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This is a story about a girl, lets call for Sara. Sara just turned 23 and has been one of my best friends for 2-3 years. A while back we hooked up and she blue balled me. When I say blue ball I literally mean she started stimulating me and stopped before orgasm resulting in physical pain. After that I really didn't want any kinda of relationship with the girl other than just friends.

Sometime in December, she started flirting with me, rather intensely. I noticed this but shrug it off until a friend mentioned something. She continued flirting with me a couple times we hung out with my friend, went to the movies. She'd sit right up against me and rub my leg and other stuff. Gradually I started to flirt back, thinking maybe she changed or something. One incident, she was hanging out with me and 2 other of my friends and we went to a diner. After that, my friends wanted to go to a bar, so me and Sara left together. Nothing ended up happening that night and my friends called me on my cell and asked if we had sex. The next day we hung out with the same friends, except she brought some guy with her, Bill, who she then started to flirt with the same way she did with me only a day previous. I just shrugged it off and my friends were all like “What the fuck, wasn't she like that with you just yesterday?”

We hung out in the city with one of my friends one day soon after that, because I really didn't want to be alone with her. However the entire time she was flirting with me to the point that my friend asked if we were going out. After I told him that we weren't, he mentioned how we looked like a couple.

Then she stayed over my house and watched some movies, pulling me into a spooning position. I don't know why I gave her another shot, but she ended up blue balling me for a second time, to which she said, “sorry”. I told her it's alright, even though I knew I would be in some sort of pain shortly. She slept in the same bed as me, spooning still. The next day my friend Tony came over, my older brother was there and two of his friends. One of Sara's friends came over and she was flirting with him in front of everyone. This was the second time she did this shit to me, I was done with her. While intoxicated, she talked with her friend about the reservations they had at some crap restruant for Valentine's day. She stayed over and blue balled me after making plans with this dipshit. Mind you she did this in front of friends and family, in my house.

On Valentine's Day, the day after she pulls this with me, she ran after me and my friend Tony in a strip mall after seeing us through a window. She said, “We were eating breakfast and I saw you through the windows. My morning classes were canceled.” I don't think she remembered talking about skipping her classes in front of us last night to be with the dip-shit over my house the night before. I did pick up on her not using his name but rather the pronoun 'we', attempting to be more innocent than I know she was. Me and Tony made an excuse and got away from her ASAP.

A few days later she turned 23. She hung out with one of my best friends and fucked him. Then framed Tony for stealing her dad's money so she could get a tattoo. I started ignoring her calls a few days previous, because I didn't want to have anything to do with her. Then yesterday, she had a bar party thing. She called my cell phone 4 times and my brother's once while I was hanging out with some friends, specifically to get away from her. She has serious problems and she's off her medications.

Here comes the kicker... she recently bought an engagement ring in hopes of flying out to Hawaii to ask her ex (who broke up with her, then moved) to marry her, while simultaneously maxing out all of her credit cards. I guess we all have different ways of showing our love and commitment to each other, hers just happens to be fucking Bill, dip-shit who beat his last girl (twice), this other kid who I didn't mention here, one of my best friends, blue balling me... She seems to only be interested in fucking people who she can toss aside... people that treat her like a whore.

I never treated her like a whore. At some point that I was starting to like her, but that is long gone. Sara disrespected me worse than I've ever been in my entire life while in front of my friends and family.

If you read this, Sara, I hope you got some tact for your birthday. Never try to contact me. I won't answer and I won't contact you.


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  • secretlife said on Feb 23, 2008....
    i'm glad you came to this conclusion and i hope you stick to it!
  • PAPERBACKWRITER said on Feb 24, 2008....

    Yes, I too am very glad that you recognized your worth, and you have set your boundaries.

    You inspired me indirectly. . .thank you.

    Warmest regards,

    paper ~

    p.s.

    Thanks for leaving a comment to girl.with.brokin.heart. . .she is special to me (but i am not sure if she knows it - I brought her dad to this site, and her dad shared it with her too) . . .

    It would be nice if you could help her out, when time allows. . .I am a bit older, and  I sometimes struggle with the language of her generation (in her teens, as you might have guessed).

    Again, thanks.


  • gingersoul said on Feb 24, 2008....

    Good....i am really glad you closed the post with those lines.

    And, Sara, if you read this post.....dont contact him and leave him alone. You are pretty messed up, girl.

    TO.........I wish you better luck with your love life.....and please, dont let anybody else blu ball you..:-)

  • theobjectionist said on Feb 25, 2008....
    lol, yeah, I usually don't get blue-balled and I wasn't about to force anything on her. I just don't see the point. She could have easily just not done anything and I would have been friends. What I'm really pissed at is that she disrespected me in front of my friends, family, in my house. Today my friend who she had sex with called me up while I was working out. I texted him I couldn't get a good signal. He replied with a message that Sara said I was gay for not going to her party.

    I really couldn't believe how easily he got pussy whipped. I told him about what happened and I said, "I couldn't care less about what she does" or something along those lines like last Monday to which he replied "I don't know if I could hang out with her after knowing she did that to you". He still got her drunk and got with her. He let her call me from her phone when I didn't pick up mine. Today he sent me a text message for her. Completely whipped in absolute record time.

    Anyway, I replied to the text that she sent from his phone "I could give a shit what that ho thinks of me. I don't want to start a fight with her or anything. If she wants to start something though, I'd be glad to finish it." She also tried to IM me some bullshit poem about how she lost something, which is bullshit because she did this to herself.

    I also sent her sister a text message asking her to delete my number from her phone, hoping she'd sympathize with me or something. Way I figure it, if Sara tries to call me I might make her cry and if she doesn't I'm in the clear. I just have to introduce my friend to the concept of loyalty. I need a vacation or something good to happen to me.
  • gingersoul said on Feb 26, 2008....
    LOL.....who doesn't  need a vacation?....but you have to pick a place way way far away from her....all my sympathy...:-D
  • silverwhisper said on Feb 28, 2008....
    damn...she sounds seriously unstable. can you block her number on your phone?

    ed

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