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Emergency advice needed ASAP!!!

starchini posted on Mar 28, 2008 | views: 558 | Tags: men, Interact, advice, help, Heart, kiss, too late again, Now
Awww the guy im crushing on is such a sweetheart.  He has an appointment with his friends to come in last night and tan b4 their meeting and he came in early and alone...
 
I asked where his friends were and they are all "sick" lol...
 
We hung out at the salon and he tanned and we had some great conversation.  And out of the blue i was laughing and he says "u have a beautiful smile" awww...how sweet is that?
 
Then somehow we got started talking about hair and he asked if it was my natural color and i say"hehe no, not even close"  he says "well i think ur hair is beautiful, natural or not"
awww....how sweet is that?
 
The salon i work at is across the alley from a bar and we went out back to smoke and this drunk guy stumble out the bar and over to me and yells "how big is ur tits omg".  He came directly at me with his hands out like frankenstein opening and closing his hands.  Mike (the guy im crushin on) stepped in and pushed him away and told him to leave. 
awww....how sweet is that?
 
He seems pretty shy around me as far as  actually asking for my number or telling me he likes me so i was pretty shocked when he boldly said "id love to see u again sometime, u should come see me in omaha"  hehe...how sweet is that?
 
I told him i would and he gets all giggly and grins and says "well, thats great i cant wait"
 
He wanted to kiss me so bad i could tell.  Everytime we were standing kinda close to eachother and i was talking he kept starring at my mouth and grinning...ahh but he did not make a move...i need help.
 
He is leaving on mon and tonight is friday and the only night im prolly gonna ever see him again and he is too shy to make a move and so am i.  I need to fascilate this a bit. 
 
Somehow i need to make it clear that i want him without seeming like a whore or desperate.
 
Help? anybody?
 
Im coloring his hair tonight and again we will be the only two people at the salon.
 
I want to kiss him so badly. 
 
I feel like im in hs again.
 
WHAT DO I DO???  Im worried hes gonna puss out and not even ask for my number but there is not a doubt in my mind he wants me bad.  How do i get him to speak up...
 
Ive already flirted pretty obviously...we had an awkward moment of silence and he was like "maybe we should just color my hair tonight, do u have time?"
and i said "well yea i have time but if i did it there would be no reason for u to come back tomorrow"
 
He got all aww shucks looking and said "That is an excellent point, u cant do it tonight i definitly need to see u again"....see?  Isnt that a clear cut "i want u"
 
Ill regret it forever if we let this little teasing charade go on without either of us doing something. 
 
I NEED ADVICE!!!


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  • Sunshine_Mariah said on Mar 28, 2008....
    Aww that's so cute. I'm afraid I have no advice other than just be your sweet self. I do hope someone offers some good advice to you though. I'd love for you to find something with this guy. He seems like such a sweetie! :-) Good luck. And keep us posted.
  • starchini said on Mar 28, 2008....
    aww thanks mariah!  I know i feel like a fool posting this but im seriously retarded when it comes to be single...this is my first time.  Ive been taken since i was 15 so this is a new experience...Thanx for caring about my seemingly small problem. :>
  • hottips4u said on Mar 28, 2008....
    Log on and let him read this post, then kiss him ; )

    simple enough and you don't have to say a word, which is cool to since kissing and talking don't normally happen at the same time.

    Hope it works out for each of you.  Happy weekend.
  • SeanRenaud said on Mar 28, 2008....
    Honestly?  Slut it up.  Some guys (me) for example don't take hints very well.  OR you know at all.  You can hug me, flirt with me touch me and lay in bed with me and I"ll still keep watching television.  IT doesn't mean I don't want you, and badly it just means that It's rare that I'll make the first move.
     
    This guy is obviously into you and he's too shy to make the first move.  Honestly just walk up kiss him and say you were afraid he'd wouldn't do it, then flatter him by saying it's nice that he's a gentlemen so you don't make him sound like a wuss. Hopefully he'll take it from there but if not go for it. 
  • uniquely-ironic said on Mar 28, 2008....

    I think giving him the first kiss is a good idea.  It's not too forward at all.  (I mean really, we're not in the victorian age any more) 

    Just be honest about it and tell him what you obviously feel.  (example: "It would be a shame if you left and I didn't get to kiss you or something ...... ")

    More importantly, are you sure you're up for what appears to be a long distance relationship? (at least to start with)

  • starchini said on Mar 28, 2008....

    hottips!  i cant do that! my blog is way too honest and crazy!  If i let him know my handle id have to be boring so as not to appear like the freak that i am.  lol 

    Sean...im beginning to see that men can be a little dense on this matter...im scared i will have to make a move.  But that is terrifying, for me to just go for it!  I dont know how some women do it.  What if i read him all wrong and its only me that can cut the sexual tension with a knife?  Id be worried id go for it and him be like "woah! wtf?"  I would die.  I would really, my heart would stop and id keel over dead right at his feet.  There is no way i can do something in guy code that makes it obvious...other than a woman flat out going for it with u what hint do u think u actually would register? 

    Ive sorta prepared for the slutting it up a bit part, im in my best do me outfit.  Shirt goes down to there, snug fitting, sexy but hugging jeans...black leather boots with a 4 inch spike heel...

     

  • FutureGoddess said on Mar 28, 2008....
    Follow your heart, not your head - just be yourself and things will progress from there if they are meant to be.  :)
  • MissMimi said on Mar 28, 2008....

    I think what you said to him about not coloring his hair that night was very sweet.  I dunno, maybe when he comes in and you're working on his hair, casually touch his arm or his shoulder every now and then, lean in a little closer than is strictly necessary?  If he's still putting out signals that he's interested, i wouldn't have a problem with telling him straight away that you'd really like to kiss him.  What Sean said makes sense to me.  Some guys just don't get subtle hints.  My husband didn't either.  I like what he said about complimenting him on being a gentleman.

    So, star... black leather boots with a 4 inch heel?  You want him to hyperventilate?  ;)

  • starchini said on Mar 28, 2008....

    Oh unique, this is why im completly nuts.  I cant have a relationship with him.  I live 3 hours away from him and ya he invited me to omaha and said hed be down for haircuts but c'mon?  It wont be able to go anywhere.  Im just in lust and i just want one night.  I dont expect a relationship...does that make me a slut?  I havnt really even thought about sex...i mostly just want to go to like 2 or third base : > id settle for first but second base would be ideal...third maybe, homerun prolly not.  U'all are confirming my worst fear...im gonna have to make the move. 

    But i dont wanna. That is my last resort...what can i do to push him further and hopefully relieve me of that duty?

  • starchini said on Mar 28, 2008....
    Future...but we are on a time crunch, after tonight there are no more chances...
  • secretlife said on Mar 28, 2008....
    oh you gotta go for that first kiss.
    suck it up and just go for it.
     
    prepare a little card....inside put your phone number.
    it doesn't have to say anything more than ......hey, i really like you!
     
    good luck!!!
  • starchini said on Mar 28, 2008....
    Mimi YES! I want him to attack. : >  Sean did give pretty good advice...i think he needs to invite more men over to add to it.  I like the intense flirting idea...me making the first move move is my last resort...in that area im painfully shy...perhaps a sensual shampoo is in order?  I could get his motor runnign with my amazing shampoo...hmm...Maybe a back rub while the color is processing?  Im going for obvious but not desperate...ugh, i cant help but think hes concocting his own plan right now..lol..im SOOO NERVOUS!!!
  • crybabylu said on Mar 28, 2008....
    sorry, star, I can't help you on this one. I am from the 'old school', and this is out of my realm of expertise. I do wish you the best.
  • GrapeKoolaid said on Mar 28, 2008....
    I'm with Sean on this one.  Guys(myself included) are pretty clueless when it comes to picking up dropped hints.  Some of us(myself included sometimes) are too chicken to do anything about it even if we pick those hints up. 

    A single kiss will alleviate all this tension. 

    Good luck tonight. 
  • starchini said on Mar 28, 2008....
    SECRET!!! LMAO!  ive got the card prepared...its my business card with my cell number on the back and a little heart next to my number : P...IM SUCH A DORK!  What can i do to make it obvious to him BEFORE i go in for the kiss?
  • starchini said on Mar 28, 2008....
    crybabylu, im with u i have ZERO experience in this department...im twenty but am very oldfashioned too...but i want him soooo bad, i need to get modern and just do it.  ugh....RAHH
  • uniquely-ironic said on Mar 28, 2008....
    As uncomfortable as you might be making the first move I still think you need to do it.  If you're being honest about just a one night experience than if you make the first move that puts you in the driver's seat with this relationship such that it is.
     
    You've got it in you to do it. 
     
    The very worst thing that might happen is that you don't get a kiss back, which will pretty much answer your questions about how interested he is.  No harm no foul.  The best thing would be that you'd spend time together and you'd both enjoy it a lot.
  • starchini said on Mar 28, 2008....
    Grape...u may be clueless but what would be a clear cut "KISS ME NOW U FOOL" signal that u would understand.  I need to let him know that he wont be rejected and hopefully without me having to grab his shoulders and go in for a smooch...
  • starchini said on Mar 28, 2008....

    oh unique, that thought crossed my mind too...if im never gonna see him again after tonight than if i go in for the kiss and he hates it no biggie i can kick him out of the salon and hed be gone forever...i still thing id keel over and die on the spot.  Im sure of it.  My heart would stop beating.  Id regret not doing anything at all even more though...hmmm...its a thinker....

    ok...so full on passionate frencher or just a peck?  ooo ive got butterflies.

    hes soo handsome...a little too old for me though...  : / 

  • uniquely-ironic said on Mar 28, 2008....
    Hey watch it!!  There is no such thing as too old when it comes to lust and/or romance!! ;)  (must be feeling my age today)
     
    I was once in a position where a relationship had gone just up to the "do or die" point.  I ended up just doing it and was wonderfully rewarded for my false bravery.  In the end it didn't work out and it did sting for awhile but I have never regretted the time spent.  I can't imagine spending the rest of my wondering what would have happened.
     
  • starchini said on Mar 28, 2008....

    RAHRAHRAHRAHRAHRAHRAH....ok....so its become clear that everyone thinks i need to make the first move...how do i do that?  Do i wait before or after the color?  Do i do it before we are about to say goodbye forever or do i do it in the middle of conversation?  Do i give him a sweet hug with a kiss on the cheek?  Or do i grab him and give him the most passionate kiss of his life?  Are u starting to understand im very inexperienced in this....

    I remember the one time i did have to fascilitate was with david and i didnt even mean to...I really had something in my eye and walked up and put my face really close to his and asked "do i have something in my eye?" He looked at me and pretended to search for an eyelash when he grabbed the back of my head and kissed me....later he told me he thought it was a line...

    Should i try that again?  it worked so well with david....is that dumb?

  • uniquely-ironic said on Mar 28, 2008....

    Okay, now you're just being silly.

    Grab the man, plant a big ol' wet one on him and see how he reacts. (give it a couple of seconds)

    Why are you making this so hard on yourself?!!!

  • secretlife said on Mar 28, 2008....
    i'm trying to remember when i was 20 and shy.......that's a big stretch for me!
     
    if you see something in his face that tells your gut that he wants to kiss you, then you're looking at the perfect moment to go for that first kiss.
     
    i betcha he even takes credit for making that first move later!
  • starchini said on Mar 28, 2008....
    ah unique...he infact is a lil too old for me...im 20 almost 21 on May 4th.  and he is 38...lol...im a sucker for the older men.
  • starchini said on Mar 28, 2008....

    lol i dont know why im making such a big to do out of it..ive never in my life made a first move...it sounds so scary just laying it all out there.  i dont know how men do it..

    secret, ill definitly try to go for the face read.  Im gonna go for it...what the hell? right.  U only live once.

    ima do it.  im just plant a big wet one on him.  the second i get that funny feeling like he wants to but is too chicken..

     

  • SeanRenaud said on Mar 28, 2008....
    I'm only exagerating a little bit when I tell you my Kitten was giving me my first blow job when suddenly this light in went off in my head.  She likes me!  She's not inviting me over to her house every Sunday to play Playstation cus I'm helping her through games she can't beat! 
     
    The day after was fun.  Uh Brad did you know that Kitten likes me? "Duh she's your girlfriend"  Since when?  "Since a month ago, you know she sits at your feet (I sat on the table she'd sit between my legs on the bench) and you send her little notes and all she does is talk about you.  Duh."  Why the fuck didn't anybody tell me?  "We figured you knew."  Oh.  Don't assume.
  • diabolicdame said on Mar 28, 2008....
    Hey starchini.. I think you should just kiss him! just do it! What have you got o loose? If you're probably not gonna see him again then you're already in a desperate situation. And desperate situations call for desperate measures. Make it a sensual kiss.. Soft, peck on the lips.. Maybe when you're standing close to each other. That way it'll look natural and not desperate at all.. as if it just "happened".. Then lean back n look into his eyes and let him take over. If he backs off then you can just laugh it off.. No big deal.. At least you'll know you gave it a chance.. But it sounds like he's dying to kiss you himself.. So all the best ;-) 
  • SeanRenaud said on Mar 28, 2008....
    You could also wear a short skirt, sexy panties and start dropping shit in front of him.  Course like I said that still might not work.  As a general rule (least with me) understand.  Subtle hints don't work.  Strong hints don't work.  Obvious hints don't work.  You know what works?  Telling me what you want!  If you think i took a subtle hint you're dead wrong, I was just in a gambling mood and took what I wanted and hoped you wouldn't call the cops.
  • Fallyn said on Mar 28, 2008....
    give him your business card if you have one...with your personal number written on it......that might not be obvious enough though.
  • starchini said on Mar 28, 2008....

    oh seany...lol, i didnt shave my hoo hoo this morning in hopes that it would prevent me from going all the way.  Ive slept with guys i thought were hot when i knew it wouldnt go anywhere and during was awesome but afterward i felt cheap and dirty.  So today i threw on the granny panties in hopes it would prevent me from being a whore.  So i dont want to sleep with him.  I just want to get mildly nasty with him : )  Even though a one night stand at my salon is a fantasy ive dreamt off.  Going at in the swivel chair...mmm...Thats hilarious it took u so long to realize u had a gf.  My shirt is so low cut and i think my breasts are hotter than my ass so dropping things infront of him is an idea ive thought off lol..i dont really need to bend over though..standing upright im already flashing a bunch of cleavage. 

    But seriously sean aside from actually going in for the kiss myself is there anything i can do that would turn his light on and think "she likes me, im going for it"  aside from kissing him first?  anything?  Words wise i mean...w/o sitting on his lap or bending over?  Is there a sentence i can say then men translate as "kiss me u fool!"? 

    Diabolic:  Thats a relief u think he wants to kiss me too...If by mentioning the things that hes plain out said to me and not even mentioning the body language means he wants me than i know for sure.  lol, we were in the back room bullshitting and he asked me if i had gum.  I gave him some and he chews it for like 60 seconds and spits it out...lol...i dont know about u but that told me that he wanted fresher breathe to kiss me with, but then he DIDNT! 

    Fallyn...what if i put little hearts all around my number?  haha...MEN!!! why are they so dense.  I wish he werent so shy, ive been around complete strangers that tried to kiss me but the second that i actually like a guy hes painfully shy.  RRRAAAAHHHH!!!!

  • starchini said on Mar 28, 2008....
    funny side note: i dont have a lighter today and am lighting smokes with a candle...i just accidentally dipped the tip in the wax and my cigarette tastes like "lemon Garden" hehe...
  • vacantmind said on Mar 28, 2008....
    Flirt as you color his hair. But, if he still doesn't get it, you kiss him before he leaves. Don't let him walk away not knowing the feeling is mutual.
  • starchini said on Mar 28, 2008....
    Vacant,  ok, ill try flirting a little more obviously...so far this is the flirting ive been doing all week...Direct eye contact when hes talking, my eyes dont break away at all. Smiling, im smiley naturally but no matter the situation ive had a huge shit eating grin on my face around him...not even on purpose i just like him a lot and hes so cute i cant help but grin around him : ) Ive asked lots of personal questions about relationships making sure hes single and such.
     
    One thing i could do more of is compliment him.  Like when he told me i have a beautiful smile i shoulda said something like "u too" or "i love u" lol j/k...but i didnt respond with a compliment to him i just said thank u and starred at the floor giggling : P  im such a dork.
  • Fallyn said on Mar 28, 2008....
    little hearts might work *giggling*
  • TaintedAtBirth said on Mar 28, 2008....
    too late for me again

  • starchini said on Mar 28, 2008....

    Tainted its not too late! i need more opinion the problem is not resolved yet... please help!

    fallyn lol.

  • SeanRenaud said on Mar 28, 2008....
    LoL the problem was solved.  By me, hours ago.  And contrary to normal universes most people agreed with me instead of saying I'm an idiot.  You just don't like the answer.
  • CayenneMan said on Mar 28, 2008....

            starchini, being honest I think you should walk away from this . . . I really think you're in the wrong line of work.    awww .... how sweet is that?  I'm just telling you sraight up you are just planting seeds that will grow up to bring you more frustrations into your life than you will ever need. You are in a situation that you need to remove yoursef from.  awww .... how sweet is that? You are young and when the right guy comes along you will know it and won't have to ask advise about him. You can go along with your game plan have a few minutes of happiness only to be shaken with a few memories. awww .... how sweet is that? It's not worth it. Find a good guy , not one of your clients but a good local guy . Someone is out there you just have to find him or he has to find you. There is nothing wrong with having a relationship with an older man but with your line of work in this case your setting yourself up for what could be a big fall. I'm sorry but this is my advise to you awww .... how sweet is that?                 

    I'm sorry if you don't like what I have said but that is my advise to you . Good luck and happy trails.       Hey, I like your smile.                              

  • polarheart said on Mar 28, 2008....
    Star, I didn't read all the answers, but I'd say go with the flow.  You are reading the signs and he needs some encouragement. . .dont get too nervous, just be natural.  Honestly, live in the moment and do what feels right :-))
  • starchini said on Mar 28, 2008....
    grrr...ok, ok...then, thank you!  Ill do it.  Ill go in and kiss him.  Ill tuffin up and stop being a sissy girl and just do it!  Thank you
  • starchini said on Mar 28, 2008....
    Thank u polar...i will
  • lfbno7 said on Mar 28, 2008....
    My only advice is to be honest with him.
  • SeanRenaud said on Mar 28, 2008....
    Hey I gotta be honest about my opinion.  I make a horrible liar
  • Mamie said on Mar 28, 2008....
    just be yourself star! And have a good time, too much prep will make things awkward, go with the flow and have a blast! M
  • starchini said on Mar 28, 2008....

    Cayenne u must of sent that whilei  was in the middle of a comment.  Love the sarcasm...awww...how sweet is that?  I like ur butt. : P ... well im not gonna walk away but i think i might just be myself and see what happens...hows that? 

    lfbno, im gonna, i think. . i plan too but sometimes my plans go terribly wrong

    sean i appreciate ur honesty.

    ok mamie...im going to go be myself with him in a half an hour

    Thanks guys tomorrow ill tell u all how it went!  love u

  • Fallyn said on Mar 28, 2008....
    good luck!

  • dyingman said on Mar 28, 2008....
    He leaves Monday for WHAT? 
    Spring break or something?

    If he's gone for good, who's gonna know what a "whore" you are?  Send him off qwith whatever you feel like doing.

    Wash his hair, when you're rinsing his hair in the sink get some water in his eyes and as you towel him off, plant one on him.
    Insist on cutting his hair after that. 
    The waiting will be borderline unbearable.

    But don't be cruel.  Men are pathetic simple creatures. 


    *DM
  • LadyGamer said on Mar 28, 2008....
    You give him your number. Easy as pie. You can even blush while you do it. But do it. Have it written down before he gets there so you just hand it over.
  • quietone said on Mar 28, 2008....
    Well I got here really late... missed all the fun, but by the looks you have some excellent help/advice.. I can't add to what has already been said.. go girl, you have nothing ot loose!  :)
  • RollingC said on Mar 28, 2008....
    I can't really give you any advice except to follow your instincts and go with the flow. 
    I think that you should maybe ask him out (if he's from out of town) and hint that if you go to his hometown he can return the favor.
    Other than that just be yourself and have fun !
    Rc
  • D6fer said on Mar 28, 2008....
    oops! got here too late......well....if I would have gotten here earlier, I would have asked 1st what you were wanting "long term"
    If you proceeded with the plan above there wont be a "long term"
    Gotta make those boys work for it!
  • Twylarants said on Mar 29, 2008....
    And if I'd have gotten here last night I would have said, "He's twice your age and you're afraid he's gonna turn you down? Does he have a pulse?"


  • scipio said on Mar 30, 2008....
    Take it easy. Have a cool head and think do what you feel is right.
  • Mamie said on Mar 30, 2008....
    well????
    don't leave me hanging here! :))
  • silverwhisper said on Mar 30, 2008....
    what LG said. she's full of sense.

    ed
  • starchini said on Mar 30, 2008....
    oh wow guys.  i loved everyone advice and i cant even give enough thank yous!  Thank you so much u guys really helped me out and its sunday and im gonna write my blog about what all happened right now!  Cant wait for u all to read it bc i need more advice...im in quite a pickle dick.  : P

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