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Just when I thought my life couldn't suck more in the me vs ex arena the IRS steps in to help him out.
 
Ever since I heard about the economic stimulus checks I've been hopeful that I could even up a few bills and do some work on my car without too much pain financially.  I realized that since he has them more months of the year that I could not claim the kids, but I certainly could claim myself.
 
I've resigned myself to the fact that my tax refunds were going to be MIA for another year as well.  Every year I am due a refund and every year my ex gets it to pay down that totally bogus child support bill that he conned a judge into saddling me with. 
 
When I got home last night there was an envelope from the IRS.  I dared to be a little excited.  I opened it up expecting that I'd have a couple of nickels to rub together.  Perhaps even treat myself to a little something nice.
 
Nope!!
 
Apparently the only stimulus I'm getting is the kind that makes me see red.  They're sending my ex the check that was due to me.  That's all that man needs is more stimulus in his pocket!
 
I'm bitter.  I'm angry.  I may just give up and go live in a box and start adopting too many cats.  I'm too tired to go on but I don't have any safe place to rest either.  I have absolutely no motivation to try to get ahead since every nickel I earn gets stolen from me and sent to him so he can travel the world and spend my money frivolously.
 
 
 


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  • Zayda said on May 15, 2008....
    U-I: Is there any way at all you can go back to court and get the child support re-evaluated? Is there any way to show that he's spending your money not on child support but on travels around the world?
  • uniquely-ironic said on May 15, 2008....
    Zayda - I wish!  His parents set up a trust in Hawaii that he puts all his business income into.  Since it is a seperate legal entity he can claim near zero income.  If I go to court it will look like I'm the one making money hand over fist.  He will also claim his trips are work related and not pleasure so I have little to gain going back to court.  Basically I'm hosed until the kids are 18.
  • evil_twin said on May 15, 2008....
    That sucks so bad :-( I wish there was something I could tell you that would make this better. But I really think the title of this should be 'fucking ex husband' instead. Because it's his damn fault you didn't get your money! My blood would be boiling if this were me. I feel really bad for you.

    -Kyle
  • uniquely-ironic said on May 15, 2008....
    ET - I keep going from so pissed off my face is red to wanting to cry.  I just can't seem to catch a break.
  • tizzygirl said on May 15, 2008....
    I don't have an evil ex-husband but I do feel your pain....it seems every time I get an extra amount of money some unforseen bill pops up to snatch it away.  So I never get caught up and god forbid I get ahead! :(  Stupid stupid stupid.  I'll join you in the red-faced anger club!
  • uniquely-ironic said on May 15, 2008....
    tizzy - at least no one's stealing money from you.
  • Zayda said on May 15, 2008....
    Uniquely: GRRRR.... That's just so wrong on so many levels. Wow, talking about exploiting a loop-hole to fuck you over. I'm so sorry, hun. And I wish there was something I could say that would make things better. BTW, I agree with e_t about the title of this post.
  • diabolicdame said on May 15, 2008....
    That is so unfair!! I feel really bad for you.. that just sucks!
  • quietone said on May 15, 2008....
    U.I.  I agree that just down right sucks.  I don't blame yo for feeling like you do and seeing red too. 
  • uniquely-ironic said on May 15, 2008....
    Zayda - I've already spent too much energy hating my ex.  I'm more inclined to fight the system so that someone else doesn't get screwed over.  But maybe not today since I'm too pissed off to do it properly.
     
    DD - It's unfair on multiple levels.  It does suck mightily!
  • dailyachesandpains said on May 15, 2008....
    I'm ready to start looking up cases for you!!!! 
    He is just SO wrong on so many levels. I'm totally with everyone else on this.  I'd bring the Ex-inlaws into court if I had to. 
    {{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}
    Daily
  • Lucytorial said on May 15, 2008....
    What a fucker! sorry this is wrong on more than one level... you ex obviously doesn't give a flying rats arss about you then, cunt! the system seems to be letting too many people down... man I can understand how angry you would be... I'd be freaking furious... shit there has to be a way... somewhere somehow... if I were in the US I'd be looking up cases too daily... there must be a precedent somewhere that can help Unique.
  • uniquely-ironic said on May 15, 2008....
    daily - If only I could hire a P.I. and attorney to go sick 'em I surely would.  If there is such a thing as karma that man will die a long painful death.
     
    Lucy - furious would only begin to describe it.  We're talking 5 years of this shit.  It's gotten to the point where I no longer have the energy to work up a good hatred, so instead I take a head long dive into depression.
  • Lucytorial said on May 15, 2008....
    Nooo thats not the way Unique... depression won't help you deal with this.. I understand though but man, like the old saying goes don't get mad get EVEN.

    Karma.... hurumph! that man needs a lot more than Karma, I can think of a few things right now....
  • uniquely-ironic said on May 15, 2008....
    Lucy - I spent 2-3 years banging my head against the legal system hoping to squeeze an ounce of justice out of it.  Right now it's a waiting game.  Potentially he can manipulate it even more lopsided, so I'm biding my time until I have a bullet proof case.  Then I'm going to nail his sorry ass!
  • dailyachesandpains said on May 15, 2008....
    I'm all about setting up a paypal donation account to go get his ass for you!
  • Lucytorial said on May 15, 2008....
    Hey freaking great idea, I'd help out.
  • uniquely-ironic said on May 15, 2008....
    daily and Lucy - how incredibly sweet!!  However, there is a principal involved here and I intend to eventually beat this asshole all by myself.  It's a point of pride that I do it by myself.
  • Lucytorial said on May 15, 2008....
    awww now you're ruining our fun too! lol just kidding, I can understand that, revenge is best served col, ice cold and with a hint of sarcasm (pfftt) and a really big knife!

    Still I'd help if I could.
  • uniquely-ironic said on May 15, 2008....
    Lucy - tell ya what.  I'll take pictures of his miserable whiny face when I'm done destroying his life.
  • skald said on May 15, 2008....
    I can see why you are angry. This is sooo unfair. 
  • uniquely-ironic said on May 15, 2008....
    skald - yes it is.  someday I hope to repay him the favor.
  • TinSoldier said on May 15, 2008....
    I'm really sorry to hear about that, u-i. Man, I really hate alimony/child support politics. There are horror stories on both sides.

    This certainly seems like injustice to me, though. Hang in there.
  • secretlife said on May 15, 2008....
    u-i.......you need to go back to court.
  • silentmysts said on May 15, 2008....
    I am so sorry that your check was taken out.  It is unfair.   Just do right thing to get your money back like secretlife says.  Just focus positive things. If you do, you will attracts positive things.  Try go to website called "the secret" or pick up free e-book title "science of getting rich."  I hope this one is helpful. Also, you may go to a blog called Wishes Unlimited (http://wishesunlimited.blogspot.com) to learn new positive things every few days.
  • RollingC said on May 15, 2008....
    I think that if he's funneling money into some private account that's in someone elses name or whatever, there's still a paper trail that can be looked up and if you have some way to do that then take it to court and prove that he's milking you for the hell of it.
    Sorry to hear about your problems U-I.
    :^(
    Rc.
  • kelly said on May 15, 2008....
    That completely sucks.  I have a friend who went through a very similar experience.  The family court system is completely jacked up.
  • Me-Myself&I said on May 16, 2008....
    man, that's bad news! i'm sorry, what can i say....the irs and your ex sucks. Just down right wrong! I hope something will come along to make it right. Try to have a good day. Take care ~seeya
  • husbandhater said on May 16, 2008....
    Sorry Unique. This must be how my exhusband feels when I just  asked for a cost of living increase for the 1st time effective this month. But the case is 10yrs old and I've never asked plus I don't miss use the kids money. I wish there was a better way to do this for all involved. Maybe we will evolve soon hopefully.
  • uniquely-ironic said on May 16, 2008....
    TS - I do realize I'm not the only one with horror stories about this stuff, and yes, this is one of those bizarre injustices.
     
    SL - I spent 2-3 years in court.  I'm waiting for a reason to have the venue changed so that I can get a fair hearing.  The Napa courts didn't even follow up on my ex perjuring himself on the witness stand, so I don't see any good coming of going back to court there.
     
    silent - I do believe in trying to stay positive.  It just sucks some times.
     
    rollingC - it's in a trust in the state of Hawaii.  The trust is a corporation, which is a legal entity, so in order to get records I'd have to get a judge to sign subpeonas for the records after I somehow figure out the bank that holds them.  My ex's parents are part of the trust and by now they've I'm sure perfected fabricating a story (since I know it's not the truth) that would make it plausible that my ex really does owe them money.
     
    kelly - I agree.  It's built to reward people with lots of money or lots of time to waste.  It also rewards liars.
     
    MM&I - something coming along would be very welcome about now.
     
    HH - I'd have less of a problem with this if I thought the kids really did get anything out of this, but every time I see them they're in rags and he never takes them to the doctor or dentist.  (I end up doing it on weekends or vacations)
  • husbandhater said on May 16, 2008....
    U.I how is it that he sends the kids bummy to you and some jackoff assho@# Judge is o.k. with this? And the no doctor thing is called Neglect. Even though I am a parent on the receiving side I can agree with you and Kelly that the court system SUCKS! They have my 9yrold classified as a girl so when I went to fix my son's birthcertificate with the messed up filiation order they said NO and that this a binding legal document that says my son is a daughter. I tried last month after 10yrs to fix it and the judge REFUSED!
  • Shameus_O'Patrick said on May 16, 2008....
    From a mans point of view...   It sucks...  Maybe...   Depeding on the facts.

    You didn't say how much YOU make or made in comparison to him -  Or what kind of lifestyle he, you and your dependant's shared before the split.  

    Concerning his trust:  It's his and it can't be touched or considered as income until he spends it.  

    SO Not counting his trust.   Most states and family court judges allow for the time each Parent has physical posession, not custody, of  the dependants as the time/s the other parent receive support, so when you have them it's possible that you will not be required to pay "support".  

     As for the trust and him putting money into it:  The only money he can legally put into it and not pay taxes has to be from his family estate holding/s specifically set out and stated as being for that purpose.   If your facts are correct in your claim, a quick look at the accounting of the "Trust" should show any discrepancies of monies being contributed and used as well as interest earned, etc..   The named Executors of the trust would be the ones to see about looking at the Trust account accounting.  

    I don't know what the laws are in the state you were treated to equality in, like so many of us men have been and are  continuing to be by being ordered to pay your X spouse whatever term they choose to call it now, but I think your now experiencing how good it is to have the vote which in turn you used to gain what you deemed equality which is why your paying out the ass now.    

    Your best course of action (From experience.) is to keep paying and try to get caught up with your debts.   HOPE like hell your dependents don't decide to go to college or your going to be stuck with the support payments until they are finished with school.

    There is another way, but that would require you treat your X civilly so he will "forgive" your debt to your dependant's, which he has control of, with the court/s.   And he can submit to the court/s the fact that he has agreed with you on the lesser amount, if any, you have paid and it's not caused any hardship to his and your dependants...   But you'll probably have to do that with him each and every year.   

    It's a thought.

    Other than that,  I hope you enjoy being treated equally for a change.  

    S.O.  
  • uniquely-ironic said on May 16, 2008....
    HH - That's just screwed about them refusing to fix the gender thing for your son.  I think my ex gets away with entirely too much, but until I can get a change of venue it's pointless to go back to court.
     
    S.O. - I'm a secretary and he's self employed.  Before we split my income was (to quote him) "nice, but not neccesary".  The last joint bank accounts I was able to pull 5 years ago had him grossing 1/2 million in sales for his business.  Add to this that before the divorce was final he gave away 1/2 a house.  He received the business in the divorce because he claimed it was insolvent and I, not having any records, did not want to pay an attorney $600/hr to argue that claim.
     
    The trust is controlled by his family members who use the money put into the trust to pay his bills.  Before the divorce was final, but after we seperated, he "sold" the business to the trust.  So, effectively, he is unemployed.  The officers of the trust are the family member.
     
    As for asking him to "forgive" the past child support that the IRS keeps paying with my tax refunds, etc. he has told me "I don't have any control over that."  He claims he has asked them to clear that, but they (who they is is unclear) insist that it be paid.  While clearly he does not need it, this is his way of continuing to screw with my life.
     
    Your snotty comments about equal rights are unwelcome and I'm sure designed to get a dig in at me.  Thank you so much for reminding me why I hate some men.
  • silverwhisper said on May 18, 2008....
    u-i, every now & again, reading stories about your ex make me wanna break stuff. i trust i needn't elaborate? i'm sorry that our idiot government is so incompetent that they can't figure out where to frigging send your check.

    incidentally, i've long suspected that "shameus" is an alt. there's only a handful of true misogynists and he sounds like one i've encountered previously.

    ed
  • uniquely-ironic said on May 18, 2008....
    SW - I wanna break stuff too when I'm dealing with this stuff.  Should have a regular plate smashing party.  As for Shamus, he's not what I'd call anything to get excited over.

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