when i think of it, i had some strange luck when i had met my girlfriend. i had gone out on a couple of dates with this one girl, who although she was nice person, was a bit unbalanced - she used to get hysterical about everything and anything for no reason. i remember this crazy girl getting upset because she had made a mistake with the customer service department of the book club she was in. she was also a horrible kiseer, and our three dates were dull: i literally had one date in which i was pushing her off to the train station back to her dorm out in long island. i had also had a crush on this woman, j for a long time. and like my current girlfriend both of these women have this certain something about them that's irresistible - their smile and their laughter can light up a room, and everyone flocks towards them like a beacon on a lonely sea. however, this woman, j had ended up playing me for a fool. she had been sorta involved with another guy in a long distance fling and made a drunken pass at me. i still don't understand it myself, and she's never explained to me what happened that night but what i will say is that because she was drunk i didn't make a move on her. we flirted all the time when we saw each other but i could never figure out the status of our friendship - and on top of it, i always got the sense that she was never really into me in any other way than friends. (long story short when i had first met j, she had given me her business card and i had called her like a day or two later and she never called me back. i had e-mailed her, just to see what happened and she e-mailed me. ) of course since i thought that whatever feelings i had for this woman was unrequited, i didn't make a move. but after her drunken pass, i had told her how i had felt and asked what was going on that night, and do you know that she never really addressed it one way or another? what gives? can anyone explain that one to me?
but when i met my girlfriend i wasn't really looking for love. however, i quickly discovered that we had a lot in common. we got along very well at work - i'd play music and we'd talk about music all day and crack stupid jokes. every single day we'd find something else to chat about and i found myself enjoying our conversations. and the more we talked, i had found myself liking her more; our conversations took on a heavily flirtatious tone. and then within the first week of august last year, we were dating. i remember we were sitting on the beach near her house and i telling her that i loved her and wanted her to be my girlfriend. she replied, "of course i'd be your girlfriend."
of course i didn't realize that dating my boss would be so weird. we see each other every day which is sweet but then again if we had an argument the night before about something it can take on a weird tone at work - or on occasion a disagreement at work can take on a decidedly strange turn.
so if you have signficant others, how did you meet them?
yankee328 posted on Aug 11, 2006
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silverwhisper said on Aug 11, 2006....
i don't think [i]anyone[/i] can explain what happened with "j". :> i'm a (deliriously) happily-married man. we've been together in one way or another since college and i'm happy to say that we've now been married for longer than we were dating. when we met, she was part of the school's theater group and i was sorta involved* with someone else in that group. i became known to my wife to be as that woman's shadow. the first words i ever spoke to her were to ask her for a light, b/c i'd seen her around and knew she was a fellow smoker. i didn't see her again until the following school year when a few friends and i started hanging out together. she decided she needed a new circle of friends and joined us. it was a lot of fun but she started to become involved w/ another guy in the group as i was realizing the way i felt about her wasn't entirely platonic. he and i talked about it. i was still sorta involved w/ the other woman--sorta, and he had a girlfriend. i've been in that situation before, having to choose and i didn't like my choice then, so i told my friend that i would back off. that new year's, i invited my now-wife to a new year's eve party, at which the other woman was present. she and i had a fight and she left. i was so pissed off about it that i stormed out of my own party, and my now-wife chased after me. as is the way in college relationships, we began to sorta flirt around the corners of dating, when events kinda spiraled out of control. another long story and this one isn't mine to tell. that summer, b/c we realized we lived close to one another, we began dating, and after a much-longer courtship than was perhaps strictly necessary, she paid me the ultimate compliment of saying yes when i asked her to marry me. :> ed *long story, no time. -
yankee328 said on Aug 11, 2006....
i think this woman j might be a bit insane. i've noticed that since i've gotten with my girlfriend i haven't heard from hre as much as i did before. admittedly, i've been busy and for a wihle i went out of my way to avoid j. i think the ultimate fuck off to j was to have j meet my girlfriend, and seeing j have to act nice to my girlfriend after all of that. happiness can be such great revenge can it? : ) you know, i forgot to mention that with the crazy girl, that after three dates i said to her you know, i think we should be friends (although i was hooking up with my girlfriend at the time) and this crazy girl started weeping as if we were together for a long time and i told her that i was leaving her for her best friend. it was insane. perhaps it was destined for you and your wife to meet and get married. i mean with all of those complicated situations going on between you guys and for all of that to happen, it's got to be destiny! how long have you two been married? and when did you know that you wanted to spend your life with her? -
silverwhisper said on Aug 11, 2006....
i'll confess, i definitely think that j is unstable and should avoid operating heavy machinery, shall we say? :> funny thing: her mother is a teacher who almost wound up teaching at my high school, one of my classmates was a childhood playmate of hers, and her parents met at our alma mater. so yeah, one could indeed say it was fate. :> been married since 98, began dating in the summer of 90. funny thing, that following school year, she thought she'd try to scare me. we were in the theater cleaning it out when she and her friend encountered a wedding veil. her friend called me and said, "hey ed, wanna be scared?" i turned and there was my wife, wearing the prop wedding veil over her face. without even thinking about it, i strode up to her, pulled it back over her head, kissed her and said "i do". i think i scared everybody else there [i]but[/i] me. :> ed -
yankee328 said on Aug 11, 2006....
both j and the crazy girl should be locked away somewhere. : ) so you saw your wife all the time then. that's awesome. i think you probably had a few other people swooning after that performance with your wife and the wedding veil! -
cornflakegirl said on Aug 12, 2006....
omg, these posts are getting me weepy!!! LOL, i'm such a hopeless romantic, and i love your stories :) please keep sharing! the story of how i met my boyfriend isn't as romantic, but i love it all the same. we actually met on one of those dating web sites, 3 years ago. i went on a few dates from people that i had met, but there never really was much of a spark. i remember seeing my bf's profile and thought to myself he was the only person i wanted to contact and if it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. we began to chat and our similarities were really spooky. we're both vegetarian, listen to the same music (and even followed some of the same bands on tour), and we lived in germany for 6 months (at separate times though). we had many of the same interests and goals in life and before long, we started completing each other's sentences. he always makes me laugh and our relationship has never been boring, but yes--we occasionally butt heads over politics and certain lifestyle issues. i suppose it's only natural. i knew from the moment we met that he was the one i was going to marry, and i've never felt that way about anyone before. though we have a ways to go before we walk down that aisle together, i can't imagine my life without him and know he feels the same. alright that's enough. sorry, i never get this gushy--i swear! :) -
yankee328 said on Aug 12, 2006....
oh cornflake girl, i could start crying right this minute. it's funny but i never thought i could be so sappy! : ) my girlfriend and i have occasionally butted heads on politics - although we have fairly similiar views, there are certain things that i differ from her on. and when it does happen we agree to disagree. she's my best friend and we just generally enjoy each other's company even when we're not doing much. (yeah, i know sappy!) -
cornflakegirl said on Aug 12, 2006....
*sniff* LOL, who woulda' thunk it--soulcast brings out the hopeless saps in all of us :) that's beautiful, yankee... and you know what, i think that's really all that matters in the end. that you enjoy each other's company, don't take anything about each other for granted, and that every day poses a new and exciting challenge. i don't think it's important to share every thing in common (that would make for a boring relationship), but it's how you deal with these differences and how you learn to overcome them. besides, i think it's fun to discuss politics--especially with people who feel differently than i do. it helps me gain perspective in my life. we all have different life experiences that color and shape our thinking. that's so great that your gf is your best friend...btw, was i discussing monopoly with you recently? i thought so but couldn't find your post. my bf and i busted out the game yesterday. it was so much fun! i haven't played in 10 years and he totally killed me (bastahd HAD to land on boardwalk AND park place, LOL!!!) :p -
yankee328 said on Aug 13, 2006....
hey cornflakegirl happy sunday. unfortunately, i don't believe we were discussing monopoly although that's a game that i haven't played in a very long time. i kinda miss it, now that you mention it. i used to like cheating - mainly stealing from the bank. : ) i used to have a cdrom version which is laying about in my apartment somewhere. what's really cool is that when we've had arguments, and we've had a couple of them, we find a way to quickly make up. -
cornflakegirl said on Aug 13, 2006....
awww, that's the best part about an argument--making up after it's over :) HAPPY SUNDAY to you too, hope you are relaxing and enjoying the final moments of the weekend. who in the hell was i talking 'bout monopoly with? random, LOL!!! i was the banker the other night, and i totally should've cheated. i thought about it, but was too much of a goody goody to even attempt it. :) -
yankee328 said on Aug 13, 2006....
making up after an argument is the best. then again so is hooking up after an anniversary. : ) i ran into my best friend and hung out with him for a little bit. listened to the yankee game and read the newspapers. nothing too exciting. i had spent a romantic night with my girlfriend on saturday. i don't know who you were talking about monopoly with - but i almost wish it was me! oh did i cheat in monopoly. i was so bad. what would be cool is if you did high-interest loans to people. and you could shake 'em down if they don't pay up! -
cornflakegirl said on Aug 13, 2006....
LOL!! i would just give back the wrong change to my bf and pretend i counted wrong. OOPS!!! he always caught on though ;) aww, sounds like a nice weekend. hope you have a good work week! -
yankee328 said on Aug 14, 2006....
next time just take from the bank. you can be like well i'm also the irs or something. : ) i never have a good work week but that's because i hate my job. i've been interviewing left and right without much sucess. but something, somewhere has to come you know? -
cornflakegirl said on Aug 14, 2006....
really?? i'm sorry to hear it, hun. it's so hard to find a job these days (i know b/c i've been looking myself for 4 months)... and in publishing especially, it's all in who you know. have you made a lot of contacts in the industry since you've been working there? that's sometimes the best way to get your foot in elsewhere. i wish you the best in your search. check back to craigslist and mediabistro, i think they are the most helpful sites for jobs in publishing. i haven't had much luck on monster or hotjobs, personally. i'll let you know if i hear of any cool openings! :) -
yankee328 said on Aug 14, 2006....
you know, i've made some contacts. i've interned at a couple of companies and i have a sihtload of good references and good experience and not much luck. maybe my contacts aren't that good - who knows? i use craigslist a lot for writing gigs. and i've been a member of mediabistro for a while. i've met the founder, laurel a couple of times at their freelancer parties. she's a goofy chick but what she's done with mediabistro is amazing. i mean that's the site to go to. i've also noticed that things have slowed down for openings in the last 2 weeks or so. if you hear anything, let me know. -
cornflakegirl said on Aug 14, 2006....
the summer is always a difficult time to search for jobs. but i'm sure things will start to open up in the next few weeks. i always get those emails about the mediabistro happy hours and i've never gone to any. i should though, did you make some good contacts there? i've been to some networking things, but they haven't worked out for me for the most part. -
yankee328 said on Aug 14, 2006....
you know, i met a buddy of mine through the mediabistro happy hours. i haven't gone to any in a little while as they've begun to seriously suck - everyone has that what can you do for me mentality, so once they find out you're a lowly editorial assistant like they are, they act like you're a leper or something. the freelancer parties that i've been to have been a lot more fun and friendlier for some reason. the editorial staff ones havne't.
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