I have a question. I just don't understand how someone can justify to themselves doing something like the following. This is not done in the spirit of malice, it is just a question on social behavior. I don't feel a bit bad making this comparison, because many very similar comparisons were made about me by her, using my screen name. So
here's what hottips said about me just a couple days after she started posting at the beginning of the month, when I was pointing out to her that writing
this very demeaning post about carterbabe might make her look bad:
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You are becoming aggrivating over absolutely nothing, paranoid perhaps, two faced absolutely.
You are only one individual who has messaged me regarding same, but the only one being the nib shit where your motives are unclear except for an inmature attempt to play good guy - bad guy, and I am begining to view you in the following manner ; based upon my past and current experiences with you and, of late, ofcourse. Vis:
Based upon what you have stated to me, you are closing in on a age that leaves you a little long in the tooth to be seeking a Phd., and will be satisfied if the next two years go well. From that I would " consider, guesstimate, assume & accept that you a male 30 plus, being conservate, respectfully.
You also show an inclination to enjoy non commital relationships and treat females like you are getting your education....bit here, bit there, nothing long term. You tend to limit obligations, pretty much into yourself. Except... when the comforts of a woman are lacking, and then its just about an open table, since its just for a few meals in any event.
You are probably a codependant and require assurance that your dick is laying along the right leg. More likely than not, you tend to be lazy as far as physical labor is concerned based upon the profession you are pursuing currently, as expressed by you herein above. Codependant(s) seek each other out to thier own detriment, such (IMO) was the case w/ Des as afore mentioned, and why you publicly provided the lot of us with many a hilarious moments of how ludricrous humans can sometimes be, even at allegedly great distances geographically.
Fantasy, your - more often than not, bed partner. Due to your ability to drive people away w/ your redundant and repetious inquiries about totally insignificant matters that have no bearing on you whatsoever. Hence a nib-shit / busybody / rumor munger, with more faces than a verteran investigator. Your a nice guy, but you can not be trusted. Thus, even at your age, you have no mate.
Thus, with the uncanny ability to kowtow practically every faccet of your daily activities, you fool most who take any interest in you whatsoever ; you require verification constantly. Yet, I surmise that you will dwell alone, never committing as promises are unlimitted and normally baseless except for moments of self- gratafication, hence your addiction to the net.
Other than that, I haven't give you much thought and have spent more time convincing myself you may be a male, but your female hormones are working overtime because your a nag.
It must be remembered that this type of misdirection only comes after the deleted evidence that would have shown I had not attacked the alleged newbie, but warned them against many woes they may well encounter if they revealed to much about themselves or thier emotions, no foul, until you and your herein above discusssed associate, Destiny made, or, rather atleast are trying to make, a mountain out of silly putty which is baseless, and solely manipulated fabrication on your parts that reflect not an iota of substance in reality.
Finally, your style of writing is so Ed like, and the underhanded insults maligned my intellect. In the event you shall have any further questions, please, do not hesitate to contact me. Then too, wishing to thank you in advance for the time and efforts you have taken to waste my life with this immature bullshit. Best wishes.
Respectfully,
Jessica.
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So, I conclude from this that hottips thinks it completely appropriate to also enter a demeaning character breakdown of me because I was a little unkind to her on her blog. Well, ok, if them's the rules, them's the rules.
However, today, during a conversation today between hottips and grace
here, grace made a similar character analysis of hottips:
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Humm. Guess it's my turn to be attacked. It's ok. I've had my shots. LOL
{{rolls up her sleeves for the diagnostic exercise}}
You searched to find something you could use to attack, and blame me for it. (That would be MY persistance, in case you missed the "blame" part, and the "It's your own fault" attitude with the "perhaps you should have left it at that" part.) That's interesting. Classic narcissism rears it's green (green, for jealousy) head.
One who must continually antagonize - looking at life from such cynical viewpoints, and publicly call it honesty, is obviously suffering from low self esteem. You tell yourself these actions are for noble purpose. But what it really shows, clinically speaking, is extreme narcissism - which everyone knows is denial-eze for "I'm not worth much, so I must convince others that I am so I can be acceptable, thus survive." Low self-esteem, so low that it morphs into narcissism, is shown clearly in all your posts. Your self preservation is showing, Jessi.
Another text book/classic sign of your narcissism is that you turn on each person that reaches out to you. You have much in common with King Louis XIV. Narcissists can't stand success, because down in the deepest parts of themselves they don't feel they deserve it. You fear intimacy, and can only take it in short bursts. You'll seek friendship and intimacy to get your human-need fix, and then you will bite the hand that feeds you because it scares the absolute beejeebers out of you. You can't let anyone get too close....they would be able to see your flaws then. (Perfectionism, clearly.) You have to take the control, because then you have some perception of worth, and you make them believe they need you to survive. The problem is though, that narcisissts can't keep their playhouse running smoothly because it requires them to be vulnerable, and that never fits in their mold. Your inability to "play well with others" and perfectionism is showing, Jessi.
Then comes personal attack - again, text book narcissism. A tell-tale sign of this is that you use others self perceived short comings to do this. You don't even have the presence of mind to see how your attacks are illogical and often make you look (even to the untrained eye) like the one who doesn't have it all together. You attack at the point you perceive to be the lowest point of your self-perceived enemy - the point at which you perceive the person "lives." The point at which you think will "kill" any chance of them rising up against you ever again. "Hit um where it hurts" is your motto. You can't take the chance that anyone could be smarter, or do better at something, or show you for who you really are, so you shoot them down as quickly as possible, and you shoot to kill. (But you don't even see that it's really OVERkill) Your low self-worth is showing, Jessi.
(Because of the above, I find it very interesting that you present yourself as female, considering this tactic. It is classically male, but . . . these days it's hard to tell for sure, especially with only the written word. You *might* be female after all, but of the young, inexperienced, Amazonian soul. Or, maybe you learned this tactic from your father, tried it a few times, and saw that it worked on the weak.) Your maleness is showing, Jessi. (You even have an androgenous name! I have a sneaking suspicion that you are the artistic type. . . perhaps a writer, or a writer wanna be, and highly intelligent.)
We can't forget your underestimation of others - once again classically narcissistic. To say that teenagers are "not likely to understand" is the ultimate in narcissistic behavior. You confuse experience with ability, and teenagers with children - probably because you look down on teenagers - and probably because of your own actions as a teenager that lead to this extremely low self esteem of yours. (Educated guess . . . dysfunctional family upbringing with an overly controling female role model.) Grave error, Jessi, to underestimate folks. Very unwise, and one that exposes your motivations as well as your inner thoughts about yourself. Your defensiveness is showing, Jessi.
Finally, your "super hero" attitude. Defender of all oppressed. Defender of women. Defender of all who can not fend for themselves - or so you think. Do I have to say "textbook/classic" again? I didn't think so. You have some unmet need to be someone's hero. Your super-hero syndrome is showing, Jessi.
You are eratic, conflicted, and disorganized. You lack harmony, cohesion, and creedence. You already know this, and you are fighting everyone else - but don't know that who you really want to fight is yourself. Your attempts to hide this fact from yourself by constantly attacking others, or the system, are transparent. Your fears are showing, Jessi.
You are obviously crying out for help, or you would not keep coming back here. You would not keep attacking. You would not keep digging for bones. You would not keep fighting for something that is obviously futile. If I can help you further, I'm happy to do so.
I'll leave you with a bit of appropriate and applicable humor. . .
How many psychologists does it take to change a lightbulb?
Just one, but the lightbulb has to WANT to be changed!!!!!
~Grace~
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This comment was subsequently deleted from hottips posts, grace was blocked, and this was hottips' response:
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Nuked for sabotage Grace
Bye bye....poser.
Thats my perspective.....whats yours ?
Hottips4u
Jessi.
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Now, I really don't see any difference between these two comments. Perhaps I'm missing something. But what I really don't understand is, how can someone who so blatently does a thing, condemn another for doing the same to them? Just to say it, anything hottips says in her blogs doesn't bother in the least, I just have a hard time understanding this type of behavior, and it is a common pattern in her actions here.
So, can anyone explain this type of behavior to me? What does she tell herself that allows her to do this? She is very adiment about the evils of others being two faced and posers, and i agree with her in that. But doesn't it seem like that's what she's doing? And if that's true, what would she have to do to be blinded to her own actions?
Just a question.
