It's been 2 months since the breakup, and even though I've been pretty good about not calling her (last time was 3 weeks ago), I'm still reminded of her just about every single day. Whether it's passing by the goddamm fish store where we got our goldfish or drinking diet soda, which is the only type of soda I now drink thanks to her, I am reminded every day. My friend Stacy told me there's an equation for the mourning period. It basically takes a person half of the duration of the entire relationship to get over someone. According to this theory, it should take me one year to get over her, since we were together for two. One year is quite a lot of time, if you ask me. So for one year, I mope and play mind games with myself and drunk dial her at 3am and have meaningless sex with other people to get revenge and listen to Morrissey, then after the year is up, life goes on just like nothing happened? I sense a flaw in this equation. I know some guys who've never gotten over their first girlfriends. These guys would take their old girlfriends back even today. This is assumming that these girls look like they did at the time of dating, of course. So back to my breakup. I want this madness to stop, and it's not like I still really love her, but I don't hate her, and she did the breaking up. The problem is that I believe there's a reason for everything, but with this situation, I cannot begin to think of a possible reason for this, and it's killing me.
bbot posted on Apr 04, 2006
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anonymous said on Apr 04, 2006....
I feel for you. I was in the same boat a couple years ago, and it took me over a year to get over my relationship. I think it depends on the nature of the breakup, which you didn't really specify in your post. With me, it was his growing co-dependency and then he had trust issues with me, which he had no reason to have. I ended it, but it was much more painful for me, I think, because I still loved him. When I met other men, I was cautious of getting serious with them because I felt that they could slowly change on me too. But you do end up moving on, and there is a light at the end of the tunnel, so hang in there! -
anonymous said on Apr 05, 2006....
All things in life are fleeting. Mourn for too long and you'll miss out on time you'll wish you could get back. -
danetteb said on Dec 04, 2006....
Since this was posted 8 months ago, I'm hoping that you feel better.
I hope you have conquered the sadness, and all the memories.
I don't think one can ever completely forget someone of who you were so fond, but after dealing with the pain, the sting gets removed from the memories.
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anonymous said on Nov 16, 2007....
At risk of sounding like a philosopher, it takes as long as it takes to no longer languish when those thoughts come. -
TaintedAtBirth said on Nov 16, 2007....
Sorry, I posted as anonymous above as I didn't realize how easy it was to just register.
I do wish you the best.
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