• uniquely-ironic said on Jun 02, 2008....

  They're everywhere (including here).  The best you can do is to put some space between you and them.  There is no reasoning with them.
   

• starchini said on Jun 02, 2008....

  yup they suck, i havnt blocked them though...i guess im a glutton for punishment.  : >  Dont let em get ya down, they are pathetic.

• silverwhisper said on Jun 02, 2008....

  blondee, some people just don't have anything worth listening to. :>

• Expendable said on Jun 02, 2008....

  gotta watch out for cyberbullies.

• anonymous said on Jun 03, 2008....

  liars, both of you.

• silverwhisper said on Jun 03, 2008....

  o good, and now you can block anonymous idiots. :>
  
  ed

• hottips4u said on Jun 03, 2008....

  Not to worry, it gets better after the first time....hehe
  
  jessi.  ; )
  

• blondee0718 said on Jun 03, 2008....

  thanks guys...each day I learn something new...Ed, the block anonymous users option is great!

• MissMimi said on Jun 03, 2008....

  Try not to let the idiots get you down, blondee.  They're everywhere unfortunately.

• GrapeKoolaid said on Jun 04, 2008....

  I'm sorry to hear that you have encountered this problem... 
  
  The common advice is "do not feed the trolls". 
  
  The fact that they pick on people on an anonymous blog site reveals much more about their character than they think. 
  

• hottips4u said on Jun 04, 2008....

  Good point Grape.
  
  Scenario  :
  
  Prep spoiled  bully but popular rich kid is sitting in class and new kid walks in and joins the class.
  
  Rich brat decides he/she don't like how the new kid speaks or looks so he uses his influence of popularity and on others his/her bully tactics and the new kid is shunned at his/her direction to the rest of the class.
  
  Nothing was ever said by anyone to the new kid...just shunned.
  
  Was the new kid picked on ?
  
  By who ?
  
  ______________________
  
  Hottips4u
  
  
  

• GrapeKoolaid said on Jun 04, 2008....

  Thanks, Jessi.  It's been a while.  Nice to see you. 
  
  Well, to tell you the truth, I'm pretty familiar with the pressures of being a new kid.  It's something that I've experienced many times in my life.  A recurring theme, if you will. 
  
  Being ignored is actually worse than being picked on sometimes, you know?  If you're picked on, and an object of scorn, you exist, at least.  When you're ignored, it's as if you don't exist. 
  
  Like the saying goes, "negative attention is better than no attention". 
  

• hottips4u said on Jun 04, 2008....

  Grape : Ya didn't answer either question, ya just made judgmental comments Grape, or condoning perhaps the act of shunning as a matter of choice as the most demeaning in ur opinion.
  
  Being shunned as a child or an adult by immediate friends or close family may have an impact emotionally for the short term within a specified group. 
  
  However, its is hardly a death sentence as you describe it, making those doing the shunning more significant somehow than the one or ones being shunned.  Quite judgmental in fact, but I am not surprised, ya know ?
  
  When ya get the chance, shunning wasn't the question, can the act of shunning the new kid be considered in any form picking on him/her ? 
  
  And, who in the scenario above, if anyone, was picking on the new kid.
  
  Like the saying goes, "negative attention is better than no attention".
  
  Totally out of place Grape, there was no negative attention shown the new kid and the new kid displayed none.  So whats that all about ?...hehe 
  
  Feel free to weigh in one and all, blondie doesn't seem to mind the company. = )
  
  Hottips4u
  
  Jessi.
  
  
  
  
  

• Expendable said on Jun 04, 2008....

  Unfortunately, when you run into a negative person who insists on putting you and your friends down, the only thing you can do on here is to block and ignore them.
   
  This isn't shunning some new kid - this is dealing with someone who's harassing you. And it sounds like whoever it is has been doing it awhile.
   
   

• starchini said on Jun 05, 2008....

  no hottips, the kid wasnt being picked on.  grapes comment was not out of place he was just making a point that some would rather be picked on than ignored.  Being ignored isnt being picked on but its just as bad, makes u feel just as shitty. 

• hottips4u said on Jun 05, 2008....

  Being ignored isnit being picked on but its just as bad, makes u feel just as shitty.
  
  Isn't that the point to picking on someone ?  Make then feel shitty ?  Cause they are the same thing, at least to school officials and the school rule book.
  
  Shunning is in the rule book as a form of discrimination.  With all the education floating around in here and college what knots about...seems someone would recognized its used in psych 101 as a teaching tool in study as a form of control and brain washing by a single individual or a group.  It is what it is, its cult like...
  
  You don't know Grape as I do, nor half as long as I have dealt with his word chop shop....hehe    But if you say so....hehe  ; )
  
  Ex :  Maybe she will tell us who this long term abuser is ?  Blondee. Name them please
  
  Hottips4u
  
  Jessi.
  
  
  
  
  

• blondee0718 said on Jun 05, 2008....

  Hey Guys!  I really don't want to name them.  I'd rather not point fingers or stir up the pot.  I appreciate all of the comments and support from everyone.  I've blocked the user, and blocked anonymous comments, isn't that enough?  I really would rather just forget about them and enjoy the company of all of my SC friends.
   
  I honestly just think that user is an uneducated jackass who was just trying to get a rise out of me by telling me that my misery made him feel wonderful and that I should just expect to be treated like crap by guys.  I'm not upset or hurt by it, I just think he's a jerk who isn't able to wield any power in his everyday life and has turned to SC for his power trip.  I'm so over it. 
   
  Again, thanks to you all for the great advice...still learning about SC, so these tips and tricks really help!  Mwah!

• cuppajava said on Jun 11, 2008....

  Hi,
  Dont let the assholes get you down.They go to the extent of commenting under the name of 'anon' it really means that they have a big mouth for nothing and dont have the balls to tell anybody who they really ARE.
  I joined this site as a means of venting frustrations at the world and at myself - a so called diary or journal or life as i see it.Some people  may not like some of the things that i have to say.But this is a community and in one small way i think we are here to help each other..............

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