The following is an e-mail exchange following a first phone call where after quite a difficult day at work I unload on this poor unsuspecting soul whom I will refer to as "TJ". Let this be a lesson in what NOT to do in the dating arena.

After the phone conversation, we agreed to meet this past Saturday for a date. He never called to confirm. I sent him the first email to prompt a confirmation, but until today, no response. The following email chain says it all:

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To My Date:
Sent: Friday, June 6, 2008 1:13 AM

Looking forward to this weekend and meeting you. Let me know when you'd like to get together.

PT

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From My Date:
Received: Tuesday, June 10, 2008 9:11 PM

Sorry I was unable to get back to you sooner.  I had an unexpected emergency arise at work that kept me busy for the better part of the past three days.

Also, after digesting our phone conversation a bit more, I think that we might not be that compatible; I didn't feel much of a "spark" after talking on the phone. 

I wish you the best of luck and hope you find what you are looking for.

TJ

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To My Date:
Sent: Tuesday, June 10, 2008 10:42 PM

Thank you for your email, TJ.

Well, I'm not surprised at your feeling of a lack of spark. I did the unforgiveable in first communication dating etiquette and unloaded on you about something that I'm sure made me seem the drama queen. I'm not. I am, however, human. AS soon as I had disconnected the line, I knew I blew it and felt quite embarrassed.

If some guy had done that to me in our first phone conversation, I'm pretty sure I'd feel the same way you do. So from the bottom of my heart, my sincerest apologies for my totally inappropriate behavior.

Despite my mis-step, I had high hopes of meeting you. You seem a lovely and very intelligent man, but I totally understand. As I said, if someone had vented like that to me, I think I would have the same reaction.

And thank you for your honesty. I find that far more commendable than the man who slinks off without acknowledgment.

I do wish you the best in your search.

Sincerely,
PT

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Well, that concludes my dating discourse. Par for my course lately. Better luck next time, right? Hopefully others can avoid the same mistake. Hope this post helps.

PT