• PAPERBACKWRITER said on Feb 29, 2008....

  
  Hmmm, did you tell him?
  
  paper ~
  

• redrocks said on Mar 03, 2008....

  no, nut he noticed and asked me if everything was ok...

• Shameus_O'Patrick said on Mar 05, 2008....

  I'm no sex guru but I've had a lot of it with a lot of women.  
  
  I'm wondering if your not letting him get started pleasing himself before your ready for it?  
  
  And if that's the case, is there other factors like kids, time, money, etc., that are bothering you subconciously so you don't get aroused?  
  
  Like paper said,  I think the best would be to tell him and discuss, openly and honestly, with him,  what might be bothering you and why.  
  
  When I listen to my wife...  I mean really listen,  it's a kind of turn on to her.  Some close cuddling is always nice without the pressure to perform does the trick sometimes also.  
  
  If you can't get it figured out, I say have an affair.   The excitement of being with someone else always does it for me.    (JOKE)  
  
  Shamus O.
  

• redrocks said on Mar 06, 2008....

  "started pleasing himself before your ready for it".. yes, I suppose it's like that.. Thanks for stepping by :)

• bored said on Mar 07, 2008....

  get rid babe... lifes to short

• cavaliercougar said on Mar 07, 2008....

  Maybe I am strange,well,yes,I am,but most men do not regard the woman correctly.I regard my sexual partner as a fine musical  instrument.It is MY responsibility to play it to the best of my ability.As SHE sings the sweetest music,I am enhanced and enriched in turn.In talking with many people over the years,it seems few men REALLY have a clue how  to to show real love OR real skill in satifying their female.MANY men,sadly,feel no responsibility in that area-or worse,just do not care.That breeds a lot of unhappiness.,misery and divorce.There are so many magical things to discover on and in the female.I find them endlessly fascinating.I never feel more like a man than when my woman is popping off orgasm after orgasm,due my my magicaL MINISTRATIONS.If a man does not care about this end of the bargain-he is not a real man.In fact,my ejaculation is kinda anti-climatic.I am there for the woman,in all her infinite mystery and beauty.

• redrocks said on Mar 07, 2008....

  my mate is not self-centred at all.. But, well.. I dunno.. sometimes I have the impression he still doesn't know how to play me .. he goes into action when I need kindness and viceversa.. I guess it's my fault, too, coz I am not good at all at expressing this things..

• cavaliercougar said on Mar 08, 2008....

  a FEMALE FRIEND-NOT MY WIFE AND not A LOVER,BUT A VERY BRIGHT,VERY FEMINIST LADY,SAID MY CONTRIBUTION SOUNDED SEXIST AND THAT IT SOUNDED LIKE I FELT I 'OWNED' MY WIFE.DOES ANYONE ELSE THINK I SOUNDED SEXIST???I thought I was sounding,intending and feeling far from a male chauvanist pig.Maybe I understand nothing about a truly modern woman.

• redrocks said on Mar 14, 2008....

  to cavaliercougar: I do not think your comment was sexist AT ALL..

• cavaliercougar said on Mar 17, 2008....

  I feel sorry for men who do not REALLY LIKE women,as a "species",as a gender.Most shy away from such mysteries as women are.We (men) must try harder to understand (impossible) and appreciate the wonderful creatures females are and the rich textures they add to our lives and culture..Men want to USE women for their purposes-=then run for the exits..You must stay and fight ,fight for communication,expression and true intimacy.
  The physical acts that are shared,vital as they are,operate better with real communication.i know the difference.REAL sexual fullfilment REQUIRES intimate communication,not sweating in the dark.
  Thank You ,Ms redrocks,you sound like one heck of a woman.
  Strangest thing,yesterday,in bed,my wife said="you are such a girl",because I wanted to kiss,carress,snuggle,hug,fondle,rather than get right to her "needs".yes,she gets her jollies from my techniques,but I wanted a bit more "love" than she was actually in the mood to deliver.
  My wife is a show-stopper,a beauty of unreal appearence,that even in middle age,late middle age,literally leaves people (like in a Chicago airport recently) stopping and staring,but she IS spoiled,demanding and not patient always with MY needs for LOVE as expressed in FOREPLAY.Sometimes,you can do TOO good a job delivering richter scale orgasisms for HER that you become an after thought.
  I can't complain,but I guess I am a little,but nobody is perfect.I DO get tired of friends saying I have a "trophy wife".they just don't know the whole picture,and they never will.

• redrocks said on Mar 19, 2008....

  LOVED the way you talk about her.. Feels like you are in a private world full of understanding and respect. And I think that's what everyone cares and wants!

• cavaliercougar said on Mar 19, 2008....

  YES,I do love and on most level really respect my wife.She has accomplished far more than her background and original personality would have indicated.Her brain has been expanded,tested and developed.She is a bit of a ditz,but that can be overcome with proper record keeping and organizational skills.She is a bon companion in most endevors,but I don't get too much of that anymore,sadly.Her skills in front of a crowd,like teaching or lecturing,are amazing.Whether it is the Bible,the Book of Mormon,or fashion or home decor,physical fitness-whatever,she is just a wonder.She has grown away from me in some sad ways though.Thank you for your kind thoughts.

• redrocks said on Mar 21, 2008....

  I think I will add you in my list of friends :)
  Once again, it is lovely to hear these nice words about your mate. It's always nice to see people finding the right one :)))

• cavaliercougar said on Mar 21, 2008....

  Being MUCH older than you,I have seen a lot of life,a lot of relationships crash and burn around me.As a small boy of late elementary school years,i would read the monthly col.in Ladies Home Journal -CAN THIS MARRIAGE BE SAVED.Probably the only kid in the country hooked on that in the 5th or 6th grade.BUT,the point is,I have always been fascinated with females and the art of the relationship,the pitfalls,the tragedies and triumphs therefrom.My favorite movie is TWO FOR THE ROAD (look it up,buy it cheap on ebay,you will love it too).That movie deals with relationship progress,roller coaster-like twist,turns,ups,downs.

  I have very strong feelings about sex as a tool for acheiving the true intimacy that makes love last,grow and enrich ones life..In college,before my LDS mission,I could engage in sexual activity(short of intercourse) willy-nilly,it was fun,it was just great sport,a real thrill-but as I grew up,so to speak,I could not now,under any circumstances,make love to any woman,forget the "sin" aspect,that I was not totally in love with.The acts are too precious to me,now,to waste on recreation.I don't judge or condemn those who don't share me opinion,but I have to be true to my beliefs and soul.The SPIRITUAL spects of sex are not often appreciated.I  really believe sex IS better with someone you love.The ability to learn about each other,to explore the other,to SATISFY the other,is far greater in a LOVE relationship with some degree of permanence..YOU  are obviously one heck of a woman,who deserves true happiness in this life.I enjoy your spirit.Hope to read more of your musings in the future.

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