• SeanRenaud said on Feb 24, 2008....

  The right answer here is still dump his ass.
   
  That said it's just sex, sex doesn't mean anything it's the emotions and the connection you and he share that's important.  It's pretty much like saying that if there is somebody out there that you hate, you can't fight anybody else.  It makes no sense.
   
  It's not cheating if you are open and honest about it.  If he requests it, it's not cheating not in the least.  So you can just push that part out of your head because it's not true.  It's your perception of it.  In many ways the true test of a submissive is if you do something that you are obviously uncomfortable with.  Otherwise who's to say that you aren't just doing things that you already wanted to do? 
   
  If you're really trying to make it work my suggestion is that you either A talk to him and see if you can talk him out of this, B shut the fuck up and do it.
   
  The reality is that even as a submissive you have limitations.  You may or may not know what they are but they are there and if you think they aren't you're either lying, mistaken, or insane.  If sharing is a limit you can't get past then you need to find yourself a new Master.

• anonymous said on Feb 26, 2008....

  The answer is no, not in all D/s relationships do people share.  That's because they are as individual as the people involved in them.  What you need to do, is sit down with your master as equals and come up with a contract.  You need to spell out your limitations, and he needs to spell out what's expected of you.  This is usually the way it's done, and in this way you avoid misunderstandings.  If you can't agree during this stage, you may not be right for each other.
   
  May I suggest the website www.asubmissivesjourney.com ?  They will give you some guidelines and support. 
   
  Your master has accepted a huge responsibility.  He must learn to push your comfort zone and sexually challenge you while respecting your limitations.

• sweet_rose said on Mar 02, 2008....

  Adding another is a huge change. I am speaking from a stand point of someone who has done it. The relationship needs to be concrete first. Then you have to have rules about protection, and who you both see. There is a number of things to consider. You may always be hesitant about something you Master desides. But being miserable means there is more for you to talk about with your Master. Not everyone is "polyamorous" (look it up if your not sure the meaning)
   
  My Dominant and I have had some very serious challenges adding another. If the two of you are still new, it can break any relationship.
   
  Have you signed a slave contract about this subject included? When the two of you went through the check list of things you would do. Did you check off being "poly"? If you have not talked about or gone through these few simple thing. Red light is flashing and it needs to be talked about.
   
  rose

• sweet_release said on Mar 02, 2008....

  rose, you are a superstar. Thanks.

• pusscat said on Mar 06, 2008....

  I just wanted to say that sweet rose is the most amazing woman and sub you could ever have contact with.  I have never failed to be moved and enlightened by her desire to help any sub here on SC that she can.  She has great insight, compassion and love and personally I believe she is always right in her advice / views.
   
  pc xx

• sweet_rose said on Mar 06, 2008....

  Thank you pc. I have been through a lot, and I read and listen as well. All of us give each other advice, and different views. It is what makes us all strong women. sweet_release.. pusscat... I think You both are super stars as well! rose

• sweet_release said on Mar 07, 2008....

  Hey pusscat, nice to meet you. 

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