• silverwhisper said on Mar 15, 2008....

  now this is a most interesting question. i agree that self-knowledge is necessary to love someone: you cannot, in my view, give your heart to someone without knowing what that entails.
  
  ed

• rupert7 said on Mar 15, 2008....

  jenni - Is seems that at least one in three marriages ends in divorce. That means a lot of people are wed the wrong person,or there is more involved than just marrying the right person.IMHO there is a lot more to it than just being with the right person. We might think various things of ourselves but do out actions harmonize with those perceptions?
  
  I have been married twice, and still am! In my humble opinion,this is how it is!
  
  Here are some critical components to a successful relationship:
  (1) Unconditional fidelity
  (2) Honest 2 way communication all the time.
  (3) A willingness to compromise, to bend.To put the other persons interest first.
  (4) Humility. The ability to admit it when you are wrong and to apologize.
  (5) Genuine commitment and loyalty in all things.
  (6) The maturity to understand what is involved
  And a whole lot more! These thing though are essential!
  
  A good question to honestly ask ourselves is this: Am I in love with X, or an I in love  with the idea of being in love? How do I measure up to the 6 points above?
  

• beyondtheveil said on Mar 15, 2008....

  jenni- I honestly don't know how many of us are capable of accurately analyzing ourselves. As to the second question, I think love is a deep feeling that sneaks up on us and one day reveals itself of love. I don't think that can be analyzed either. 

• jenniredd said on Mar 15, 2008....

  ed-----I totally agree, thank you.

  rupert7----I really thought the stats were more like one in two marriages, maybe in Austrailia, it is different. thank you.

  beyond----It is very hard to analyze oneself, and be objective.  thank you.

• rupert7 said on Mar 15, 2008....

  Its a roller coaster!
  
  
  Divorces granted, Australia

  
  

  
  Across Australia the number of divorces decreased by 1,024 (2.0%), from 52,399 in 2005 to 51,375 in 2006. The number of divorces in Australia in 2006 represented the fifth annual decrease since a high of 55,330 in 2001. There was a 2.4% decrease in 2002, with the decline in the number of divorces slowing with each successive year to 2005.
  
  Divorces in 2006 represented a decrease of 2.1% on the number granted in 1996 (52,466), but a 30.3% increase on the number granted in 1986 (39,417).
  

• 4eyes said on Mar 15, 2008....

  love flew out on me, i did love her and i can love again. you have to know the difference between love and sex or lust. love is when it hurts.

• husbandhater said on Mar 15, 2008....

  • I've done the unconditional fidelity,check.
   
  • Honesty and two way communication? Does screaming count?
   
  • Compromise-I work 15hrs a day and have been more active with trying to find my husband a job than he has himself and this has been for a year. I'm so tired from bending and am still being yelled at b/c my methods haven't produced any results.Now I suck b/c I won't pay for him to take the post officer's test. But I keep telling him the amount of money their asking for doesn't add up and that it's not going to happen as fast as he thinks it's going to happen.
   
  • Humility I have a bit of a problem with but I've been learning to apologize.
   
  • Haven't cheated but I have no desire to be with my husband. And I'm tired of being the mature one.
   
  • I think I am in love with the idea of being in love and relize that now. Or I've fallen out of love. I have a roommate that I'm legally bound to. Do I have the propensitiy to love? Yes but I think only my children. Everything else is exhausting on all other fronts.
   

• husbandhater said on Mar 15, 2008....

  Great post by the way.

• the_infernal_optimist said on Mar 15, 2008....

  What ed said. (I swear I write longer comments, but sometimes someone comes in and says what I would've said, better than I would have stated it. ;-))
  
  Very interesting post!
  
  ~Infernal
  

• rupert7 said on Mar 16, 2008....

  husbandhater - it taker 2 to make it work. Your doing your bit and then some!

• polarheart said on Mar 17, 2008....

  Jenni, to me love is not a feeling or an emotion, it is a belief; a standard (if I may).  Love is the thing that stays when the going gets tough and the emotions fade.  Love is the thing that prevails and keeps you hanging in when it feels like your world has been turned upside down.  Love is a diamond, with many facets, a precious jewel to be treasured.

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