• PAPERBACKWRITER said on Apr 20, 2008....

  
  Oooh quiet (((hugs)))
  
  [listens with you]
  
  May i ask, when did you hear this for the first time?
  
  paper~
  
  
  

• quietone said on Apr 20, 2008....

  Oh, I love sonny and cher.  I have since I was a teen about 14,  I would say. 

• wombat said on Apr 20, 2008....

  The sentiments in this song sound "familiar" to me, too quietone....It's sad, but true, you can't run away from yourself--wherever you go--there you are.  Unless you make great big changes--which you can do anywhere.  I need to make some, myself.  I keep thinking about it, but don't.  I hope you aren't too down or anything! 
   
  {{{{{hugs from your friend wombat}}}}}}
   
  I ask you to "stay."  Stay just as sweet and kind as you are!

• quietone said on Apr 20, 2008....

  {{{{hugs}}}}} wombie.

• Me-Myself&I said on Apr 20, 2008....

  I love you .....*smile* "please stay!" ....just thought i'd throw that in!
   
  I haven't listened to the music yet, i will. It takes so long to buffer on my dail-up. any ol'way....just wanted to run by and tell you Howdy! (((((((((HUG)))))))))) ~see ya X
   

• quietone said on Apr 20, 2008....

  MeMy ~ hello, and thanks.  I miss ya and that *smile* around here!  I see you every now and then!  glad things are going well for you.  {{{hugs}}} friend.

• Twylarants said on Apr 20, 2008....

  Oh, Quiet...no! I would have blocked all the escape routes, you would not have gotten past me!

• quietone said on Apr 20, 2008....

  Twyla ~ thanks  sweetie.  {{{{hugs}}}} but you know, I am glad I went because otherwise I would not have learned what I needed to where I was.  So, I guess it is what the call a double edged sword at the time.

• mobil said on Apr 20, 2008....

  You feelin a little down this morning Quiet? We got a foot and a half of new snow last nite....now that's depressing haha.
   
  I know what you mean, not being asked to stay. That's awful, but it appears to me that you have overcome great obsticals in your life Quiet and that this has built a real quality of character in you.
   
  It comes thru in everything you write, your character that is. It's strong and vibrant, I don't know if it came with you, if you developed it as you went or has always been a part of who you are. It doesn't matter much, you have heart, and character.
   
  From where I sit, it seems all you need to get over now is yourself. A more positive outlook Quiet, I think if you work on that, the World will be your oyster. I for one think you are a teriffic lady.

• quietone said on Apr 20, 2008....

  mobil ~ thanks for the vote of confidence.  You can keep the snow though...

• JoyousLoving said on Apr 20, 2008....

  Oh Quiet.  There are so many things in life that will stay with us forever.  I have noticed that sad moments stay with me easier than the happy ones.  Why is that I wonder?  The only thing I can say is that those moments made you who you are today.  And that is a wonderful, sweet, and caring person. 

• quietone said on Apr 20, 2008....

  Joy ~ {{{{hugs}}}.  I think they stay with us longer because they break our hearts, and a broken heart is hard to mend, where as a happy heart... well it just "is".  Thanks you right back to another caring wonderful person.

• I'mNotHungry said on Apr 20, 2008....

  Quiet~ please stay.... please don't go. 

  I'm sorry you're having a

   

• quietone said on Apr 20, 2008....

  Hungry ~ no, I am not going anywhere.  Have done that already and now I am home.  You got cut off, but, yes, it is just a little pot hole, or a dip today I will be oaky.. thanks sweetie.  {{{{{hugs}}}}

• secretlife said on Apr 20, 2008....

  when you're young and you make a decision to pack it up and go to the other side of the country or the other side of the world for that matter, there's probably very little that could have been said to change your mind.  it's not like you were waiting for someone to say, hey quiet, please don't go....right?  there must have been a pretty good reason you decided to go.
   
  all of our choices ........they add up and make us who we are today-
  we can think about what it might have been like, what might have been different, but in the end, we made the choices.
   
  Here's my advice-  get your jacket on and take a nice long walk.
  breathe deeply.
  think about the people that matter the most to you.
  they're all within your grasp-
   
  even if your grasp is fingers on keyboard or picking up the telephone.
   
  feel better.

• MissMimi said on Apr 20, 2008....

  {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{quiltedone}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

• quietone said on Apr 20, 2008....

  secret ~ contrary, I think if I had been asked by one, I would have stayed.. but like you say, it has made me the person I am today.  Good or bad, yes it all boils down to "choice'. I will be okay.. thanks for stopping by with your wise words. Some of the things were not of my choice I was still just a kid.

• quietone said on Apr 20, 2008....

  mimi ~ aw thanks I will be back to me soon enough.. {{{{hugs}}}} right back at ya.

• skald said on Apr 20, 2008....

  Now you have come up with an other nice and old. Gives me many memories. Thanks a lot. I remember that I thought they sounded alike. I mean Sonny and  Cher. 

• quietone said on Apr 20, 2008....

  skald ~ they are one of my favorite of all time.  Cher still is.  It is too sad that they could not make their marriage last. I got to see Cher in concert in Vancouver B.C. when I was out west.  She was great.  Thanks skald

• lfbno7 said on Apr 20, 2008....

  When I saw your video I was afraid it was The Beat Goes On. But then when the song started it was one of my favorite Sonny and Cher songs, a really sad one that gets to me.

• quietone said on Apr 20, 2008....

  Lbno ~ it gets to me too.  reminds me of when I lived in NJ... nothing great or good happend there either.

• diabolicdame said on Apr 20, 2008....

  I don't know what to say except that I'm here.. if that helps at all! I have often felt like a nomad. Wandering around. Eventually its better than sticking in one place, right? Bah! I don't know myself! I'm just trying to say something to help. Anyway I'm here. Thats it.

• polarheart said on Apr 20, 2008....

  Quiet, I just can bear having you sad!  I am here for you, my friend!  You are VERY loved by one and all and I count myself first most in the queue of those who care deeply for you.  Please, please, please feel better.  I so wish I could wrap my arms around you right now and let you feel the realness of it.
   
  [[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[QUIET]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]
   
  Polar xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox

• gingersoul said on Apr 20, 2008....

  Dear Quiet.....it hit me reading .."if i had been asked i woudl have stayed"....it says so much of how your life has been shaped after that....

  But you made of that silence, of that question not pronounced, your life and that had made you the person you are now, after all.

  I say, follow Secret suggestion..a nice walk in the evening, some chat with friends and a nice tea.....we love you here, you know that, right?

  See how many are asking you to stay now? {{{hugs}}} 

• CreativeWoman said on Apr 20, 2008....

  Quiet,
  Maybe no one asked you to stay, but it took a lot of courage for you to move 3,000 miles from everything familiar.  I applaud that and wish I could be a little like you.  :-)
  
  Hang in there.  Please stay here.
  
  (((((hugs)))))
  
  CW
  

• quietone said on Apr 20, 2008....

  diabolic ~ awe, thanks.  I will be okay.  I don't know what hit me side the head today, but I will be better tomorrow.  I have wondered a lot through out my life, so much so that I now have very few to no roots, which is not so good either. 

• quietone said on Apr 20, 2008....

  polar ~  my dear friend, I do feel the realness of it across the miles/sea.  It is a bump in the road, maybe something I need to release I am sure.  I will be back to myself any day because I do not let this "stuff" get me down anymore.  {{{{hugs}}} to you and yours as well. 

• quietone said on Apr 20, 2008....

  ginger ~ yes, I agree with some of that my friend.  I will go to work and let this go for now, maybe blog about it bit by bit and then I can free my spirit once and for all of this "stuff".  thanks {{{{hugs}}}}

• quietone said on Apr 20, 2008....

  CW ~ moving that far away was one of the things I did on spur of the moment and I do believe it was one of the best things I did for myself, even though at the time it didn't seem it.  These are choices we face every day, well maybe some not so big as that was, but still as hard.  And you know that saying.. after walking in someone elses shoes, you may decide that your own aren't so bad.  Thanks CW

• CreativeWoman said on Apr 20, 2008....

  I'm sorry quietone.  I didn't mean to make light of your situation.  I wish you nothing but happiness.
  
  CW
  

• Jenna said on Apr 20, 2008....

   

  QT......Your move must have been very difficult......but it sounds like you really learned a lot from your decision and as you said...you became the person you are today.    But to do what you did.....well things must have been very unsettled and difficult  for you at the time.  I am glad you are not going away from here.......and for what its worth QT......if you said you were leaving here...I, for one, would ask you to stay!  Hope tomorrow finds you feeling better!

• LtCmdrWorf1 said on Apr 20, 2008....

  I love Sonny and Cher.  I remember it was one of the few shows my parent would let me watch.  Good song.  Peace and Long Life
  
  Love Worf
  

• diabolicdame said on Apr 20, 2008....

  I know what you mean. I feel absolutely no connect to where I am originally from. Sometimes it bothers me a little that I have no roots or no such place to 'belong' to.. so I have just adopted this city that I have lived in most of my life as my home now. But sometimes I feel lost because I feel like I have lost my roots. 

• CayenneMan said on Apr 20, 2008....

  
  
     Wow great video it's been along time since I've seen those two together they were a great couple. I think alot of us can relate to the theme of this video in some way or another. I would never have thought they would have ever went their seperate ways. I'm sure Cher really misses him still today. I thru in this video hoping it would cheer you up some. I just hope it did'nt do the opposite. * NOTE  This is an experiment I've never tried sending a video before. 

• quietone said on Apr 21, 2008....

  CW ~ oh, I know dear CW.  I wasn't directing my quote to you, I was more or less directing it to myself.  I give myself some pretty tough talks sometimes.  Thanks CW, your comments are always welcome. 

• quietone said on Apr 21, 2008....

  Jenna ~ thanks, and yes I feel much better today.  You know how some little thing can just catch you off guard sometimes.. well, I don't even know what it was, but it snuck up on me!  Glad I kicked it back to where it came from... with the help of the good people here at SC.  Hope you had a good b'day. 

• quietone said on Apr 21, 2008....

  worf ~ hello, and yes, Sonny and Cher were great together... too bad they had to split. 

• quietone said on Apr 21, 2008....

  diabolic ~ ah, the thing is, I came back to where I was originally from... went full circle so to speak.  I figure I can call myself a "free spirit" as I have no deep roots.  That isn't so bad when you look at it that way.  Nobody asked me to stay, yes that was sad but it is part of my past, and I would not have seen and done the things I did had I "stayed".  I feel God knows where he wants me and he will get me there in spite of myself. 

• iamshay said on Apr 21, 2008....

  quietone~ life may be difficult to live as it may look,
                    but you are one of the few people worth knowing.
                     there is none like you
                    climb the mountain with confidence!

• quietone said on Apr 21, 2008....

  Cman ~ you did a great job sending the youtube.  I just love that song and the movie too.  I have watched it so many times.  Thanks, yes, it made me smile.  Wasn't it funny to see Sonny and cher so young?  Yes, I do believe she mourns the loss of her late husband still today.   Thanks Cman.  :)

• Mamie said on Apr 21, 2008....

  hey Quiet, sorry I am late to arrive and I am glad you are feeling better....please stay...stay the course, we are growing and learning. We are stronger and better...we are, we just are. love, love, mamie

• queenparanoia said on Apr 21, 2008....

  quiteone: {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

• quietone said on Apr 21, 2008....

  mamie ~ awe, never too late my dear friend.  thank yo for the kind words and the "stay".  we are... yes "we are" and we can "just be".   :)  {{{hugs}}}

• quietone said on Apr 21, 2008....

  queenie ~ thanks for that big huge hug.  It felt wonderful.  I am feeling so much better today already. 

• lionesss said on Apr 23, 2008....

  hiya its lionesss i dnt drop by much but  you gave me some much needed advice and support when i needed it so im hoping you will be around xxxxxx

• quietone said on Apr 24, 2008....

  lioness ~ hello.  I am much better these days I hope you are doing well too.  Always good to see you.   I am glad I was ablt to help.

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