• uniquely-ironic said on Apr 23, 2008....

  forgive me for asking, but did you have a bypass or lapband procedure?  I may have missed that blog if I wasn't reading you at the time.
   
  My step-mother had a bypass and lost a lot of weight.  It was so good for her health.  She eats in a very similar way, and knowing she had the surgery I made a point of not saying anything.
   
  I think if you and Phil are going to hang out a lot in the future it might just be easier to have a very short conversation about your surgery if this is the case.  Otherwise it will take him forever to figure it out and he'll probably make more remarks.  Not eating in front of people to avoid the conversation seems a little drastic.

• starchini said on Apr 23, 2008....

  I had the lapband done.  My doc said bypass is much more dangerous and the results are the same in the end.  The lapband takes longer than bypass.  W bypass ur expected to lose all the weight within a year and with the lapband it takes longer.  But suposedly with statistics and all they both have a 95+% success rate.

  I dont wanna tell people bc then theyll want to talk about it and i want to be treated normal.  I dont want people to ask  can u eat this? is this ok?  Is this the right amount to serve u?  Does it hurt when i poke here? Can u feel it inside u?

  These are common things that the people that do know ask constantly.

  I figure the less people that know the better. 

  Maybe later ill tell him.  Not now though.  Now im just gonna avoid eating infront of him.  Bc after i lose the weight no one will even notice my eating habits.  Theyll think its normal.  Ya know?

• uniquely-ironic said on Apr 23, 2008....

  Sorry chickie, what you're eating now is not normal.  Even for normally thin people.  You're eating anorexic model portions.
   
  I can't help but think that if you simply said "I've had lapband surgery, but I'd rather not talk about it" that you'd at least have the chance to eat around others.  If they keep up the questions give them the name of your doctor and suggest they take it up with him.

• starchini said on Apr 23, 2008....

  lol, well i dont look like an anorexic supermodel thats for sure! ...sometimes i eat more than i should, like on the weekends when im with melissa.  So during the week i eat much less, to make up for my splurge. 

  The way i figure it my dr wants me to eat 1500 calories a day.  I havnt really been keeping strict count but during the week i think i average that, maybe less. 

  But on the weekend i eat crap so those calories stack up.  I still dont eat that much on the weekends but what i do eat is really bad for me and a little more than i should eat.

  Usually my rule is to stop eating when the hunger pain goes away or atleast until its quieted down some.  But i shouldnt eat until i feel full.  When i can actually tell that ive eaten too much is when ive over done it.

  I just dont want to tell people ive had lapband bc theyll think im weird and have "baggage" or "issues"...plus even though i know that i had to do it and that it was what was best for me a lot of other people think its the easy way out or extreme.  When its not.  I struggle everyday to make good food choices.  All the band did was make my stomache smaller.  I still am dealing with my mental food issues.  But im worried that by telling people they will think im weak...

• uniquely-ironic said on Apr 23, 2008....

  Hmmm, I was just thinking how smart you were to go get the help you want and need to get healthier.
   
  You need to do what makes you comfortable.  Nothing and no one else's opinion can change that.

• starchini said on Apr 23, 2008....

  awww thanx uni, i just remember when i was just talking about getting it down.  Back when it was just an idea.  Soooo many people told me "u can do it on ur own"  "u dont need it, its such a cop out, just do it urself"  "why dont u just eat less?  why get surgery?"  U know?  No one got it.  The people close to me see what i go through so they know its not the easy way.  But for me to just let people know makes me nervous bc they might think less of me.  But ur right i shouldnt worry about what people think.  And in most cases i dont.  For somereason this is just a sensitive issue for me.  Even though u are right, i still dont think im gonna tell him.  Im just gonna answer the "why dont u eat" questions with "im not hungry, u eat what u want ill eat what i want"...

  Grrr..im so torn...now i wanna flop to the other side and say that i gotta tell him eventually bc if we ever have sex hes gonna see my surgery scars and ill have to explain it....ugh!!!!!!!

  ok, ill tell him...i should just not even attempt arguing with u.  Its a lost cause.  lol u see all that rambling above?  Me trying to justify my side and i just turn shit around and agree with u. lol...aww i love u!!!  : )

• travelr712 said on Apr 24, 2008....

  1. you'll most likely find that your surgery won't bother him in the least. you're worried over nothing, imo.
   
  2. you won't be a 'fat girl posing as a skinny girl'. you'll be a woman of less weight, who achieved that goal through discipline and hardship and personal cost. it's an achievement, not a lie.

• starchini said on Apr 24, 2008....

  Yea ur probably right.  and number two ur definitly right about too but for somereason i still feel like a poser.  I feel like other people think im pretending...

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