firesky-----You two are always nice!

  U-I----I think you are just right! Just right!

  Star-----You are good just like you are. 

  Anon----Thank you.

  Sean-----You can be nice.  Nice enough.  We like you the way you are.

  Skittles----Well, thank you for popping in and commenting on my blog, and I hope we become good friends.

• crybabylu said on Jun 19, 2008....

  Hope I didn't miss anyone.  If I did, give me a shout out, okay?

• botoni said on Jun 19, 2008....

  Over all I m a nice person.  That's my own opinion.  People frequently tell me I'm nice.  At the same time there area few who dont think so.  I like to believe those who think otherwise are just not fully aware of all the facts. 

• CreativeWoman said on Jun 19, 2008....

  I am nice. :-)  I probably describe myself as kind more often though.
  
  CW
  

• crybabylu said on Jun 19, 2008....

  CW----I totally agree with you, in fact, I can't think of a time that you haven't been.  Thank you for stopping by.

• crybabylu said on Jun 19, 2008....

  botoni----Of course you are nice!  Just ask everybody here at SC!...thanks!

• hottips4u said on Jun 19, 2008....

  Nice is simply a judgment type word.  Relative in application specifically by it's projector as to what is nice.
  
  When I first read the title I almost commented as many above has based upon how CBL suggested your forms of "nice" should reflect if not outwardly, at least contextually and I became more interested in other people's comments.  I really wanted to see if humans are that predictable as to suggestion.
  
  Am I a nice person ?  If I only shot you in the leg when I could have just as easily killed you, that might make me a nice person, at least to one person ; )
  
  Many serial killers are outwardly....nice people.  Your bad cop is a nice person, outwardly, the corrupt priest, politician or red cross volunteer...all nice people to other people.
  
  So, I say it's relative only to it's creator as to its application.
  
  I believe what is asked for here is a social view based upon the today and now of society.  What is the definition of nice if not unanswerable but limited to a single moment...i.e.:  nice...
  
  that playful slap on the ass was nice...until he continued slapping me on the ass over and over and over....
  
  nice.....
  
  she was nice enough until I asked her to please stop her kids from jumping from my counter tops to the kitchen table then.....  : /    (true story)....
  
  So to me, I look at a short leather skirt and think how nice leather feels against my skin and others would see it as ...well, I would bet even money nice would become ambiguous.
  
  So what does it matter what another views as nice or not if nice is simply a social judgment type of word ?  Another form of social segregation ?  They ain't nice people !  She wouldn't donate to our cause and that just wasn't being nice, you can see she can afford to.....mean selfish bitch !   Nice huh ?  ; )
  
  Perhaps the better question might have been.... Are you socially acceptable ?
  
  Everyone is nice.... at some point, if not to no body else but them selves.....surely the judge will understand, all I did was rape her, I didn't beat her or kill her, I was being nice, ya know ?  : / .....hehe
  
  Hottips4u
  
  jess
  
  
  
  
  

• crybabylu said on Jun 19, 2008....

  Jess---You make a good point as usual. I remember my brother telling me that we think this one and that one is Oh so nice, and all of the time they could be a murderer or a rapist, or wife beater, or child molester, etc....

  My point today was for the purpose of self-esteem.

  I have low self-esteem issues, and once in awhile, it makes me feel good to just have at least one thing good to say about myself. I thought it also could be helpful to others.

  Thanks for you input.  It is very insightful.

• Expendable said on Jun 19, 2008....

  I've tried; but no. I'm not a nice person. Sorry.

• mom said on Jun 19, 2008....

  NO, I am not......... I think kicking a person when they are down is the best time to do it.  If you let him back up, they might kick you, and that would hurt.

• hottips4u said on Jun 19, 2008....

  CBL :  I like you when you are just you and not being "nice", just you.
  
  Your self esteem is nothing but how nice you wish to appear to others and be socially acceptable as well.
  
  Somewhere along the line you dropped you off and your still hitchhiking on nice catching rides from one nice to another and well.....your own wheels are really nice ; )
  
  Personally I see you (payback for being nice....hehe)....
  
  As a woman who has had her more than fair share of nicks and dings in this America while chasing that American Dream.
  
  I see a woman finding a nice life along the way from time to time and then as all others in the world, you suffered " not so nice times " as well.
  
  Public perception of Dee mayhap didn't matter as much as she travel through life, it was a good enough life filled with dancing and fun and  nice friends.
  
  Then one day Dee woke up and she was a middle aged woman in an American Dream that seemed to have no intermissions.
  
  Something happened and made your life rushed and jittery, not so nice.  It worried you mostly because you couldn't control it, never nice.  You hid behind the nice smile long until your own immune system told on you.
  
  Your seasonal bronchial problems progressed to the next stage and your nerves already frayed became entangled as well with your own mortality ....
  
  Your nerves weakened your immune system and exacerbated your breathing problem and so the doctors gave ya meds to slow your nerves, aiding your breathing and in addition allowing the puffers to work so you can breath with more oxygen intake in long relaxed breath rather than sips of rapid air like a fish outta water.
  
  One day, you'll find yourself totally once again and then the only thing you'll need is the puffer and an allergy pill, and that will be nice as well.
  
  But until you get over how nice you for whatever reason feel you must be...nice and viewed as nice, the other meds will stay the course....
  
  You have to think of a time when ya were very much younger and nice was just being out side during a lazy summer day.  Maybe squishing cow dung between your toes in the barnyard with some friends doing the same wasn't a nice thing to metro kids.....but it felt good and it didn't matter if others felt it was a nice thing for a young lady to do......you did.
  
  Self esteem is controlled , like nice is, by others perceptions of you if you let um be.
  
  Simply closed your eyes and squish nicely between the toes once again......
  
  Now thats nice  : ).....
  
  And who cares ....?  A side from those in the barn yard squishing just like you.....it didn't matter then, and it still doesn't Dee.
  
  Thats a big pill to swallow, feel free to break it down if ya wish to.
  
  Jess
  

• crybabylu said on Jun 19, 2008....

  Well, I can't deny that sqishing those cowpies was felt awfully nice oozing thru my toes, but I don't think there is anything wrong with treating others nicely. I like being polite and courtesy, and I like it returned. I like doing nice things for others, if gives me a sense of fulfillment when I can do something nice for someone else.

  dee

• crybabylu said on Jun 19, 2008....

  What did a number on my health was being a life-long smoker, started when I was 11.  Working hard for a living and I mean hard manual labor, and having a drunken boyfriend for a time who liked to use me as a punching ball, and those broken bones healed but arthritis settled in to those joints a long time ago. I don't regret being nice. I just needed to use better judgement about my lifestyle choices earlier in my life.

• hottips4u said on Jun 19, 2008....

  I like being polite and courtesy, and I like it returned. I like doing nice things for others, if gives me a sense of fulfillment when I can do something nice for someone else.

  dee

  
  
  That's nice Dee.
  

• Kemo said on Jun 19, 2008....

  I'm a nice person at least that's what most people tell me....I try and treat people how I would like to be treated....
  www.writingcampus.com/blog/255
  www.bloggerparty.com/blog/kemo
  www.soulcast.com/Kemo

• anonymous said on Jun 20, 2008....

  Define "nice". Nice is a very subtle word, and can be misconstrued in many ways. Really, "nice" is a relative term.

  I'm "nice" to people in general, but my idea of "nice" could be way off from anyone elses.

  My "nice" is I don't show my real personality to a stranger, because they may not understand my sense of humour.

  I'd say I'm nice, as long as you can accept me as I am...I'm nice to friends, my loved ones and acquaintances.

  I suppose I'm nice to strangers, but really, its not me who decides if I'm nice, its the person on the recieving end of me that gets to pass that judgment using their own terms of engagement.

• hottips4u said on Jun 20, 2008....

  Convinced me three links...why thats 3x's I am more convinced than say I am w/ CBL  who listed no links ........why, you what I'd call a profession at being nice being all verified and all.
  
  Thats right nice now ain't it ?
  
  Yeppers.....that's nice.
  

• anonymous said on Jun 20, 2008....

  seven or eight is nice...  ten is Gud er...yesss.. Goo grrr...Gooooddddddd! hehe....  ; )
  
  Especially in yardage...football, ya know ?
  
  jeepers... : /
  
  
  jess
  

• crybabylu said on Jun 20, 2008....

  Here is a couple of links that support my idea, and I doing another link now, will be back with it....

  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ethic_of_reciprocity

  http://www.wikihow.com/Be_Nice

• crybabylu said on Jun 20, 2008....

  http://www.pamf.org/teen/parents/emotions/lifeskills/lifeskills3.html

• symonds said on Jun 20, 2008....

  No doubt about my pesonality.
  But sometimes i have doubt.
  --------------
  symonds
  Dual Diagnosis
  Dual Diagnosis

• crybabylu said on Jun 20, 2008....

  Thank you, symonds, and welcome to my blog.

  she_saw_stars----I wanted to welcome you to my blog too!

  and skittles-----I don't think you have been here before either.

  Anyone else new to my blog, welcome!

  dee

• phoeby said on Jun 20, 2008....

  ditto anonymous a few up above me who said 'define nice'. that's how i am too. i wouldn't say i was overly nice. i'm quite independent and untied to any allegiences which dictate that i should be this way or that. however, i try to be pleasant to people i meet socially and to friends. i'm not nice to immediate family bec i mostly despise them.
  
  
  phoeby

• destinydiva said on Jun 20, 2008....

  I'm orrible!!!   soulcast sucks!!!   and dee you smell!!!!!!  :-)  lol 
  
  he he only joking.. 
  
  I try to be nice..  sometimes I am too nice
  I am working on standing up for myself a little more and not being sooo nice...
  but I dont like not being nice! I feel awful!! 
  most of the time...I kinda automatically think what effect my actions /words  will have on people ...  and I know if something I do or dont do would upset someone..   I avoid that...  usually at a cost of some kind.   but I prefer that feeling to the feeling I get when I try and put myself first..
  
  does this make any sense?? :-) it made sense in my head :-) xx
   
   
  

• Mamie said on Jun 20, 2008....

  no. I am many things but nice isn't one. Mamie

• Expendable said on Jun 20, 2008....

  She did define "nice".

  1. Pleasing and agreeable in nature: had a nice time.
  2. Having a pleasant or attractive appearance: a nice dress; a nice face.
  3. Exhibiting courtesy and politeness: a nice gesture.
  4. Of good character and reputation; respectable.
  5. Showing or requiring great precision or sensitive discernment; subtle: a nice distinction; a nice sense of style.

  Cry, maybe you should edit your first post to add this for the ones that missed it.

• crybabylu said on Jun 20, 2008....

  Thanks, expendable. I took your advice and did just that.

   

• crybabylu said on Jun 20, 2008....

  Thanks, expendable. I took your advice and did just that.

  "Some people tell me they aren't very nice, so that got me to thinking about how people think of themselves,"

  The only purpose of this exercise is for each of us to think about what we think of ourselves.

  To me, I want to be nice. That is an important aspect of me.  It may not be what you want for you, that is okay.

• anonymous said on Jun 20, 2008....

  "Are You A Nice Person?"

  
  follow the directions of the post that is why directions are printed
  
  

• starchini said on Jun 20, 2008....

  this took an interesting turn...

• catch22 said on Jun 20, 2008....

  I'm as nice as Dolphines at play.I saw that you registered at "catch22".That was great!

• crybabylu said on Jun 20, 2008....

  starchini---thank you for your comment.

  catch22----I love Dolphines....Yes, I did register at catch22, and posted a blog entry.  thank you.

• vacantmind said on Jun 20, 2008....

  Yes, I would describe myself as nice. I don't intentionally set out to say or do things that would harm another person. I don't like to be treated that way so I just don't do it. The few times that I did hurt someone else...I felt miserable.

• MissMimi said on Jun 20, 2008....

  No today I am not nice.  I'm looking for an excuse to rip somebody a new one.  I just yelled at someone on the phone.  I don't want to be nice today. 

• woman said on Jun 20, 2008....

  I was raised to be a "nice" woman. "Nice" meaning, always putting your own needs last, always smiling and agreeing, always smoothing things over. It took me a lifetime to stop being a "nice" woman. Now I am a kind woman, a considerate woman, a compassionate woman, but I am a strong woman and I am my own woman. Understand?

• crybabylu said on Jun 20, 2008....

  woman----Yes, I understand.  That is the kind of woman I want to be. A kind one.  mentally change words to ....."Are you a "kind" person?"  Wish I would have thought of that instead....thanks....

  MissMimi-----oh oh.....hope the day gets better for you.

  vacantmind-----Thanks, hope you are doing well today.

• crybabylu said on Jun 20, 2008....

  Definition of Kindness Kindness
  The state or quality of being kind, in any of its various senses; manifestation of kind feeling or disposition beneficence.
  A kind act; an act of good will; as, to do a great kindness.
  
  Related Definitions:
  Act, An, Any, As, Being, Beneficence, Disposition, Do, Feeling, Good, Great, In, Kind, Kindness, Manifestation, Of, Or, Quality, State, The, To, Various, Will
  
  
  Kindness Quotations
  
  This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness.
  Dalai Lama
  
  For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.
  Audrey Hepburn
  
  Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.
  Mark Twain
  
  You cannot do a kindness too soon, for you never know how soon it will be too late.
  Ralph Waldo Emerson
  
  My religion is very simple. My religion is kindness.
  Dalai Lama

• hottips4u said on Jun 20, 2008....

  Imagine all that kindness and not a mention of nice anywhere.
  
  Who would..aa thunk it ?  : /
  
  jess.
  

• Fallyn said on Jun 20, 2008....

  i think kind would have been a very good one.
  
  i know many "nice" people who aren't "kind"...and truthfully...i konow some pretty grumpy ones that are when it matters.
  

• crybabylu said on Jun 20, 2008....

  Jess, I wish you would have sent me a more distinct signal on the above, just think of the responses I would have gotten if I would have said "kind" instead......here I am thinking....Duh?

  Fallyn-----now that the word kind has come into focus.....I realize that was the word I was looking for all along, and I can understand you wondering what I meant, and I totally agree with you, nice don't mean a thing!  especially when you hold it up to the word "kindness"!

  Thanks y'all

• hottips4u said on Jun 20, 2008....

  hehe....told me so @ SC.com

• crybabylu said on Jun 20, 2008....

  hahaha!

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