I just posted a comment to a sad story of a 14 yr. old girl who was forced into an abortion. I hope you don't mind me sharring what I wrote back to her, and I hope she doesn't mind me sharing....


"Wow, that is truly a heart-breaking story. My heart goes out to you and your sister and her "never-to-be-born" child.

My younger sister got pregnant at 17yrs old (not 14, but still a "baby") while she was in high school. There was no father in the picture. I am not sure she even was truthful about who he was. My parents were very supportive and told her they would support her in any decision she made regarding the baby. The only thing that they would not support was an abortion; it goes against their religious and moral beliefs. (My sister is also very against abortions, especially now that she has had a child) My sister talked to counselors about her options and made a decision all on her own. She decided it would be best to give the baby up for adoption. Wow, was I ever surprised. I was so shocked that she could be so selfless when it came to her child. I don't know if I could have done that.

She still remembers that child all the time. She loves her so much. She did what she thought was best for her little girl. She wanted the baby to have a good home with a mom and dad that would love her and take care of her. She picked out the family all on her own. She picked a young couple that had been married for 6 or 8 yrs. and couldn't have children of their own. The interesting thing is that although my sister's little girl looks so much like my sister (a little twin) she looks just like she is the natural daughter of that couple. They have sent pictures of her and them. They are a happy little family. My sister’s baby was blessing to them. I don’t believe in “unwanted” children.

My sister made that choice all on her own, and she doesn't regret it at all. I hope your sister can feel better about what she went through and I hope your mother can realize her mistake of making that decision for her daughter. That is a very sad situation. It really breaks my heart to think that people can be so cruel to an unborn child just because keeping a child is not the "easy" thing to do. I have 3 children of my own and 2 of them were huge surprises. But as scared and unprepared as I was to have them, I would never change the gift of being their mother for anything! I love their smiling faces.

I try not to judge you mom, but it is hard since I am SO against abortion, but stories like yours remind me that it is not my place to judge, it's God's. You never know the whole story unless you lived it yourself. So I do not judge your little sister. My heart goes out to her. I hope talking about it can help heal any wounds. God Bless!"