• pickersplock said on May 18, 2008....

  I'm sorry Queenie.
  It's not really your fault or your sister's.
  Sometimes people just get along better, when they don't live together.

• queenparanoia said on May 18, 2008....

  pickers: i really want to move out. but financially i'm not ready yet... but i hope this year i can though.... maybe it will be better if i live on my own...

• kruuyai said on May 18, 2008....

  queenie:  Just remember when you're feeling like this... that there have been other times when you've felt the same way, and things have always gotten better eventually.  Things always change.  So hang in there.  Pickers is right.. sometimes people do get along better when they don't live together.  I know your sister is important to you, and i think it's really great that you took the bull by the horns and talked to her directly.  You showed your own maturity by being willing to apologize, and I'm sure she'll recognize that eventually when she gets over her hurt feelings.  {{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

• queenparanoia said on May 18, 2008....

  kruu: well i hope things will get better after i come back. you know youre right thing get better in the end.... i hope so kruu... =)

• pickersplock said on May 18, 2008....

  Keep working toward that goal Queenie! 
  I know you'll make it happen! :)

• queenparanoia said on May 18, 2008....

  pickers: i hope so pickers.... =) thanks for the encouragement...

• Fallyn said on May 18, 2008....

  *HUGE hugs* family can be so painful sometimes.
  
  

• queenparanoia said on May 18, 2008....

  fallyn: yes they are...

• crybabylu said on May 18, 2008....

  I hated it when I got the cold treatment when I was growing up, so I know a little about what you mean.  It has taken me my whole life to realize, you can't control what other people do.

  Do you know what I used to do?  This may make you laugh, but I used to always have a coloring book around, and I would go to my room and color in my coloring book.

  I have done that as an adult too!  In fact, I think I have sat down at my kitchen table in the past six months and dug out my colors and colored.

  I paint once in awhile, when I get the time.  The same affect.  I feel calm when I am painting, or even drawing.

• polarheart said on May 18, 2008....

  (((((((((((((Big Hug 'Lil Sister)))))))))))))))  Times like this are never easy, but it will blow over I am sure.
   
  Love Polar

• destinydiva said on May 18, 2008....

  (((((((((((((((bighugs))))))))))  wish I knew how to make you feel better...  my only experience of sibling rivalry is my two girls continuosly fight and fall out!!  but I do encourage them to make up and its good that you took that step... I hope your both friends again soon xxxx

• BreatheUnderwater said on May 18, 2008....

  sometimes when we don't understand each other, we might have to realize...we just don't understand each other....maybe your sister feels a bit forced by the situation at home to take sides, or maybe she just want things to go back as they were, that's usually the easiest answer to a problem..i don't know..it's hard to see in someone else's mind..i just don't think you should blame it all on yourself..i hope it gets better.. 

• RollingC said on May 18, 2008....

  Fighting with your siblings is common in the growing years and sometimes it escalates into complete seperation....for life....just be aware of that and don't let it get to that point.
  I've had a fight with my siblings...my brother and my sister....this is several years ago and we had it to such a degree that we wound up in court.  Lawyers and everything. 
  Nobody won...everybody lost. 
  I have lost my older brother and younger sister forever.
  My sister made a couple of half-hearted attempts....I say half-hearted because she couldn't do it personally, much less face to face.
  I declined.  I suffered too much during the process and even though I wish them well I don't want to see them again unless I absolutely have to.  It brings back too many bad memories.
   
  Don't let this happen to you. 
   
  ( HUGS )
   
  Rc

• CreativeWoman said on May 18, 2008....

  Sometimes it helps just to let things cool off a bit.  Then when you both aren't angry, you can try to talk nicely again.  Sometimes you can't make the other person see your side and why you feel you were right no matter how hard you try.  At those times maybe you can just agree to disagree.
  
  Hang in there, queen.  Keep your eye on the future.  You have great potential.  :-)
  
  CW
  

• Lucytorial said on May 18, 2008....

  Bloody sisters... I tell ya they can be stubborn old nags! lol everyone has said everything really, hang in there, her hurt will ease then she'll forget or maybe she will come to you.
  
  The really NICE thing about having a sister is that no matter what, eventually they become your sister again... takes time maybe a slap on the arm in jest and a hug, maybe a few harsh words, maybe just a token that you aren't really hurt that it was just a silly fight.
  
  just wait a little.
  

• silverwhisper said on May 18, 2008....

  sis, how about instead of waiting for people to ask you a question you want to answer, you just tell them what's on your mind?
  
  ed

• queenparanoia said on May 18, 2008....

  crybabylu: dee dont worry i undestand when you color... i do that but i do it with scrapbooking... cold treatment are kinda harsh dont you think?
   
  polarkins: i hope so big sis... it's har being the big sister....
   
  destiny: i hope so to destiny... =)
   
  breatheunderwater: my head hurts just trying to figure out what she wants. but i know she's smart enough to realize it's not entirely my fault. a big part is my fault but she has some to contribute too.
   
  rolllingC; woah.... it ended up in court??? i hope it wont happen to me... yes it's hard to reach out especially to someone you love..... i hope it goes weel to you too rolling c...
   
  creativewoman: i hope so to cw... this is really hard for me. i'm going to my friends house later and stay there for a couple of days. maybe things will cool off...
   
  lucy: she will always be my sister. maybe after i come back things will be better...
   
  silver: dude i just said it to her...
   
   

• hotaka said on May 18, 2008....

  My mom and my sister always fought when they were together in the same room for more than an hour whenever I was around. I don't think they have as much trouble to be together when I am not around. They love each other but there is a spark that ignites a furious fire in my mother that gets her attacking my sister. Maybe you and your sister have some of the same. It sounds like you took the right step first with the peace offering but I think saying she was behaving imature and she was hurting herself doesn't sound good when it follows a peace offering. The gift should come with an apology and an invitation to talk. That's all. Oh, and maybe an "I love you, sis." After that it is up to her to make the next move. Realtionship troubles can send you banging your head through a wall and make you think of terrible things but don't let it control you. Take charge yourself and be teh one in control.
  And I think you have some puppies to help your loving feelings sprout again.
  

• silverwhisper said on May 19, 2008....

  you did? how'd it go?
  
  ed

• queenparanoia said on May 19, 2008....

  hotaka: i'm on my friend's house right now and her company makes me feel better. things like this get's better if i have some friends around to talk to. i dont blame my sister how she acted that way. she is just 16 after all. i guess she's in the emo stage. youre right i have to control my emotions...
  
  silver: she said thank you when i gave her the gift. but she still ignores me.... =) 

• tonysoprano said on May 19, 2008....

  Love rules in family.Drop the negative and move on!

• queenparanoia said on May 19, 2008....

  tonysoprano: i'm trying... it's hard but i'm trying...

• dazed_and_confused said on May 20, 2008....

  now I know what you mean by learning the same lesson that I've learned.
  
  Well, hopefully you and your sister will patch things up eventually, You know what they say, blood is thicker than water. :> LOL.
  
  Cheer up sis!
  
  J
  

• queenparanoia said on May 20, 2008....

  dazed: i hope so dazed.... sana nga.... =)

• boyette said on May 23, 2008....

  Members of the family living together in one roof could not avoid trouble. That is a very common situation. All are human beings with individual differences. Clashes in terms of interest, values, moods and the like are prevalent. So, better see a psychotherapist for processing of feelings, guidance and recommendations.

• queenparanoia said on May 23, 2008....

  boyette: i dont think i coud afford that.

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