• uniquely-ironic said on Jan 29, 2008....

  I'm not sure what your religious beliefs are, but have you considered terminating the pregnancy?  It sounds like you are not at all enthusiastic about having and raising your child.  If there are also health concerns you should consider not having the child.
   
  As for the father, I'm not sure why you are not willing to push the issue, prove the paternity and make him take responsibility for his actions.  It's not being mean, it's being fair.
   
  You have a lot of decisions to make.  I wish you well.

• MyHeartAches said on Jan 29, 2008....

  Why did the dr tell you there was a possibility the child won't survive?
  

• carterbabe3 said on Jan 29, 2008....

  It sounds like you have a lot of decisions ahead of you. I am not one to advocate abortion but have you thought about giving the baby up for adoption? It's just another option for you to think about. In the end, you have to do what is best for you and what would be in the best interest of the child. I'm sure you will make the decision that is best for you. Best of luck.

• broken_angel said on Jan 29, 2008....

  uniquely_ironic:
  well, actually, yes, i am actually considering about terminating the pregnancy.. let's just say i haven't even mature or grown up yet, and my mom is kind of relying on me to be the one to take care of her..
  MyHeartAches:
  the doctor told me that the child is somehow in trouble, that i have to be careful all of the time, and i shouldn't be stressed out.. but i have my thesis, and my other responsibilities,and soon i will be working in order to survive this world, and i don't know yet if my baby can get through all that..
  as for the father, well, i have tried all things humanely possible to convince him, but he keeps on having all kinds of excuses.. do i have to really keep pushing myself to him? coz i dont know what to do anymore.. sigh..
  carterbabe3:
  actually, i have also thought of giving my baby to someone, you know, kind of like transplant? i have this friend who has been wanting to have a baby, but couldn't and she kind of like begged me to just transfer the baby to her.. i am still thinking about it..

• davidstar said on Jan 30, 2008....

  I hope once the news has settled in, you will be happy.  Children are truly a blessing. As far as the father, give him time too. He will come around. He is probably just a little surprised.

• broken_angel said on Jan 30, 2008....

  yah.. i know.. he's still in the stage where everything for him is superficial.. :)
  that's why i'm giving him space.. but time is kinda running out for me.. by march, we will be graduating.. and who knows, he will make a run for it.. sigh..
  well, i guess i'll just have to expect the worst huh? :)

• carterbabe3 said on Jan 30, 2008....

  Broken Angel - well I think that is a wonderful idea! Do you see your firend often? I would think it would still be a very hard decision but seems like a good one.

• broken_angel said on Jan 31, 2008....

  my friend? you mean, the guy?
  yah.. i see him almost everyday.. :)
  we're classmates.. almost in all subjects.. weeeehh...
  and i always feel pain whenever i see him..
  i dont know what's a good idea right now.. all i know is that right now, i just want peace of mind.. heheh..
  any comments on how to clear one's mind so i can be able to decide wisely? :)

• brit said on Feb 03, 2008....

  what options are you trying to decide between?

• broken_angel said on Feb 04, 2008....

  what's better: practicality or morality? practicality, coz if truth be told, i really am not ready to raise a kid yet, psychologically, emotionally and most importantly, financially... morality, coz i can't really kill this baby.. coz it's a part of me.. huhuhu
  and another thing, i also told the guy that i dont need him.. ehehe..but my friends told me i shouldn't let him have the easy way out..

• brit said on Feb 04, 2008....

  hmmm...yes it is a difficult choice. how about having the baby to keep your morality issues in check and put up the baby for adoption?
  do your friends really want you to have the baby just to get back at the guy or something like that?
  

• broken_angel said on Feb 05, 2008....

  my friends want me to keep the baby coz they feel it's the right thing to do.. sigh.. and they want me to keep it coz they're very excited on being godparents.. and they are the ones pressuring the guy to help me...

• brit said on Feb 07, 2008....

  sorry...after a couple days time how do you feel?

• broken_angel said on Feb 25, 2008....

  i feel so bad right now.. but i am trying my best to feel alright.. smile, even if i dont really feel like smiling.. :) thanks

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