• pusscat said on Apr 20, 2008....

  I used to believe the title was very important until recently.  Now I realise it is a mindset.  If it is in your actions, your heart, your mind and the lifestyle you lead, then you are a sub or slave no matter what you or anyone else actually calls you.

  From what you have described you are truly his sub and having the title 'girlfriend' too does not change that :-)  I have read a few stories on other sites (Submission, BDSM and Dominance) where a true slave was also a wife.  She holds both titles as do you.

  Hope that helps a little

  pc

• sweet_rose said on Apr 20, 2008....

  I thought at one time titles were very important also. Learning a different way of thinking has enhanced my thinking. I do not call my Dominant Sir. Nor anyone else in my community. Actually having to use that makes me extremely uneasy. I will though call someone I do not respect Sir or Mistress Silver because to me it is just a name. Actions speak louder and I will go out of my to show my respect. That is all I can do and am very happy with my way of thinking. I have discussed it with my Dominant and my reasons why and that is all that is important. I know who I am and my Dominant is my Dominant. As long as those too things are communicated, then I am a happy girl.
   
  rose

• jezzabell said on Apr 21, 2008....

  Both of your replies made me feel better on a day where I have found myself feeling very average.
   
  Thank you.
   
  <3
  jezz

• sweet_rose said on Apr 21, 2008....

  I needed to add something to my last post. Mistress Silver is a pillar in our community and I think that is why her name popped up in my post. I did not even realize it until I read it again.
   
  My deepest apology to Mistress Silver for my regretful typo and who I have the highest respect for.
   
  rose

• blogslut said on Apr 23, 2008....

  In my opinion, titles aren't all that important. But it depends who gives you the title.
   
  We've never really discussed titles outright, I consider myself to be His sub, He considers me to be His sub (I think lol), but we never sat down one day and talked about upgrading my title from girlfriend to sub.
   
  He still introduces me to others as his girlfriend, except in certain very special occasions.
   
  But, having said that, if your boyfriend is a Dom and specifically tells you that you are his girlfriend and not his sub, then maybe the title means something to him, which is why he won't let you use it. It would be interesting to know the basis of why he won't let you use that title? Or maybe he just doesn't like it's ring? Just a thought, as a title is a title and if the "upgrade" doesn't change the dynamics of your relationship, why should a different title matter.
   
  But on the other hand, I totally understand where you're coming from, as he's probably had a lot more "girlfriends" than he's had "subs", so to be considered the latter could, and perhaps should, make you feel more special and part of a more elite club.
   
  Blogslut xx

• sweet_rose said on Apr 23, 2008....

  well said Blogslut

• jezzabell said on Apr 28, 2008....

  BS - that's exactally right! While he does treat me as his sub, there's something about the whole, you're different from all the other "girlfriends" thing.
  I've spoken to him about this, of course, and he's told me that he is just waiting for the right time.
  Which makes it so much more special, and worth the wait.
  Thanks for the comments!

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