• starchini said on May 14, 2008....

  aww u poor thing.  THat really sucks when people have good intentions and no tact to go along with them and end up only hurting ur feelings.  Men just dont understand how a piece of their mind is not as helpful as a piece of their heart.  I hope this all gets better soon.  Keep ur chin up.  Writing a book is amazing!  Grammatical errors are insignificant...didnt it get edited by someone else before it was published anyways?  Doesnt ur publishing house do that for you?  Or was this a do it urselfer...Not everyone who reads it will be an english major ur husband and his dad are the minority and 99% of the public would never notice a few errors like this. 

• starlightstarbright said on May 14, 2008....

  Being a first time novelist, I went through a self publisher for my book.  I did all the leg work myself (promotion, editing, etc).  Granted I can't catch everything, but I did my best, and for me that is enough. 
   
  As for critiques from his father, I'm going to tell him point blank that if this continues, it's going to cause hard feelings for me against his father.  I did everything myself, and I think that's something to be proud of, not to sound conceited or self-indulgent. 
   
  But no, it was not published by Bantam or Scholastic. 

• uniquely-ironic said on May 14, 2008....

  Is your husband jealous?  It kinda sounds like he never expected this to get so far and now that it has he's got a case of sour grapes. 
   
  Next time he pulls another bone headed statement out of his thoughtless head you might point out to him that he had an opportunity to help you before it was published, so his thoughts on it now are unwelcome.
   
  If you want to get a Masters go for it, but ultimately it's your decision, not his.

• silverwhisper said on May 14, 2008....

  starlight, i like to think that i'm a talented writer. my fiction's been posted on SC more than a few times. and you know, my wife doesn't like to read my writing. that's for a number of reasons, but that doesn't completely offset the fact that i really want her opinion on what i've written, so i can only imagine how mr starlight's comments must've cut you to the quick.
  
  [hug]
  
  ed

• starlightstarbright said on May 15, 2008....

  Since I posted this blog posting, my husband read some more of my book, and he said something to ease my heart.  He said that the publisher, he found, (as I did, too), had really messed up my manuscript.  They combined separate paragraphs into huge paragraphs and even spelled some characters' names incorrectly.  Quite an insult as the book was two years in the making.  I had the manuscript pristine and perfect, and my husband did say that the publisher had messed it up big time.  They inserted superfluous words, etc, etc. 
   
  So I feel better.  I know now that it was the publisher's mistake and not mine.  I guess that's what I get for using a self-publisher.
   
  Oh, and by the way, if you ever publish a book, don't go with authorhouse.
   
   

• Alyss said on May 15, 2008....

  {hugs} for you starlight. I am sorry that you felt this way and am glad to read that your feelings have been eased since you wrote this post.

• Lucytorial said on May 15, 2008....

  man thats got to smart... my hubby does the same to me I now don't let him read anything really!
  
  Honesty is a good thing, just don't take it personally even though its your husband I think he wants the best for you.
  

• pusscat said on May 21, 2008....

  unfortunately, so many men (and the occasional woman) do suffer from that terrible affliction of 'foot in mouth' syndrome.  Looks like he kinda had your interests at heart but his big size 12 shoe demolished the tact that he could have used :-)
   
  I'm glad you're feeling a little better about things now but, as for the publisher, when you feel ready, I'd really take them to task over what they've done to your manuscript.  I bet you paid them good honest money for a job poorly done!  Tell them that you will not be recommending them to any of your friends and that you know a few good writers that you could have put their way.
   
  Take care starlight

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