Jon and I have been together for nearly three years, living together for nearly two. In that time we have gotten on each others nerves a handful of times and only had two real disagreements. Natually the two fights were about things he was doing wrong and I wanted them to be nipped in the bud right away because they had to do with trust and communication. Those are two vital elements in a good relationship and that needs to be established pronto.
A while back a co-worker asked me in passing really, if Jon and I get along well. I told him about our lack of conflicts and he said he didn't think it was healthy. Why? Is it healthy to fight a lot or get on each others nerves? I don't think so. Unless we aren't fighting because we aren't talking. Which isn't the case. We don't fight much because we are pretty good at talking things out before it gets to that point.
Several weeks ago I started going out with one of my friends from work. She and I would go and have dinner or a couple of drinks since her husband is MIA at the moment and Jon is working late. Mostly we just bitched about work and snotty people and back stabbing and had a good time. Well. This made Jon a little upset. Actually it made him a lot upset but I didn't know the extent of it until last night.
He was jealous. Plain and simple. He and I only hang out with each other. And that's great! When he and I are on the same schedule I only WANT to hang out with him. He's my best friend. I want to spend my evenings and weekends being with him. Doing whatever. I didn't think about how it would affect him if I went out a few times with a girl from work. And he wasn't entirely comfortable with the way it was making him feel so he would get irritable with me instead of just telling me what was really bothering him.
Last night I asked him point blank. And he told me all of this. It broke my heart. He was worried that I wasn't getting what I need from him and home and that was why I was going out and drinking. Not at all. I did my best to reassure him that I love him so much. He is my best friend and the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. Neither of us are much for socializing except with one or two people. We are perfectly content to be happy hermits. Or go out by ourselves. We never seem to run out of things to talk about. I have all I need and all I want right here at home, with him and Buddy.
I will cut back on going out with the girl from work because I don't want to do anything to hurt him. And I know for a fact that if the situation was reversed and Jon was going out with a temporarily single guy from work and drinking, I would be jealous and upset too. I just wish that he had talked it out with me sooner and not let it bother him for weeks. But we are so alike in that matter it's ridiculous lol.
But to answer the original question. Yep. I think our relationship is wonderful. It's exciting and passionate and happy. Everyday I can barely wait to spend another day with him. I'm glad we don't fight. It would be a huge waste of time that should be spend loving instead.
