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Johnny...Johny...Johnny! 
Wished we had known. No one even knew you were sick, your wife said you weren't so why are you no longer with us?
 
I got the call at 2 AM.  I had just gotten back a few hours earlier having performed a wedding for a young couple 45 miles west of us.   Now, it was time to redress and head East.
 
His wife was in hysterics, because there was no evidence he was even sick.
The preliminary report is that his heart just up and stopped.  His mom was my first cousin, and she died at the ripe age of 89.  My other cousin, his mom's brother, is 87 and still living, although he went through a quaudruple bi-pass last year.
 
He was heart sick that his only nephew from his sister is now gone.  We just never know.  57 is considered young.  He is a year older than my wife, of course, we would have expected it on her.   She thought about it too.  She said, hun he was just one year oder than me, and supposedly in good health.........


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  • crybabylu said on Feb 24, 2008....

    You had quite a day yesterday, and still you got up and drove back 45 miles to church. sorry about Johnny,hun.

    dee

  • davidstar said on Feb 24, 2008....
    Sorry about your cousin, JR.
  • gingersoul said on Feb 24, 2008....

    Papa.....you are right.....57 is really too soon to die....and in such sudden way....i am very sorry for your loss. But since it was his time to go...better he did it while sleeping...with no long suffering....there must be a solace for you and Dee in this thought....

    That picture of him is so touching.......{{hugs}} 

  • Mamie said on Feb 24, 2008....
    aw, I am so sorry about your cousin. That is so shocking. I am especially close to my cousins from North Carolina. I grew up with them and we spent summers together. My cousin (girl) who is my age (47) just had a heart attack. I cannot begin to explain the feelings that came up. I was so beside myself and so upset. I am happy that she is home recovering now and that I was able to say out loud all that I wanted her to know. I love her and she knew it but it has been a while since I took the time out to really, really let her know.
    Thanks for the reminder...life is so precious. My prayers to you and your family. Mamie
  • pickersplock said on Feb 24, 2008....
    Wow, 57 is most definitely too young to die. 
    I'm so sorry.
  • rupert7 said on Feb 24, 2008....
    57....my age, I am not ready to go  - way too young....I am sorry to hear this - way too young. I suppose the consolation for him is that he died in his sleep. There is no good way to die but that probably is the "best." Sounds awful I know,I mean painless and peaceful ( I hope anyway) I am sorry.

  • crybabylu said on Feb 25, 2008....

    JR is especially close to this cousin, because his uncle grew up in the same house with JR.  We talked to him on the phone last night and he said that this was the only nephew he ever had, and now he is gone,and the problem with being 89, you see youngsters that you watched come into the world pass on before you.

    I told you that JR grew up in and extended family like myself, and he used to refer to (the man on the phone) as his (brother -cousin) because they grew up like brothers. It was his nephew who died. He lived 60 miles from us, and had just moved into a fabulous house.  His mother died of Alzheimers two years ago.  She was 86, and I know that took a toll on him providing care for her. The autopsy is tomorrow and maybe we will find out what the problem was. We are assuming it was heart. The last time we saw him he was telling me to take care of myself.

  • Feline'sSoul said on Feb 25, 2008....
    I am sorry to hear about the death of your cousin.
    Really really too young :/
    Keep your chin up - nobody can take away your memories *hugs*
  • papajack said on Feb 25, 2008....

    way too young!

    Thanks everyone

  • Chinalang said on Feb 25, 2008....
    LOL
  • Chinalang said on Feb 25, 2008....

  • Lucytorial said on Feb 25, 2008....
    papajack... I have no real time here tonight but saw this and want to extend my deepest sympathies, makes my own mere fractures feel insignificant to losing a loved one.

    Oh how very sad, all my love to you and your family...
  • cindylu said on Feb 25, 2008....
    I am sorry about Johnny. Mom just told me tonite. :(
  • dancingdiva said on Feb 25, 2008....
    sympathy

  • juliehalo said on Feb 25, 2008....
    I still have trouble not accepting false guilt.
  • wombat said on Feb 25, 2008....
    My condolences to you and your family.  No one is ever prepared for news like this. 
  • moonriver said on Feb 25, 2008....
    departures are always painful, at whatever age and state of health. but yes, your cousin johnny's sudden death must be a great shock to the entire family. my condolences, papa jack, dee...

  • runningbear said on Feb 25, 2008....
    sorry for your loss, papajack. I  will go find you a picture.
  • SilmeBetty said on Feb 25, 2008....
    I'm so sorry.
  • theduke said on Feb 25, 2008....
    sorry unck
  • dailyachesandpains said on Feb 25, 2008....
    I'm very sorry to read this.  That's the age when my father-in-law passed away.  My cousin passed away last January at age 23.  His wife of almost 4 months came back from class and found him.  You just never know.  No matter what age someone leaves us, it's always too soon. 
     
    {{{HUGS}}}
    Daily
  • GracefullyGrowing said on Feb 25, 2008....
    My condolances.
     
    ~Grace~
  • uniquely-ironic said on Feb 25, 2008....
    I'm so sorry for your loss.  That does seem quite unexpected.
  • sweetlife said on Feb 25, 2008....
    Photobucket

  • husbandhater said on Feb 25, 2008....
    Sorry about your cousin P.J. My condolances.
  • secretlife said on Feb 25, 2008....
    so sorry for your loss.
     
    it's true.  none of us know when our time here will be up.
  • silknsatin said on Feb 25, 2008....
    you have my sympathy.
  • RollingC said on Feb 25, 2008....
    Allow me to express my deepest sympathy to you for your loss.  Whenever a loved one leaves permanently like that without any hint there was anything wrong with them is when it hurts the most.  I am so sorry.
    (Big Hug)
    Rc

  • humorkat said on Feb 25, 2008....
    sympathy to you.
  • Battycat said on Feb 25, 2008....
    Sorry to hear about your cousin. 57 is definately too young.
  • Eilan said on Feb 25, 2008....
    I'm very sorry to hear this.  :(
  • papajack said on Feb 25, 2008....

    gingersoul.....thank you for the hugs.

    Mamie.......thank you for your prayers.

    Pickers......thank you.

    rupe......thanks so much and our prayers with you too in your loss.

    feline......thank you, I need that hug.

    China......LOL  Thank you for the candle too.

    Lucy......I really appreciate you taking the time to comment and wish us well.

    dancingdiva.....thank you for your sympathy.

    Julie.....Thank you.

    wombat........I really appreciate that.

    moonriver.......thank you for your condolences.

    bear.......thank you for that nice cross.

    slimebetty.....thank you.

    theduke.....thank you.

    daily.....it was such a shock. thanks.

    grace.....thank you for your condolences.

    UI...Thank you, it was very unexpected.

    sweetlife.....thanks.

    husbandhater.....thank you.

    SL....we sure don't, do we? Thank you.

    silknsatin.....thank you for your sympathy.

    RollingC......Very unexpected, he retired early and had just moved into new house

    humor.....thank you for your sympathy.

    pk2......thank you for the bear and flowers.

    Battycat....yes 57 is too young...I think it struck Dee hard her being 56 and ill.

    I really appreciate all of your kindness.

     

     

     

  • CreativeWoman said on Feb 25, 2008....
    I'm sorry to hear of your loss.

    CW
  • onemind46 said on Feb 25, 2008....
    awww that is so sad.  I'm so sorry for your loss.  May you find comfort in time.  Time is the great healer.
  • lfbno7 said on Feb 26, 2008....
    I wonder what are the chances of dying in your sleep without any pain, without any illness and drawn out suffering. I'd love to go that way. It seems too good to be true.
  • silverwhisper said on Feb 29, 2008....
    my deepest condolences, papajack. he was definitely too young, and having to change emotional tracks from officiating at a wedding to this...i don't think it's something i could do very well.

    ed
  • papajack said on Mar 02, 2008....

    CreativeWoman.....Thank you, I appreciate that.

    onemind......Thank you, yes time does heal most things.

    lfbno7.......At the time I wrote this post, that is what I had been told.  My brother from Arizona phoned and gave me that news.  Since then, I have spoken with Johnny's uncle and he informs me that he had been resting in the TV room and Karen hadn't seen him for awhile and she went to check on him, and as she approached him he raised up out like a sleep and was gasping, and when she reached him, he said he was sorry, and collapsed and died.

    silverwhisper......Thanks so much for your condolences.  I was glad he was able to retire at age 57 so at least he got a few years doing just what he wanted to.  I have become accustomed to switching gears when I need to.  The only difficulty I had was that I had just returned home from the wedding, and had barely enough time to change my clothes and go off in another direction.  Fatigue was my problem that early morning hour, and I spent quite a bit of time with the family.  Then went home and had a day or two to rest up before going to the funeral.

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