i got my period......and i needed to run to the store for girl stuff.
i told my oldest, who happened to still be awake...well after bedtime, that i was running to the store...that papa would listen to the baby monitor and be there if she needed anything.
and she demands to know why i have to go to the store.
so....i tell her it's because i have my period.
so...what's a period.
so i start explaining...in the gentlest way i can.....
i mean there really is no easy way to explain to an eight year old that in a very few years she'll start bleeding every month.
well, and it rather freaked her out.
and she's like WHY!?
so ...i started explaining about babies.....
well, maybe i went to far.....cause i asked her if she knew what sex was.
and she said she'd heard the word but didn't know.
and i asked if she wanted to know.
and she nodded,
so i started explaining about boy parts and girl parts and how they fit together.
and she stops me quickly and says, "mom, let's not talk about that right now"
so, we just sat there in her dark room.....she was all snuggled up with me....and i was kinda rocking her.
i hope she's not too scarred.
i hope i did it in such a way that she feels comfortable knowing i will talk to her about anything.
so anyway.....have you talked to your kids? and how did it go?
my mom never told me........it was a shock.
and then it was an even bigger shock when it came back the NEXT month.
*frown*
Fallyn posted on Mar 06, 2008
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merlin said on Mar 06, 2008....
Nope my mum never told me,i was really embarased and wanted to hide it -
secretlife said on Mar 06, 2008....
my oldest was only 10 when she got her first period.i think i first mentioned it to her at about the same time you did with your daughter and i'm positive that she was horrified!after your first one, believe me, the others find out about all of these things much sooner! big mouths they have! -
uniquely-ironic said on Mar 06, 2008....
My mom was useless. She referred me to my older sister who referred me back to mom. At that point I figured they were both useless. I grabbed a bunch of magazines and went to talk to the neighbor friend. For all I knew this "problem" would go on forever so I'd better figure it out.I started talking to my daughter about it at about 10. I'd wait for her to ask for information or drop a tidbit now and then. When she was 12 we sat and had a longer conversation, bought her a little carry case for supplies and I told her to call me if she started at her dad's place. She started at 13 and we have a system worked out so that she can get her things when she needs them. -
vacantmind said on Mar 06, 2008....
Well, my first discussion was in a store. I said I needed to pick up some pads and my oldest was 7 at the time, she said "I need school supplies too." So, now we call them school supplies. I had always told them this was a part of their bodies getting ready for motherhood, if thats what they chose.Just tell them as much as they want to know. I have told all my kids about puberty and sex, I will answer absolutey anything, honestly. It is important they come to you because there is still alot of false information going around in Junior high and High school.Leave every conversations with "If you have any other questions, let me know, I will answer them." It works pretty well. I think 8 is the perfect age for that door to be opened. Your still queen of their universe and they see you in such a perfect way, they have very little doubts about what you say. -
namyogrl said on Mar 06, 2008....
I started talking to my girls around 8 as a matter of fact i just had this conversation with the youngest girl. her older sisters used to ask for supplies in code. one liked tampons the other pads, so they would ask me to buy pins and paper. the oldest is 25 now and when she comes by she will occasionally ask if i have any pins. -
Fallyn said on Mar 06, 2008....
secret, i'm sure it MUST be better to know before hand...even if thinking about it is horrifying.......it seems more horrifying to have it happen and not know what is going on! ...precisely what happened to me.
UI......do you think she comes to you to talk? ......does she feel comfortable talking to you about it?
vacant.....*giggling* school supplies. that's funny.
i thnk it almost cemented in her mind even more clearly that having children is a messy and undesirable business....she's been telling me since she was 3 that she's NEVER gonna be a mom.
namy. *grin* that's cute.......but at least they can talk about it....even if it's in code.
i still have trouble talking to my mother about it.
she's going through menopause now....so she doesn't really have supplies i can borrow if i need them.....but we always called it "girl stuff"
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Fallyn said on Mar 06, 2008....
merlin. i was horrified....as stated above.....
when it happened did you realize it was going to come back every month? or was that a shock too?
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Mr.Stupid said on Mar 06, 2008....
Maybe this is not the right place for me, but I have at least 2 daughters. They both are grown up now. My wife would send me to the store to buy pads for all of them. Sometimes I would go to costco to get them. 2 great big bags stuck together. They are called "Always" that's a good name for them because it seems like some one was always needing them. And that I was always buying them. And I was always embarrassed. The commercial says that they have wings. Have you ever thrown one though? They don't fly very good. -
Fallyn said on Mar 06, 2008....
at least 2? you aren't sure?
*giggling*
my fathers name is Phil.
he says that PMS stands for Phil Must Suffer.
me, my mom, and my sister would all be on our periods at once.
i have a lot of respect for a guy that can buy feminine products.
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Mr.Stupid said on Mar 06, 2008....
Well you should have a lot of respect for me then, because I have bought a whole bunch of them. I even had to use one once. That was embarrassing. I don't think I will tell that story just yet. -
Fallyn said on Mar 06, 2008....
but you do realize that you're making the story worse by not telling. *grin*
imagination can do SO much more damage than the actual thing.
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merlin said on Mar 07, 2008....
I thought it was a once off thing, i didnt think it would come back -
Fallyn said on Mar 07, 2008....
merlin...me too......it was not a thrilling discovery.