• EvilTwin said on Jan 31, 2008....

  [Hugs]
   
  No words, just [Hugs]...

• quietone said on Jan 31, 2008....

  alyss, it doesn't matter who insigates it, it still is a tramatic event.  It is not easy.  Bless you... and yes {{hugs}}

• silverwhisper said on Jan 31, 2008....

  alyss, it's perfectly understandable that you're upset by it. it's not as if this is somehow a pain-free process for you, either.
  
  ed

• skald said on Jan 31, 2008....

  many people feel like you at this point I am told. Good luck I kwow you will feel better again. 

• the_infernal_optimist said on Jan 31, 2008....

  ((massive Infernal hugs))
  
  Alyss...you have a big, good heart, and this would be hard for anyone with even an ounce of feelings.
  
  I've got lots more hugs if you need them.
  
  ~Infernal
  

• Zayda said on Jan 31, 2008....

  [[hugs Alyss fiercely]]
  
  
  As others have said, it makes perfect sense that you are upset by this. You need to recognize that it's okay for you to hurt even if you are the one who started the process.

• sweetsoul said on Jan 31, 2008....

  Doesn't matter if you instigated it, you'll still be mourning the loss of your dream of a happy marriage.  Let yourself experience it - then move on with your life.

• gingersoul said on Jan 31, 2008....

  Alyss........i didn't want the divorce......he started it and i had to accept it....for months i went thru life thinking he didint have a shred of remorse or doubts or pain or tears .....I was wrong.....

  He had remorse, pain and doubts and his life has indeed been pure hell.....so much that he indeed stopped the process and asked me to come back home....the fact he left me again 6 monnths laterr doesnt change the story....

  This is for telling you......even who is at the other side of the receiving at one point understands that no matter who asked for it...divorce is one of the most traumatic event in a person life.....and even if you are the one who wants this marriage over it doesnt mean you are not entitled to feel the way you feel...{hugs}.

   

• secretlife said on Jan 31, 2008....

  alyss:  i just wanted to stop by and let you know i've been reading your recent posts and can feel all the pain you're going through.  regardless of whose decision it was, the hurt is natural for both you and your DH.
  i wish you godspeed to the other side of it. 

• Battycat said on Feb 01, 2008....

  {{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}

• Me-Myself&I said on Feb 01, 2008....

  i wish you all the best as you start a new life.
  i wish you the strength and hope to make all your dreams come true!(((((((((hug))))))))))

• MissMimi said on Feb 01, 2008....

  Alyss, I'm so sorry for the hard time you're going through.  {{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}

• Mamie said on Feb 01, 2008....

  (((((hugs)))) I am so sorry for your struggle...I hope you have something relaxing and fun to do this weekend....best, mamie

• destinydiva said on Feb 01, 2008....

  I'm going through a divorce now and even tho I am so much happier and better without my ex, and I ended the marriage and I do want it ended....I feel that   'but' feeling ((((((((((hugs))))))))) your not alone :-)xx
  

• Alyss said on Feb 03, 2008....

  Thank you everyone. I know that over time it will become easier and I know that my reasons for the choice are valid but it still hurts.
  
  SL it was nice of you to stop by.
  
  ginger thank you for your thoughtful comment. I do try to think of how it must be for him too and am trying hard to make it as painless as possible for us both.
  

• gingersoul said on Feb 03, 2008....

  Alyss.....you are a sensitive and caring woman.......i am sure your pain is doubled specially because of how careful you are in not hurting him unecessarily....it gives you honor in my eyes...{hugs}

• kruuyai said on Feb 03, 2008....

  Alyss:  I ended my marriage over 20 years ago, and even though I wanted the divorce more than anything, there's something about going through that process that is so painful... so I understand how you feel.  You will get through this, though, and life will get better.  {{{{{{{{hug}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

• carmachu said on Feb 16, 2008....

  *hugs*

   

  Good luck. I hope it goes smoothly....

   

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