My Wife and I live a secret life outside "normalville" (If you want to call it that). our desires of D/S and B&D/S&M are something that is secret to her and I. We love our play times together, but our children know nothing of this and probably may never will. What I'm curious about is are there other couples with similar situations and how do you manage daily life, and integrate your "secret" life into "normal" world life?
FreyasMaster posted on May 19, 2008
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Ownedgalbabs said on May 19, 2008....
Hi There! I suppose one might best sum it all up as walking a "tightrope" lol . Trying to conceal this lifestyle from our children is no easy task; especially as they grow older and begin to understand things more readily. And naturally, before they are adults and could perhaps understand our choices.
Both Sir and I personally feel that years from now, when she is all grown and out of the house, perhaps with her own family started then, the truth can be set free.
For now we are careful to restrict our playtime to when she is out of the house. Perhaps on sleepovers at friends or visiting relatives. Our implements are locked and secured in a trunk with the exception of our soon to be removed St Andrews Cross-which at age 10, she still thinks is merely a piece of "out their art work" *winks but know full well that the time draws near when that little piece must go.
We are careful to not use certain names when she is home and basically conduct ourselves as normally as possible in front of her. Though the occassional slip of me calling Sir, Daddy is usually overlooked as I will often say things to her like, "go ask daddy or go call daddy for dinner" and not call Sir by His actual name.
Great post!
babs
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FreyasMaster said on May 19, 2008....
Thanks for the great reply, thats pretty much sums up my Relationship with freya and our kids. Our play times are usually when the kids spend the night at grandmas, or Late, Late at night, and quietly of course. During the day I may ask her to wear something special under her clothing, or the brief exchanges of play we might have in the moments when the kids are busy :D Over all its pretty good. One thing we wanted to do is have a dungeon and disguise it somehow. Make an office in the garage, that has really good support beams for example :D. -
his-slut said on Jun 11, 2008....
I recently wrote a post on this subject too. A couple things you can do discreetly are 1. sending text messages to each others cell phones ( talk about what you'd like to do to her next time you are alone, give her something to do ie. masturbate and send you a pic, Master sends me two words "pussy pic", have her bind her tits and send you a pic, you get the idea). 2. have her wear a cat collar with a bell when she is out of the house alone ( I was at the grocery store yesterday with mine on and two women noticed it while I was at the deli counter, I saw them looking and heard the word fetish, my face burned immediaely, but God was it hot). 3. Have her go withou panties whenever she is home alone. 4. buy a quiet clit vibe and periodically have her wear it and turn it on/off, faster/slower according to your texts. 5. tell her to flash a certain number of people while she is out driving alone. 6 have her wear a wrist collar,again with a bell, everytime the belljingles she will be reminded of her submissiveness, thiscan appear as normal jewelry to you kids ( Mommy's special bracelet). Ideas are as endless as your imagination and interest. Obviously I enjoy a bit of humiliation.