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the realization just hit me.
i'm OUT.
i'm not with him anymore.
i got out.
i did it.
I DID.
me myself......ME

i have my kids too...i didn't have to leave them behind to get out.
and i am out!
he has no more control over me anymore.
he's a sad little boy.

i saw him....and he's icky.
and yes, it turns my stomach to ever think i was intimate with him.....
let alone thinking of the horrid details.

but i don't have to do that anymore!
ever!

and i thought i'd never succeeded at anything.
yes, the memories come back....sometimes really badly and overwhelming.
but i honestly NEVER thought i could be out of that.
i thought i'd be in it till i killed myself....or him....or died of not taking care of myself. or SOMETHING.

*feeling lighter*






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  • Twylarants said on Apr 06, 2008....
    Hey Flyn~ yes you are out and free and in control of your own life and future. You're your own person now with no one to answer to but you.  And your kids of course.
    You can do this you know.  Take your time and enjoy your freedom.  Your girls will settle down in time.
    Spring is coming, it's time to bloom!
  • soleme said on Apr 06, 2008....
    Cheers to you, I admire you, you are brave! Your last sentence is a good description of me. Take care of yourself and the kids, sending warm hugs!
  • Fallyn said on Apr 06, 2008....
    twy....i think that's exactly it.....it's SPRING! time for new beginnings.
    the year for me doesn't start on jan 1. it starts when the world around me explodes in green.
  • queenparanoia said on Apr 07, 2008....

    i'm glad that the emotional pain is gone now fallyn...

  • lfbno7 said on Apr 07, 2008....
    celebrate the wins
  • diabolicdame said on Apr 07, 2008....
    Good for you! Celebrate yourself! You deserve it.. a lot of us are stuck in places that are 'icky' and don't have the courage to get out. Its no small task. So celebrate yourself! :-)
  • Fallyn said on Apr 07, 2008....
    queen....well, not completely gone...and i expect it will come back at times too.....there are reminders all around......but i'm progressing...tha'ts all i can expect...and it's enough.

    diabolic! *GRIN* thankyoU! *HUGS*

    iffy...celebrating. *grin*
  • vacantmind said on Apr 07, 2008....
    Fallyn...you are a strong woman...you just didn't know how strong until push came to shove. I am glad that you can look back now and see that you are the one who saved you. I think that's cool!
  • Fallyn said on Apr 07, 2008....
    *grin* i did! *laughing* i guess that's the whole point....it was ME....and i've NEVER done anything like that for myself before! its a pretty incredible feeling.
  • wombat said on Apr 07, 2008....
    I was always one to stay in a relationship that was not good for me till the bitter end--a fear of getting "left" so I tried to make it work until there was just nothing left but bad things for me.  I don't know your circumstances (I have trouble staying caught up with everyone lately) but if you think you are doing the right thing, then you most likely are.  I just never learned to "listen to myself" as well as you seem to be doing--so yea for you!  Take care of you and your sweet little ones--the rest will all fall into place.
     
    {{{{{{{Big Hugs!}}}}}
    wombat
  • Fallyn said on Apr 07, 2008....
    yeah, that damn fear of getting "left"

    "oh my goodness what will i do on my OWN!?"

    *frown* LIVE is what!
  • silverwhisper said on Apr 08, 2008....
    you know, fallyn, i've got this shit-eating grin (what a weird expression!) from reading your blog entry. :>

    ed
  • Fallyn said on Apr 08, 2008....
    i love the expression. and it's perfect.
    i just read it over again......and i'm grinning the same way.

    it's not gone......the feelings still come back......but i will NEVER be in that place EVER again! EVER!
    and the further i go in life the further away that experience gets.

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