• uniquely-ironic said on Apr 10, 2008....

  I'm so so sorry to hear this!  How awful to not be there when someone you love is sick.  I'm glad your husband went to the ER and got help.  It's so important to be cautious when the family history has cardiac stuff going on.
   
  I will say a prayer and keep you and your family in my thoughts.

• Twylarants said on Apr 10, 2008....

  Sending all good thoughts your way, Vacant.  Thank goodness he got himself to the hospital. Those staph infections are bastards.

• vacantmind said on Apr 10, 2008....

  u-i & Twyla: Thank You

  I am just writing to keep my mind busy...it beats what I feel like doing right now. His blood pressure is sky high 196/165. They are afraid of him having a stroke. They are taking him to the Cath lab to see how much fluid is surrounding his heart and possibly to drain it...I won't know anything else for a couple of hours. They also think that he may have had a reaction to an over the counter med he took.

  Apparently, he called his father and told him he has never felt like this...asked him to come. He knew I couldn't get there and he was afraid that he wasn't going to make it through this.

  He usually works from 6 in the morning until 9 at night. He hasn't taken a sick day for more than 10 years. But, today he left at noon because he just couldn't stand on his feet anymore. He went back to his hotel room to nap but couldn't get comfortable. Then he had trouble sitting up. He couldn't take but a few steps before he had to sit back down and called for EMS.

  He talked to his dad and told him that he wasn't thinking straight. He  was making stupid decisions on the way back to the hotel.

  This whole thing has me freaking out. The hospital told me they didn't think he would be stable enough for transport. When he was done in the cath lab, he will be admitted into the CICU.

• uniquely-ironic said on Apr 10, 2008....

  Sounds like the hospital he's in is a good one.  They're doing all the right things and thinking about his welfare first. 

• Alyss said on Apr 10, 2008....

  I am sending healing thoughts for him. And you.

• Lucytorial said on Apr 10, 2008....

  Hang in there honey, take a big deep breath, he's not going to want you freaking out the love of his life wants to see you are okay and there for him.
  
  I wish with all my heart that he is safe, in capable hands and that you have a safe journey to be with him.  All my love Vacant,  TL
  

• vacantmind said on Apr 10, 2008....

  u-i..I think he is...would like to confirm that though.

  Alyss...Thank You

  Lucy...I am really trying but this is a guy that never gets sick. He never does anything half-ass, including illness now! Being stuck and having to sit and wait...is quite painful. But, your right he wouldn't want me freaking out.

• Lucytorial said on Apr 10, 2008....

  No because when he sees you he doesn't want to see fear, but reassurance, love and support that you can handle it.  I know its harsh, how long do you have to wait for??
  
  You know mines the same, never half measures sick prick! its all or nothing and it scares the life out of me every time.
  

• vacantmind said on Apr 10, 2008....

  I have at around 10 hours before I can fly out. Family is coming to get the kids and drive them down but I can't wait.

• Lucytorial said on Apr 10, 2008....

  Okay so if its late, try to calm yourself a little, take a rest, distract yourself with something calming.  One thing you can know is that time will only go slower if you focus on fear.  I heart you honey I really do.  Your kids will also need to know that its okay to be afraid but not out of your mind, he's in good hands.

• vacantmind said on Apr 10, 2008....

  I agree...I am going to go clean my house...that way the family doesn't see the mess we have created. It should distract me for awhile.

• vacantmind said on Apr 10, 2008....

  Well, hubby is out of the cath lab. They did end up draining some of the fluid and put him on a diuretic. They said he his heart is strong...it is pumping better now. It wasn't able to fully work with the fluid...it was restricting it.

  The nurse said the sedated him because he was fighting them a bit...this isn't normal for him. He is usually an easy going guy. I think he is just scared and unsure of what is going on. It is probably very overwhelming for him.

  His dad got slowed down by the rain but should be there shortly. Which makes me really happy to know someone will be there with him. He will be able to give me a better assessment of how he is really doing.

  I am going to try to catch some Zzz's...I don't know that I will be successful but I think I need to lay down a bit.

• Twylarants said on Apr 10, 2008....

  What amazes me is how quickly they can turn congestive heart failure around these days. My husband's had more than a few cardiac emergencies and those people are really something.
  It is scary and overwhelming, especially for someone who is used to being in control like my husband and, I'm sure, your husband are.
  The important thing is his heart is strong. That's what you want to hear, that this hasn't caused any damage to his heart.
  

• Eilan said on Apr 10, 2008....

  I can't imagine how frustrating it must be for you right now, vacant!  You and your family will be in my thoughts.

• secretlife said on Apr 10, 2008....

  awww vacant i just read this.
  sedation is really normal for cardiac cath procedures cause they go in thru the groin, and it's really uncomfortable....
   
  i hope things are better tonite; they sound like they are.
  safe trip.

• vacantmind said on Apr 10, 2008....

  Twyla...Scary and overwhelming...I have to agree. My husband is very much the type of person who is use to being in control.

  Eilan...Thank You..yes very frustrated

  secretlife...I remember the discomfort...I had this exact same procedure about 8 years ago.

  Well, his Dad made it! He said that overall he looks pretty good. They are really concerned about his blood pressure. The meds haven't really lowered it yet and that is somewhat concerning. They would expect a drop in an hour or so after giving the meds and it has been almost 8. His dad said he is resting comfortably..so that is good news. I am just waiting for family to arrive so that I can hopefully fly out. I have my flight booked but with all the cancellations I am really afraid of not being able to fly. I will just have to wait and see.

• Lucytorial said on Apr 10, 2008....

  You'll be fine... relax honey... hey if you want to be a little distracted come over my place a little.

• Olisellana said on Apr 11, 2008....

  Vacant,

   

  I know how your feeling, my uncle had a pacemaker and he went to the hospital to get it re-calabrated he was there for about 6 hours because they hold you a few hours to monitor just to ensure things go correctly before they release you.  He got into the elevator after being released and died on his way down to the bottom floor lobby.  It is crazy to know that you could be fine one minute and the next your laying on the ground and not responding.  I think everything will be okay though with your husband.  I'm sure his main concern while he is in the hospital isn't himself but really you.  You have to be strong for both of you because the minute your not strong is the minute he is going to give up hope and not be strong either.

  you wil be in my prayers and may God give you strength and hold you in your time of need.

  ~Oli

• diabolicdame said on Apr 11, 2008....

  Oh I'm sorry to hear this! I hope he feels better soon and I will be sending my prayers your way.. Stay optimistic and take care of yourself too.

• LadyGamer said on Apr 11, 2008....

  With all you have been through.... now this. *shakes head*

• vacantmind said on Apr 11, 2008....

  Olisellana...that is really sad about your uncle...I know that things can change in an instant. Thank you for your prayers.

  diabolicdame...thank you

  LG...it just seems to keep coming...I thought Murphy was firmly planted with you.

  I can't fly out! But, hubby doesn't want me to anyway. They were able to get his blood pressue under control last night and it has remained normal now for about 12 hours. They are going to release him there and his dad is driving him back to illinois. His specialist is going to come into the hospital and check him out when he gets here. He will decide on admitting him or what tests to order. He checked over the reports from the hospital and gave the okay for them to release him. So, they think he is out of immediate danger but he may need to have the valves of his heart looked into. It appears there might be some blockage.

  I want him back here because we have one of the best cardiac surgeons in the nation at Rush. Luckily our insurance covers him. So, I am sitting and waiting for them to release him and for him to make it back!

• vacantmind said on Apr 11, 2008....

  I am jumping up and down...they got him on a plane! A direct flight even!

• CreativeWoman said on Apr 11, 2008....

  vacant,
  I'm so glad he is coming home to where you can be with him.  I will pray for you, him and all those that love you both.
  
  CW
  

• Alyss said on Apr 11, 2008....

  I am glad that the update is good news. I will continue thinking positive thoughts for you and him.

• Lucytorial said on Apr 11, 2008....

  there you go girl, little bits of goodness coming your way.  Hope you smother him w kisses.  Pls let me know if he's okay.

• vacantmind said on Apr 11, 2008....

  Well, he has made it safe and sound! Yah! They didn't cancel his plane or anything. I am sitting in his hospital room...his EKG was abnormal. So, they took him to have an MRI. The doc wants to make sure he doesn't see any anomalies in structure. The doctor is in there with him...so that is good. He came in just to check him over. I love doctors that actually give a shit about their patients.

  He told me not to worry..Hubby just had a check up a couple of months ago and he was in perfect health. Heart problems usually develop over time and that this is probably just an infection and will clear up in a few days. He just didn't want to miss anything. That's fine by me...I will pay for the MRI to have a clear mind about his health.

• silverwhisper said on Apr 15, 2008....

  vm, i'm glad that he's home again--god, what a scare! was there an update? i might have missed it if there was, still getting caught up!
  
  ed

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