This is going to be a long…. RANT!!!!

Last year I met a young woman who was down on her luck living in her car and pregnant, I only had a sofa bed for her to sleep on so I said I would try and help her. She was to help around the house and baby sit for me in the evenings from time to time. A month after she moved in I lost my job and went thru a very rough time both financially and emotionally. I decided I needed to move and let her know 2 months in advance that I would not  be able to have her move with me. A month before my move she still had not found a place had nto looked for a place, just sat and cried about she didnt know what to do and had just had her baby. ( I was her labor coach … will post on that some other time). I still had not found a new place and was making arrangements to out my things in storage and stay with friends until I could find a place. Day after day as I packed she would ask , if you find a big enough place I can come with you right? Still not looking for a place of her own even though she has money. Now the whole 5mos she has stayed with me she has watched my child only 4 times and the mess she left in the living room was horrible, and even though she had some income she had only given me 100 dollars. She was raised without a mother and I tried my best to give her advice and guide her on a path to take care of herself and her baby. 1 week before I moved she says she is driving 1500 miles to move to Washington state to stay with a friend.(baby is 3wks old). I ask if she thinks that wise since she knows no one except this friend, she takes off anyway. One month late she is calling me crying saying she has to find a new place to live because the friends husband who is the army is being reassigned in 30 days and she cant go with them. So again she had to move. Then she decided to come back to CA for a visit. When she gets here she gets in a fight with the person she is staying with and she gets thrown out in the middle of the night and then her car breaks down and cant drive back to WA and asks once again to stay with me.

Its been almost 2 months, and I have had it. She has not offered to pay me a dime. And I watch her baby for free as she gets temp labor jobs to fix her car. No thank you card, no offer of cash, but she has money for beer, cigerettes and other crap.She wont even buy her baby a new bottle. He's drinking out of a 4oz bottle but you have to fill it twice so he gets full.how dumb is that. She doesn’t clean up after herself or the baby and will come up with excuse after excuse on why she will be late coming home. The last two days, she has been gone from 6am to 7pm and when she gets home she smells of alcohol, rushes to brush her teeth.  I am seething. Really seething, I have talked myself blue in the face trying to get her to see her life choices are not so wise. Then when things turn out all wrong she says I should have listened to you. UUUUGGGHHHHHHH I want her out of my house now. But I would never let her leave because of the baby. He’s 6 mos now and he should not have to suffer even if his mom is an idiot. I cant see him living out of a car or shelter if I can help it. So I guess I will just keep ranting and praying that I will find the right words to help her get her life on track and think of her child first. My mom was right company and fish go bad after 3 days.