• JadeLondon said on Aug 11, 2006....

  So, if you don't mind me asking, are you still in your teens or early twenties? My husband is ten years older than me. I have always thought he was hot. I don't know if I would say that I am mainly attracted to older guys, because until I had met him, I dated men my age. Which is another thing: he doesn't look his age. He is four months from forty and gets carded for tobacco every now and again (last week, as a matter of fact). I don't know if dating an older guy will lessen the attraction or not. I mean, I don't think a blanket statement can be applied to this because all men are different.

• dubiousjayhawk said on Aug 11, 2006....

  Late teens... the hottest guy in his early twenties that I know is no where near as attractive to me as my neighbor!

• LoriaAmnekia said on Aug 11, 2006....

  I must admit that I have found a few older men attractive. Of course, not any I have met personally. Just TV and Movie stars. Who is it, Richard Gere, that was in Pretty Woman? Sean Connery in a couple of his older films (that accent, Oh my!) was...distinguished I guess is the word. William Peterson from CSI is very good looking. I don't know anything about being attracted to someone you know who's older than you, but being friends with them can be beneficial. They've got more experience and can be great people to get advice from when you need it.

• dubiousjayhawk said on Aug 11, 2006....

  This is letting you know a lot about my dork side, but all those men from stargate atlantis? to DIE for. The doctor, with a scottish accent? The arrogant scientist? The gorgeous hero? It's like they purposefully made it so girls would HAVE to say they watch the show... but its because of the gorgeous men! Here are their names in order... if you want to gawk at some cute guys: Paul McGillion, David Hewlett, Joe Flanigan. Oh dear... i've got myself all excited about that arrogant one again.. must.. stop...

• Zayda said on Aug 11, 2006....

  When I was 20, I dated a guy who was 33. For awhile, it was exciting because he seemed so worldy, compared to me.. He was an executive chef. But the excitement passed after awhile because he was far too controlling and needy. My husband is actually 5 years younger than I am.

• dubiousjayhawk said on Aug 12, 2006....

  Okay, controlling and needy, but was the sex better then with your previous partners? Not that it's all i'm looking for, but it would definitely be nice for a change. For me its just the whole package.. really attractive, mature, and good at sex.

• hotaka said on Aug 12, 2006....

  I'm 35. Does that... turn you on in any way? [nudge, nudge, wink, wink] I knew a girl who was 21 when she dated a 40 year-old married man. She said he was more caring than guys her age and not selfish. I figured that if he was able to bonk a hot 21 year-old then he must have been getting something out of it for himself. I am sure his wife would have looked at the situation differently.

• mrhowto said on Aug 12, 2006....

  This is quite common I think. Mainly because women tend to be a little more mature than men. Takes most men to about 25, before they start growing up, getting a responsible job and sorting their lives out. I personally prefer younger women. Older ones are a headfcuk lol. Am in my late 20's but still find women in their early twenties/late teens quite attractive. At that age, they haven't had their minds too messed up by men, and seem happier and more care free for it. No one likes a miserable, whingey old bat lol. ;)

• dubiousjayhawk said on Aug 12, 2006....

  Women are miserable, whingey old bats at their late twenties? Fuck. Now I have a whole new reason to have a peter pan complex... thanks....

• ayinkurie said on Aug 14, 2006....

  I was fallen for a much older guy before. Yeah, they look sexier. More gentle, loving and caring. The way they hold you, touch you. Ah..those days. If you can stand being pampered like a baby. No prob, he is what you're looking for. But if you don't like other people telling you what to do. So forget it.

• silverwhisper said on Aug 14, 2006....

  you know what's funny? i've always had a thing for older women. not to the extent that you're talking about, dubious, but 5-10 years. i do have to wonder if you aren't subconsciously looking for something else in these older men. ed

• dubiousjayhawk said on Aug 14, 2006....

  I think part of it is that I want to have kids at 26... lots of them. So I need a guy that's not too shabby on the money end, which means he needs to have a stable carreer... which probably means he needs to be older. But consciously... they're just so damn sexy.

• TheNakedProfessor said on Aug 16, 2006....

  ||{1}|| Having never had the older woman I once dreamed of, who am I to deny you your opportunity? - TheNakedProfessor nakedknightdream@yahoo.com

• hotaka said on Aug 18, 2006....

  I liked "Modesty" best. Tastefully down photos with excellent use of light and shadow to emphasize the male form. Better than Maplethorpe. That guy was a little too obvious.

• luvemolder said on Oct 22, 2007....

  I can totally relate.  This is for any girl out there who thinks that because she dates older men she's weird.  I have dated older men for as long as I can remember and it keeps "getting worse" according to my girlfriend as the years go by.  I started dating late and had my first boyfriend when I was 14, he was 17, then after that this is how it progressed:
  I was 15 he was 19 - 4 years
  I was 18 he was 24 - 6 years
  I was 19 he was 28 - 9 years
  I was 21 he was 50 - OMG! This was sooo wrong :)
  I was 23 he was 32 - 9 years
  I was 24 he was 43 - 19 years
  Now I am 25 and he's 47. - 21 years.
  I went thru the whole drama of psychoanalysing myself wondering if my lack of a close relationship with my dad had anything to do with me dating these men who were "old enough to be my father".   It bugged me for a while that I attracted and was attracted to men who were so much older.  As the years passed I really thought about it, I actually went to counseling to get my self "checked out" and I'm just fime.  I have more than enough male mentors and with 6 uncles I dare say I'm in need of a "daddy". 
  But I have had short stints with younger guys and frankly they annoy the crap out of me. There is so much drama and game playing I can't keep up most of the time.  I will say that there have been a few (less than 5) younger guys that I have met that have been super mature for their age and great with conversation but sexually so awkward. 
  The appeal of an older man (in good health) for me is that settledness, that confidence, that suave, he KNOWS how to treat a woman and isn't feeling around in the dark, he's usually got that old school chivalry and isn't as rough around the edges as some of the younger guys are, he'll talk to me about things that are important to me and doesn't freak out or look at me like I have a third eye at the mention of PMS or cramps.  Older men are usually more settled in their careers as well and have lived long enough to know how to balance their careers and their women - I feel like I'm the most important and precious person in the world and if he has 6 board meetings the next day I won't know about it unless I ask.    I've been fortunate to have been with men who have never been married or had any children (pets yes.) so my view of an older man relationship is somewhat rose colored. 
  In the long run I believe it's the quality of the relationship that matters, and what you really want.  If it's older you like embrace it!

• anonymous said on Oct 30, 2007....

  Hi peeps..im 22 and in love with a married man who hasnt told me his age yet..he asked me to guess and i said mid-40s? he goes...''hmmm not bad..but im actually older than that''...
  i know he wont leave his family for me..but i wouldnt let him do such a thing to his kids...he has a hard time with his wife naggin all the time. I just like to be there for him..i dont know why i like him the way i do...

• smooth1 said on Dec 07, 2007....

  If it is love, age means nothing...there are advantages and disadvantage in every stage of life...if it is love , it will not know the difference

• callingyou said on Dec 10, 2007....

  ahhh.  i have that disease too.  my english teacher last year... he's sooo hot, and every person i tell that tells me ,"but he has 2 kids"  or.. "he's like 30" uh... that doesn't make him unattractive..at all, it makes him harder to get, which adds to the sexiness..haha, by the way... i would probably never have the guts to even say anything but "hi mr. h" when he says my name in the halls :] 

• TheNakedProfessor said on Dec 11, 2007....

  Be sure and tell your older man.  But beware, you may find him despressingly mature and get nothing more than a patronizing pat on the head. Still, he'll be flattered and would probably love to have you if life wasn't so complicated. He also might reject you for your own good - unrequited love is a pain. Actually, I find myself getting tremendous crushes on certain woemen regardless of age, but nowadays I'm feeling a little silly about it if she's 20 years younger than me. Funny how you start psychoanalyzing once a relationship is "out of the norm" ---- but hey, who the hell is "normal?"

   

• anonymous said on Apr 01, 2009....

  Older by twenty years or ballpark is a little ridiculous.  I know some say "age is just a number" and all of that crap.  Age is just a number but it doesn't keep the years from coming or reality from being reality.  Younger women may feel more appreciated by an older man BECAUSE THEY ARE. The guy is damn grateful to be getting a young piece of ass.   I see the reasons the older man would love it.  Women wake up!  A sick older man is not happiness.  The wrinkled body is not worth it.  Grow old WITH someone.

• TheNakedProfessor said on Apr 03, 2009....

   

  Inexperienced dude: The body is the last thing to wrinkle. I know a 58-year old woman with a better shape (naked) that most women half her age. I understand your lack of perspective. Until just this last decade, I, too, had misconceptions about the sheer number of hot babes over 40. I was hopelessly deluded into thinking that they were all flabby and disgusting like my Aunt Grace.

  Thank Gob for the Internet.

   

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