it's something i'm learning from my therapist...and found out my best friend has been doing since he was a child.
compartmentalizing.
the voices in your head.
no...not THOSE voices. :P
but getting to know the parts of you that need things.
i won't list all of them here....some of them are too personal.
but this started over the weekend......i finally "got it" and realized that these have always been there, i've just never been able to distinguish them from one another before.
it's all "me" all parts of the whole....so we're not talking multiple personality disorder here.
but well...there is Bob. he's in charge of all the.... oh......like...thermostats and stuff.
like hunger and cold and tired, and that stuff.
he's the one that's like okay.....falling asleep here.......lets go to bed.
some of the other ones like to ignore him.
there's the cool one.....detached, aloof, kinky as everything.
and the flirty attention loving one.
and the daydreamy one that gets distracted by everything and anything.
there's mother......the one that can't bear to be apart from her kids.....and can't help feeling nurturing towards even the worst among us.
there are more...that's just a little sampling......i just started finding them.
some are really personal....and some are just too embarrassing to admit to. :P
but it sure makes it a lot easier to make decisions and stuff when you can see that different parts of you need different things.
just wondering if anyone else knows about this or does this?
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crybabylu said on Jun 08, 2008....
I don't, fallyn, but I thought it a very interesting post, and how you wrote it, I could see clearly what you meant by it.
compartmentalizing, interesting.
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Fallyn said on Jun 08, 2008....
yeah.....just don't want anyone to think i'm insane though. :P -
crybabylu said on Jun 08, 2008....
no, i don't think that you are, i just wasn't that creative. I ask my therapist a lot of things, and he says people would be really surprised what really is insane. He describes it as never having much even a moment of "sanity."
I think it is exactly what you said it was...."compartmentalizing"
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petitepapillon said on Jun 08, 2008....
I definitely know what you mean, Fallyn. I have been doing this all my life. I don't really have names for them, just of what they are.I have one I call The Facade; she needs to keep up appearances, look "normal" and "put together" so others don't worry about me. Then I have one I called The Hurricane also known as Hurricane Iris (my real name); she's the protector, but is also very angry. And then I have The Daydreamer, kind of like yours, who does get distracted by lovely dreams of being a writer, editor, etc. And there are plenty more that have needs and wants and do things quite differently for me.So yeah, I know and do this. You're not insane and I'm glad that you learned this about yourself from your therapist. I did, too after years of thinking I was just one big angry girl...which I am, to an extent. But there's always more to a person than one layer. -
crybabylu said on Jun 08, 2008....
well silly me, now that you break it down like that, i know for sure what she is saying, and the answer is yes. I call mine various things, like sad face, lonely today, movies of things that make me feel bad about myself, the clown, .....good way to describe it, petite.....as layers.
I understood it one way as you spoke about it fallyn, but couldn't relate until she described it.....good post, fallyn.
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crybabylu said on Jun 08, 2008....
fallyn----I just now thought of something. I just now broke a promise to Papajack, and didn't realize it....I will pm you and tell you about it. okay? love, dee -
petitepapillon said on Jun 08, 2008....
Glad to be of some help, crybabylu. : )But yeah, there are definitely many layers to everyone and we call them many different things. -
Fallyn said on Jun 08, 2008....
they all seem to have their own names and personalities......really interesting...it really seems to help too.
i like knowing me/them like that......it makes me feel more whole somehow. more in control definitely.
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cntlvmenuf said on Jun 08, 2008....
I so know what you are talking about....its what got me through college ya know! Just look at the human body, we are not all one blop...but we are structurally made with different limbs and organs that need to be nsync for the "whole" to function. Some of these activities we see and feel, others take place behind the scenes.
Same thing with our "personalities." If there is no balance thats when we get in trouble.
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Fallyn said on Jun 08, 2008....
cnt.....yeah, i'm finding that...... it's just annoying when some of those "voices" get really loud and overbearing and all they want is something really trivial -
Mr_Box said on Jun 08, 2008....
There are definitely different sides to me. No one is completely one dimensional.I've never thought of it as being different compartments though. More like just different facets of my personality. And it depends on who I'm with and what I'm doing, which side I decide to bring out. Or which side needs to be brought out.It's not a conscious effort though. Not for me. It just happens. -
Fallyn said on Jun 08, 2008....
mr. box. *grin* ....tha'ts likely the difference between you and i.......
you are sane....and healthy.......and i am not.
you don't need to look at the different parts and figure out who needs what......it just works.
mine doesn't just work...... it's a big mess.
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cuppajava said on Jun 08, 2008....
Hi Fallyn,Interestingly put !! I thought that I was the only one that did this - and no,I'm not insane.The other thing that I do ,which is a bit of an irritation sometimes,is i make 'virtual' lists.i.e When i go shopping - you would never see me walk around with a list on a piece of paper - it would all be in my head.I dont know - is there a difference between thinking analytically and thinking laterally.Most people say think "outside the box" - I just throw the box away!!! -
Fallyn said on Jun 09, 2008....
*laughing*
i try to keep lists in my head...cause i HATE lists....but i always end up forgetting something.
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moyz said on Jun 09, 2008....
i'm like Mr. box...it depends who i'm with...and what mood i'm in....