I wrote a blog some time ago about my father-in-law, and the fact that I disliked him intensely. The further along I move in my marriage to his son, the more I dislike him. Last night, for the first time, I found myself looking at my husband's behavior and seeing my father-in-law.
We had company for dinner, and all through the evening, he kept making little comments about how I couldn't be left to my own devices, and that he needed to watch me so I didn't get into trouble. Now he'd smile and make it look like a joke, and his brother laughed, but the more he did it, the more pissed off I got. Sometimes you can just tell when a comment made in jest hides the truth. My father-in-law was a chauvinist of the highest order and used to make demeaning comments about his wife all the time. He was a sarcastic, mean-spirited man. We're going to have a real problem if B starts to do the same thing.
I always thought these kinds of remarks were just B's way of being funny, and he really didn't mean anything by them. Now I'm not so sure. He as much as said that he does it to see if he can get a reaction out of me, and he keeps escalating the stupidity until he gets me to react.
Just one more layer of brick in the wall between us.
