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We guys are just plain daft,but like the title says...i always do wonder. The issue of size is usually only spoken about from the female point of view, or a guy just being egoistic, wanting to know if his women is content with the size of his manhood and his ability to give her all the pleasure she wants. Or from the female point of view, the woman wondering what it'd feel like to have a man of larger size, i guess.
Anyways, this is hardly an issue of ego or sexual lusts, i just your honest opinion-hopefully to rest my questions.
We're great together. We've been dating for 4years now, looking towards getting married soon after we're abit settled with jobs. I love everything about her- she's intelligent, witty, we're soo comfortable together, and clearly wild about each other. But this is where i go and spoil it all. Her size somewhat bothers me. She's petite everywhere- boobs and butt. And though i love her sooo much, i keep wondering if i will be satisfied, or if it will not be an excuse for me one day to cheat- just to have a feel of what the 'fuller woman' feels like. I guess the women will call me a rat, but i'm being sincere here...guess mayb i'm looking for u to reallay my fears and tell me again that...its not really about size, smaller women do it better, etc...But seriously...i do get concerned.
I've read once (and i do know),that when it comes to the issue of sexual fulfilment, the best way to look at it is to concentrate of giving your spouse pleasure, so i take that perspective and hold tight to that. That maybe in all my thinking i'm just being selfish and thinking about only myself. I mean, she didnt choose her body.
I tell myself too that, body changes. I mean, after one or two kids, even the bustiest of women..change does start to happen, and what will keep the relationship is the love and the friendship.
So i kow all these...but i guess i just need real life people's opinions. I mean, we're not yet married and to think that i'm even considering the thot that i myt cheat.
Like i said, us men are dogs.The demon within our pants rule us most of the time.
But here's someone that i'm mad-in-love with, i'd do anything for her, it'd be my finest dream come true to marry her and have her have my children, and i'm questioning a silly thing as the size of her breast. Am i being unnecessarily daft???Or do i have a real issue here???
Gosh i dooo love her.
 
I guess a woman with 'smaller bust', the least thing she needs is for own hubby not to be content with her size right??So what do i do? And i need sincerity!
 
Oh, she's delicious in many ways. Her long legs drive me nuts, and her lips are delicious..maybe i'm just being a greedy pig???


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  • secretlife said on Feb 09, 2008....
    if a man says he is crazy about a woman, and then follows  that with.....but maybe i might want to try someone different...doesn't it sound like a kid in a candy shop with a quarter?
     
    everything looks delicious.
    you want to try everything-
    but you've got a quarter and you simply can't.
     
    you could say...well i'm not going to get anything because no matter what i get, i won't be satisfied anyway.
    or you could say...wow, how great is it that i can get something!
     
    a woman is more than the sum of her parts.
    honest.
     
     
     
  • Lucytorial said on Feb 09, 2008....
    Secret... you said that very well.....

    Your motives sound somewhat confused... are you saying that your ideal would be her with say ***** breasts??? this kind of sheer and thin statement suggests that you are more physically based... you know materialistic.. as a women I'd be concerned about this because it means you can't accept and love me for who I am.

    I'd be more concerned with "wow, imagine what it will be like to get to know this person more and more over our lifetimes.. I truly wonder how they will grow, change they are wonderful now so maybe in years to come it will get even better! I'm lucky... she loves me for WHO I AM"


  • lfbno7 said on Feb 09, 2008....
    Pass her over this way. I absolutely adore petite women. I prefer them. I don't even understand the appeal of extra large boobs. It's nice but it is no nicer than petite ones.
  • anonymous said on Feb 10, 2008....
    You are a jerk who will cheat.  She should leave you.  You don't deserve to be married. 
  • bluegum said on Feb 10, 2008....
    peanut head... whats this drivel your on about size got nothing to do with happiness its  your brain.... anyway ask her about straying get her view on that point in marriage ,how would you feel if she strayed ,i reckon you'd feel gutted ,use your brain ,not what hangs below your belt it aint rocket science mate.
  • lfbno7 said on Feb 10, 2008....
    Maybe you would like to be in an open marriage. Then you get the variety you want, and there's no dishonesty turning your relationship into filth. It comes with its dangers though, but maybe you two could work them out. Maybe you would work as a swinging couple and you can focus on women who differ from your wife. I really don't recommend sneaking and cheating though because they are filthy things to do, like knives stuck in the back of the one person you are supposed to care something about. Some couples really should be swingers, but just don't have the guts or the originality to do that.
  • hottips4u said on Feb 10, 2008....
    You'll cheat, it not a matter if you will, but when you will.  Just don't do it when your arguing, she's pregnant, or at one of her relatives wakes.  Right now your just an ass, no sense in being a dick too !

    Hottips4u
  • wild-ting said on Feb 10, 2008....
    You're not being a greedy pig. It's a curiosity that you have. Have you ever been with a larger bust woman? If yes, and you enjoyed it I suspect you are just longing for that again. However, since you picked your current mate of four years knowing that she has a petite figure and small breasts, it couldn't have been a deal breaker for you.

    Or maybe you really love her, fantasize about a future life with her but "something" just isn't right? Something gnawing in the back of your brain is saying..."Hold on a minute buddy, this ain't the one."

    I dated a guy for five years (more on than off). To some the logical next step was marriage. But not to me. There were just too many things I didn't like, or that I didn't want be subjected to for the rest of my life! But that didn't mean that the relationship wasn't good and enjoyable. It was, and I loved it most of the time for all five years. But when it was done, it was done.

    Advice: If you need to fulfill your urge...do it before you are married.

    -WT
  • wild-ting said on Feb 10, 2008....
    FYI...

    My current lover is a total "ample boob man"--they don't have to be huge tits but Cs and Ds. His ex-wife is a small Korean woman B-cup. He told me that he has always enjoyed and dated women with big breasts "Why did I marry xxx?" The ex-wife's breast size had nothing to do with the break up of the marriage but he did cheat, and with big breasts women. And all his female acquaintance's/friends have large breasts. It's just what he enjoys and says he will never "settle" again.
  • Peanuthead said on Feb 10, 2008....

    Ok, let me take the comments one by one. I guess i was 'asking for it' with this topic...

    First off: You are a jerk who will cheat.  She should leave you.  You don't deserve to be married.

    If u're not spine enough to put up your name, kindly not comment on my blog. I won't dwell too much on u, i'll move on to the real people, real comments.

    Will i cheat? Honestly, i doubt it. And if anybody too wanted to be honest, i'm sure we all have the same concern at some point in time. No use being overtly saintly but i appreciate the honest opinions to this question.

    Secret: ....kid in a candy shop with a quarter?Nice analogy.U know i've found that 95% of men are like that kid in the candy shop. The yardstick for a good man is, who takes his one candy and goes home content with it right? I've found that 95% of men do cheat, will cheat at some point in time, and in most, if not all cases, its over the same greed of "Hmm, i wonder what this one will taste like?" To be honest, i feel that my overt-concern at this issue scores points for me. (Not overhyping myself!) But is it just men, really??Maybe i should take a poll for the women sake??All men do wonder what another woman will feel like in bed...i'm sure the women do too. Haven't you secret?But true like you said: a woman is more than the sum of her parts. I'll remember that. Thanx.

    Lucy: wow, imagine what it will be like to get to know this person more and more over our lifetimes.. I truly wonder how they will grow, change they are wonderful now so maybe in years to come it will get even better! I'm lucky... she loves me for WHO I AM"

    I guess i should resound that more frequently into my head. She loves me for who i am...i should shut up and do same!

  • anonymous said on Feb 10, 2008....
    Where are the guy comments??I need a guy perspective.Maybe a much older guy??
     lfbno7: Naaahhh, you can't have...sorry. I'm screwing my head back together.
    Darn i'm really looking like the bad person here?!I really am not.
    Open marriage, no way- don't go down well with my belief/faith. Thanx, i'll pass.
     
    Bluegum: oooh, if she cheated?!That's one way i do look at it.My heart would just burm if that happened. For that sake i try to quiet my own demons.
  • Peanuthead said on Feb 10, 2008....
    THE REAL ISSUE might be because of this our effort not to spoil what with we've got with sex. So so far, it's been 4 beautiful years of dating, but also 4 years of...(how blunt can i get?) agonizing heat that is nowhere near being queched! Quaint u might say-i.e sexless dating, keeping for marriage. I do belief in it, at least i always have and reckoned i will work it out that way, but i guess when push come to shove and u're 4 years without it, u start to wonder that...'hey i'm no superman!' So maybe i'm only just (how blunt can i get?) in need??Women could probably wing it, but for a guy, that's usually just torture. Maybe that ought to be what i should be addressing- my horniness. (how blunt can i get?)
     
  • Peanuthead said on Feb 10, 2008....
    Wild: That was real- THANX! Exactly just the honest kind of response i'm looking for.
    That's just my issue- there is absolutely nothing else wrong with her or the relationship. So, is my concern any concern???I guess i have my questions pretty much answered uh?
    I havent been with a larger woman, deep down inside i don't want anybody else...yet its just that annoying voice within that questions- what would it be like, would i some day, five yrs down the married line, wake up and wonder??Would that drive me to cheat on her?I'd hate myself if i do?
    Should i just- b4 we tie the knot-work on disciplining my mind that if i do settle down with her, that's it, all other possibilities of women r closed and done with. I never want to cheat on her. Neither now or in the future- which closes the question of trying someone else b4 i get married.
    I love ur realness.
  • Peanuthead said on Feb 10, 2008....
    Wild: The ex-wife's breast size had nothing to do with the break up of the marriage but he did cheat, and with big breasts women.
    I guess that sums up my fears exactly. I don't want to end up doing something like that 2 her. She does deserve nothing less than my 300% devotion and commitment; she's awesome.
    I should just quiet my...third leg? Not a very sexy terminology :-)!
  • Peanuthead said on Feb 10, 2008....
    WHERE R THE MEN?!!!I guess the women r more empassioned about such a topic? But come on, let me hear ur take? Where Rupe??He's the alpha older man to give some sound advice!
  • wild-ting said on Feb 10, 2008....
    It's me again.

    You said, "Women could probably wing it, but for a guy, that's usually just torture. Maybe that ought to be what i should be addressing- my horniness. (how blunt can i get?)"

    Wing it?! R U kidding me!?...no sex IS torture. As for addressing your horniness, definitely masturbate. It's a wonderful thing.

    I don't recall who commented about 95% of men will/do cheat. Well, most of them are cheating with women. So that should answer everyone's question. Marrieds cheat...it just happens. It happens for a million different reasons. The strong marriages survive and hopefully get better. If you are in a marriage that hasn't experienced a cheating spouse, you are in the minority.

    It is difficult to pin-point true numbers on infidelity because of the inherent secrecy and people's unwillingness to admit to such a thing, even in secret.

    Recent studies reveal that 45-55% of married women and 50-60% of married men engage in extramarital sex at some time or another during their relationship. ...What these findings suggest is that approximately one half of all married men and women do seek intimacy outside of their committed relationships. ... This may come as a complete surprise, but most extramarital affairs are not about sex. ... One should pay attention to the reason most people find intimacy with someone outside of their marriage is because their emotional needs are not being met. source: http://www.articles3000.com/Cheating/69649/Cheating-And-Infidelity-Statistics-Are-Men-Cheating-More-Than-Women.html
  • Shameus_O'Patrick said on Feb 11, 2008....
    My feelings concerning your dilemma are these. You sound like your immature, and I don't mean that in a derogatory way. Because of your immaturity which could partly because of your lack of experiences in living your life, learning from you experiences and gaining confidence in yourself because it.
    All people are tempted in some way. It's how they respond to the temptation that defines them as being... You decide.
    Some people cheat. it's just how they are. Others, don't cheat unless or until they are tempted a lot. Still other's don't cheat unless or until they are tempted a lot and the circumstances at the time they are tempted are such that it's to tempting to do so, so they cheat. Some don't cheat because they have values they rely upon to keep them strong and if they were to cheat they would lose respect for themselves. Others don't cheat because they are to fucking scared to.
    With those reasons in mind, maybe it would fair to yourself to relive your past experiences with temptation, how you handled it and how you felt afterward.
    Chances are if you marry the girl, you will not stay together so why worry about something you don't need to?
  • hottips4u said on Feb 11, 2008....
    Well, at least that was fucking real man.  You do that on occasion, you surprise me.

    Chances are if you marry the girl, you will not stay together so why worry about something you don't need to?

    Thats so honest its fucking sweet !

    Jessi.
  • Lucytorial said on Feb 11, 2008....
    I agree Jessi, thats the first male perspective here that comes across as honest and thoughtful...
  • GracefullyGrowing said on Feb 12, 2008....
    Lucy -  ROTFLMAO!  Good one.
     
    Peanuthead - please, please, please, be VERY sure before you marry.  Choose acceptance, or not, but be VERY sure *before* hand.
     
    ~Grace~
  • Peanuthead said on Feb 12, 2008....
    Hey Grace...
    Thanx...i think i'm pretty much done with making a choice- especially after all these talk!
    Any particular reason y u sound the warning advice? A lot of people seem to have 'not so good' experience tales to tell in that department.
    Shamus: Ooh, immature? Far from it man!!I'll take it good naturedly. Thanx 4 breaking it down like that. I'm still musing over it.
    But this one: Chances are if you marry the girl, you will not stay together so why worry about something you don't need to?, I don't agree with. This part of the world, we mostly stay together than do the divorce thing. Probably too lazy to go thru all the mess!But more seriously, nahhh, this is one i'll be keeping for good.
    Cheers man. Haven't seen u around alot though.
    Hey Lucy...still being me?!!(Twilight zone tunes still playing!) 
  • Lucytorial said on Feb 12, 2008....
    mwaaa ha haa good on ya peanut.... I'd back up what grace says.... just be careful, and well have you told her how difficult it is to wait, to be constantly horny (ahem) for her??
  • Peanuthead said on Feb 13, 2008....
    Lucy..oh she is very much aware. But in a funny sort of way, i don't mind the waiting. Its a faith thing. Yes, insanely frustrating most of the time, but its worth it. The Passion of letting loose usually only clouds judgement. So its a moral dilemma. Bcos u're not having sex, u get to be sure of the emotional connection, but without the sex, u can neva quite tell that u'd entirely have the physical heat needed to maintain marital sexual interest. Hmm.
     As long as Graceful quotes: We both make the right choice.
  • one_wired_kitty said on Feb 15, 2008....
    I wear a 40E ... quite happy with my size. My STBX cheated with someone who has SMALLER boobies so I guess we're different.
  • Peanuthead said on Feb 18, 2008....
    Kitty..hmmm...Though that must have hurt??
  • one_wired_kitty said on Feb 18, 2008....
    He's a douche ... but no longer my problem.

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