Ive not felt like writing in awhile. Just hard to keep ;posting. Im not used to blogging, its like a one way conversation, which is hard.
i do better with emails with friends.
anyhoo....
i wrote about some sexual adventures, and considering some sexual playing outside of marriage. my hubby, great though he his, is not a great lover and has given me the ok to have sex elsewhere.

Well we figured out the elsewhere really isnt the thing. We both need to be part of it.
As I wrote earlier, last summer i had two experiences with friends. both were good.
The first one wanted more than to just be a playmate, so that didnt work out.
the second one was more compatible with us.

I had my husband meet him, the second one, They hit it off rather well. we got over the awkwardness after awhile. we just hung out some, the three of us.
We had lots of ground rules and everyone knew what was expected and acceptable and so forth.
He is an excellent lover .. an excellent sex partner. it isnt love or romance, its just good old fashioned .... ummm sex.

The friend understands that he is a playmate, it is play. we are not going to have a romantic relationship .

So we have had sort of a threesome.
Mostly though, my husband just watches me have sex with this friend. its pretty awesome. we are not self concious anymore and i can let myself go so to speak.
So he watches while our friend has sex with me,.. so in a sense, the two of us are having sex with a third person .. though my husband doesnt "do" anything with the other man.

my husband gets very turned on watching me, and it makes him more into sex and more into doing it with me, which is also good.

so thats a vague update.
just writing this to see if there is interest in more ...

lisa