• wombat said on Mar 13, 2008....

  I've come back to this twice wanting to comment, but not sure of what to say.  I am just glad to read the last few lines.  (and in some ways, I could have written this post, so you are not alone.  I wonder if one of these times I can be as candid.)  All I should say here is bless you and I wish for many good days ahead.

• Lucytorial said on Mar 13, 2008....

  DITTO!

• Mr_Box said on Mar 13, 2008....

  There does seem to be something in the air around here lately. Everyone wants to get that truth out there. But it's good. It feels freeing doesn't it?
  
  
  I'm very sorry for all of the horrible things that happened to you. But you seem like you have risen above quite a lot and now have a very good life and a healthy attitude.
  
  
  I commend you.

• secretlife said on Mar 13, 2008....

  you've come a long long way.
  sometimes it only takes one person to make us believe in ourselves.  to build us back up when we've been knocked down and down.
  and to teach us the most important thing of all- how to love ourself.
  congratulations to you.
   

• evil_twin said on Mar 13, 2008....

  You have definitely been through a lot. I know what it's like to meet that person that just seems to make everything better though. And that's an amazing feeling. I still don't really know why I got so lucky, but I'm not going to question it. I'm glad you overcame. You're really strong.
  
  -evil_twin LA
  

• polarheart said on Mar 14, 2008....

  NLM, girl you've had it so tough and it breaks my heart when I read this. . .it so deeply saddens me. . .it feels like my heart is being weighed down with stone.  And yet I am so thankful that your life was saved.  That at the right time that special person came into your life to save you and to help remove you from the road of destruction.  May you continue to grow stronger each passing day. (((((((((((((((big hug)))))))))))))))))

• rupert7 said on Mar 14, 2008....

  A very hard youth you have had! Very difficult,I can't imagine it really. You have done very well to pull yourself from that hole and make a new life! And you have a good man.This is so excellent,I am very happy for you!

• husbandhater said on Mar 14, 2008....

  Speechless. Love you NLM. That's right be STRONG. I love winners. I'm one too!)

• No_Laughing_Matter said on Mar 14, 2008....

  Thank you all for such kind words. I really wanted to write more, but I guess I'm still learning to deal with all of it. Years later, and I still really keep it tucked inside. It felt good to get what little bit I did off my shoulders, and to know that I'm not alone. I have such a supportive group here, and an amazingly supportive husband. No matter how emotional or crazy I may get sometimes, he stands by my and just holds me. I cry for no reason it seems, but he knows. I love him, and I love you all.

• polarheart said on Mar 14, 2008....

  NLM, there are many people here who have experience abuse as children, many people who can identify with you.  I wanted to introduce you to TBS who recently wrote this poem about her abuse as a child.

• No_Laughing_Matter said on Mar 14, 2008....

  Polar: Thank you so much. I appreciate it more than you know :-)

• Fallen_from_Grace said on Mar 14, 2008....

  NLM -
  
  Thank you for being brave enough to share this.  As others have said - you are not alone in this suffering (although it can feel like it at times).
  
  I am amazed at how universal this story is - given how unique each of us is, how individually we suffered (often silently), faced the black abyss isolated and alone, and how each one of us separately found something or someone that grounded AND gave us wings.  I am glad that you have found yours.
  

• vacantmind said on Mar 14, 2008....

  NLM...its funny how things work out. A crappy start somehow leads to finding real love. You get an opportunity to be true to yourself.

  I am a incest and rape survivor. I had a crappy start as well. I have also ended up in the arms of my true love. I don't think that would have happened without all of my life experiences. The good and the bad. They guided my thinking and behavior.

  Let it all out. It doesn't need to be a part of your thinking anymore. It will still rear its ugly head, it won't completely go away. But, it does lose its power.

• Eilan said on Mar 14, 2008....

  I'm glad to read that last line.

• Fallyn said on Mar 14, 2008....

  people....professionals....they all say you have to grow and love yourself before you can love someone else.
  
  it just seems they underestimate so completely the value that someone loving you that way can have.
  it is so much easier to deal with EVERYTHING when someone loves you and understands.
  

• silverwhisper said on Mar 14, 2008....

  NLM, like eilan i'm really glad to read the last line.
  
  by healing enough to be able to say that, you've stopped that animal from dictating the rest of your life. if you ask me, that's too rare a thing, and i'm so very glad to see this--like too many people, i know too many people who've been through something similar.
  
  [hug]
  
  ed

• No_Laughing_Matter said on Mar 14, 2008....

  I really do appreciate you all more than you know. Thank you :-)

• crybabylu said on Mar 15, 2008....

  I am so glad you posted this.  It gives hope to others who have gone thru similar things.  I'm glad you are at a place where you can heal and that you have found that special someone who could help you do it.

  I think I was totally lost till I found my present mate. I'm glad you didn't have to wait until you were 45 like me to meet him.

  Thanks again for sharing!

• moxyspitfire said on Jul 22, 2009....

  soul sistah

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