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In my profession, I come across various types of people, but for this blog, I am going to divide them into two different groups..Group (1) Those who like to make others feel guilty. (2) Those who like feeling guilty. First point, why do people try to make you feel guilty about things? Well, it depends what they are trying to get out of you. If it is your parent, he is either trying to get you to change for your own good, or he is trying to get you to change for his own good. Hard to tell sometimes which it is but if you take a couple of steps back, and really look at it, sometimes you can tell. Is this something that is going to improve your life if you change, or his life if you change. Yet, it still isn't that simple at times, because sometimes what is going to improve your life will also improve the lives around you.
There is a purpose for guilt. If you are truly in the wrong, and you need to turn around and go in a different direction. Only you can be the true tester of that. So, if someone points something out to you, examine it, consider it, see if it applies, then make the decision whether or not to change it.
If it proves to be false that someone is trying to heep on you in order to control you and that is the only justification for it, then throw it off. Simple as that. I had to tell my wife this today, because she was unhappy about something someone has been accusing her of. I said, Dee, is the accusation true? She told me no it wasn't, so I said to her, then why are you troubling yourself with something that is strictly that person's opinion, because you can't do anything about someone else's opinion.
That is a big question for some people. They care what others think of them. I said, why would you care what this person thinks of you? Who are they to you and what do they have to do with our lives. The answer is obvious. Absolutely nothing! Some people enjoy inflicting emotional and mental pain on others and they will try to use any tool they think they possess to achieve that goal.
Now, you might look at all of this and say, well shame on them because they are trying to hurt another person. I say shame on us. Any of us who allow someone else to have that kind of power in our lives. Don't get me wrong here now. If you are in the wrong, then you need to make the neccessary changes, but if you are not, then don't accept that guilt.
