I'm going through something right now that I can't talk to anyone about...no friends or family that I feel I can confide in. I have been married for almost 8 years now, and have been through several problems in our marriage... including drug problems. My husband was addicted to a certain substance but was able to quit using it and went back to grad school and is now living a successful life. We have a little baby girl, almost 2 now.
But recently, he has started to drink more than just socially. He goes out on weeknights and drinks with friends (i've never met) not to come home until 1 or 2 am.. sometimes 6 am! Last week, he got home when I was waking up to get ready for work.. I get upset everytime and it's the same cycle. I cry, he apologizes and life goes back to normal. But last night he did it again. And the day was a normal day. He was supposed to meet me at my parents house, but did not come home at all. I called and called to find out where he was. I had last spoken with him at 5:30 pm and he said I'll meet you there at dinner time (around 8pm). He never got there, so I called and called but he never answered his phone.
Later, around midnight, he finally answered and was slurring his words so bad I could barely understand him. I told him not to come to my parents house in that state. He went to his friend's place. He comes home this morning trying to apologize and hug me.
But I've had it. I took him out and sat down and we talked. I told him that he has a drinking problem but he denies it. He does agree that he has gone overboard several times. He is almost 35 years old and is acting like a teenager.
I have told him I want to separate for awhile to sort things out. But I am so scared. I dont' care about myself. I just care about my little baby. She has no clue what is about to happen. If we get a divorce, she'll become one of those children who grows up with ADHD or other psych issues. And I'm sure I could find someone else to marry, but can I really find another man who will love my baby like his own???
I am so scared but I"m trying to put up a strong face. I told him he has 1 week to find his own place. Does anyone have any advice in this matter?? I'm so very scared. He's all I've ever known.. he was my college sweetheart.
