I am so close to this cousin of mine who is just a year older and I trust her with my life..share most of my thoughts and my deepest secrets.

Am not going to spill out all the details..well maybe I will a bit later when I am ready to but to put the whole story into summary...

I am currently going out with a guy for a year now and she very well knows that my family is not aware of this for I purposely didn't want to let them know as this guy is not ready for a serious commitment for a number of reasons...I love him to bits but I myself am not ready for marriage..well, maybe I am but this guy might not be the one...we're now in the getting to know stage and so I just wanted to lay low...

And to make things a bit more twisted there is another guy who is waiting for me to marry him and my family adores him to bits...but I am not into the guy and I have not given him any answers for I am not in love with him..

A week ago my brother bumped into my cousin and started talking about me..I think she was a bit concerned about my performance at work (I am now working with her under the same agency doing financial services) and somehow made her own assumptions that I was not doing as well as I should due to the situation that I was going through with this guy..I have gone through traumatic and emotional moments with him as for the past one year he is still not ready to commit whereas I am ready to get married...and my cousin does not exactly approve of him, saying that he is just playing me out bla bla..and therefore for the past two months I just stopped telling her about my progress with him, which miraculously was improving...He has started to open up and was even ready to meet my parents. Ironically it was the same weekend that my cousin blabbed everything to my brother!

My brother is very protective of me and I guess he just wants the best for me as I am the youngest and the only girl...and obviously he has seen me go through hell with my past relationships...

So there she was telling my brother that I have been going out with him for a year and he's not ready la di da...I'm still praying that she's not crazy enough to tell him the DETAILS if you know what I mean..

I got a shelling from my brother the moment he got home..I got speechless when he asked me point blank..."So who is this _____?" She even told him the guy's name!!

I donno whether I'm overreacting but to me I get it that she might be concerned over me about my work and she probably wanted my brother to advice me about it...but to me she has no fucking business to even mention to my brother this guy's name...I mean she could have been more tactical by saying something like "Oh your sister might be going through some personal issues which MIGHT be affecting her work so maybe you would want to ask her about it, or talk to her about it". I never expected my own cousin that I would have died for to go telling my brother all these!! I am just so upset because to me it is not her place to do it...

I told the guy about it and he was upset...and I did confront my cousin about it and she didn't even apologise..saying that she thought my brother would have known about it...and she didn't even sound a wee bit sorry when I told her the truth about the situation with the guy..she said that now it is probably best of what she had done so that he will be more serious about the relationship...but obviously the guy now is not so happy because my brother is now having trust issues with me and him...saying that he is not being sincere because he has not met the family bla bla...

Geez..I donno what to do now...I know to some of you this might be a no big deal but for me it is because my brother also questioned whether because of this guy I am forgoing the other guy who is much more stable in all ways and according to him "more responsible" because he has met the family and wants to marry me for real..

My concerns for now is :

1. Now I am not even sure whether the guy that I am in love with wants to marry me...

2. My family might be against it because I know they want the best for me...

3. I donno whether I should fight for this guy when I don't know whether we will end up together..I mean I will fight to the end if I know that he is in love with me and he is ready to marry me...and to be honest after a year we are not even in a relationship...I am getting a bit tired of this...even though he does say that he loves me and all but...

Opinions please........................