Your thoughts please!
I am married to a man who is 3 and a bit years older than me. . .we are a good match I think.
However, as for eye-candy I am partial to the older more mature man.
What is your preference?
Comments
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moyz said on Jan 23, 2008....
I have always enjoyed dating older men...something like between 5 and 10 years older than me...i find them so ..... mmm....tasty!!!!!!!!
as for eye-candy...love the muscular kinda, deep throat laugh kinda boy/guy....my age or a year or two older than me!!!
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polarheart said on Jan 23, 2008....
Hmmm, Moyz you little fox you! -
moyz said on Jan 23, 2008....
lol.... -
Carlar95 said on Jan 23, 2008....
I dated and later married a man who was only a year older than me. I found that my choices, reactions, attitude etc were of a maturer standard than his.My eyes are now on an older man, even by ten years, to make me feel younger and possibly spoil me rotten.( I hope they do!!!!!!!!) -
quietone said on Jan 23, 2008....
polar ~ well I have had one husband that was 2 year my older...I thought we were a good match. I also had one that was 9 years older...not good. I just had a relationship with a guy 12 years younger....no way not good, too immature. Sounds like goldilocks and the 3 bears if you ask me!! LOL I now am hoping to find the one that is "just right" :) -
pickersplock said on Jan 23, 2008....
Mr. Plock is a year yonger than me and always likes to point out that I'm an older woman, but I look way younger than him! So hah!I don't really think about age, but I don't think I would ever want to be with anyone much younger than me. Too many issues! -
bluegum said on Jan 23, 2008....
polarhart ,wifie is 5 months older then me,i tell her she"s acradle snatcher and when anything goes wrong she shuld have known because she is older,looks younger too but i win in the popularity stakes with the grandkids when they want to use the computer.dont know about older or younger women say about 5 to 10 years only dated wifie. -
Mamie said on Jan 23, 2008....
oh I am friends with couples who represent both of these scenarios. Some have had kids again and some have chosen to travel as their favorite pasttimes...to each his own! -
the_infernal_optimist said on Jan 23, 2008....
I'd rather be with a guy quite a few years older than one a good bit younger, and always have preferred guys older than me, as a general rule (go figure though, DH is six months younger!). Appearance-wise, most of the guys I find attractive are also older than I am.
~Infernal
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rupert7 said on Jan 23, 2008....
My first wife was 4 years younger than me. I shudder to think I actually married a child of 19 !! Jenny is 2 weeks older than me and was 35 when we married, much more sensible!
If I were looking for a wife now,I would be looking 5 years either side of my age I think!
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evil_twin said on Jan 23, 2008....
I've almost always dated women younger than me. Not by much, but a few years. I don't think I'd have a lot in common with anyone too much older or younger than me. I like to keep it around the same age.
The older you get, the less it would probably matter though. Right now, if I was with a girl 10 years younger, she'd only be 18! But if I was 50 and she was 40, it wouldn't be such a big deal.
-evil_twin LA
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silverwhisper said on Jan 23, 2008....
i've always been partial to older women, but my wife's a year younger than me. :>
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uniquely-ironic said on Jan 23, 2008....
I've somehow managed to date/marry men 2-4 years younger than me. That little an age difference doesn't seem remarkable. I do have a keen appreciation for older men, but sadly don't think they'd be able to keep up with me. I guess that's why I gravitate towards younger men, I need someone who can keep up with me. -
polarheart said on Jan 23, 2008....
Carla, LOL let's hope those older men have lots of dosh to spoil you with!!Quietone, LOL at sounds like goldilocks & the 3 bears! I hope that you will find your Mr Right soon :-)Pickers, so no Toy Boys for you 'eh?? LOLBluegum, it sounds like you only have eyes for one lady? That's great!!Mamie, yes each to their own, but what is your preference? HUH?Infernal, you join me in my grassy patch :-)Rupe, 5 years either way sounds good :-)Twinny, I agree that the older we become the less the whole age thing matters. But it always tickles me when I see these mature billionnaires in their 60ies or 70ies with spring chickens in their 20ies. . .dont they care that the girls are there just for the money??Ed, I had a sneaking suspicion that you prefer the older more experienced woman :)U-I, you certainly seem the feisty one! LOL - I trust Bill is good at keeping up with you! -
secretlife said on Jan 23, 2008....
i usually prefer men my own age or older, although i've had relationships with men as much as 10 years younger and 20 years older in my lifetime.my husband is 4 years older than me.i have two sisters married to younger men. my youngest sister is 10 years older than her husband. they've been married 12 years and have 2 children.my middle sister's husband is 8 years younger than she is, and they've been married 7 years and have 2 children. -
silverwhisper said on Jan 23, 2008....
polar: why, whatever do you mean by that?
[looks shocked and innocent]
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polarheart said on Jan 23, 2008....
Secret, that is really interesting to read about your sisters and their younger husbands. Its good to hear that it can work out. Now may I ask weather you felt that age made any difference when you dated a guy 10 years your junior?Oh, Ed, I meant nothing of course I know you are so innocent and sweet and a dirty thought never ever cross your mind! LOL -
silverwhisper said on Jan 23, 2008....
whatever in the world am i to make of such an implication, polar?!
that cuts me deep, you know...
:D
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polarheart said on Jan 23, 2008....
Awww, dont worry Edwinikins, I'm sure everyone knows how pious you are. (NOT!)((hugs)) PolarLOL -
uniquely-ironic said on Jan 23, 2008....
Ahhhh, fiesty. Code word for pain in the ass. You're so kind to put it gently. Bill does a pretty good job of keeping up, but I tend to run circles around him. Actually, the fact that he's more planned and methodical is one of the things I admire about him. -
silverwhisper said on Jan 23, 2008....
but, but, but...i am! why does nobody every believe me when i say that?
[sighs]
[trudges off]
:D
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queenparanoia said on Jan 23, 2008....
well i dont like guys much younger than since i'm more mature than them... oh well i can't be choosy... as long as the sex is great.. LOL!!!! =) -
uniquely-ironic said on Jan 23, 2008....
queen - "i dont like guys much younger than since i'm more mature than them"This will never change ;) -
elpasotruth said on Jan 23, 2008....
Sometimes it's not so much the age as it is the chemistry . I feel the connection with women young and older,if tjey have a certain something then you know right off the bat. . -
Zayda said on Jan 23, 2008....
[giggles at Ed]
Polar--Honestly, I have dated both younger and older men. I don't really have a preference for older versus younger or vice versa.
My husband is 5 years younger than I am. Before meeting him, I was dating a guy who was 2 years older than me, and before that I dated a guy who was two years younger than me.
I have, in the past, dated a man who was 12 years older than me as well. -
Eilan said on Jan 23, 2008....
My ex-husband and I are the same age. I'm a bit older, but not much.
My husband is 16 years older than I am. I was concerned about the age difference at first, but he seemed fairly nice and intelligent and he looked good (to me!), so I figured why not go for it.
If I were in a position to do so, I wouldn't rule out a younger man, but I wouldn't want to be with him just because he wanted to "get a MILF." -
one.way.or.another. said on Jan 23, 2008....
honestly, i dont really care about age. then again, being twenty means i couldnt really date anyone a lot younger, and wouldnt really want to either. i've never gone to extremes either way. -
skald said on Jan 23, 2008....
Mine is 5 years older than me and I think that is nice. -
beyondtheveil said on Jan 23, 2008....
You see polar, women don't mind older men because they want someone mature, stable, and more worldly.
Men, by contrast, usually want a younger woman so when they talk to them, the woman might think they know what they are talking about.
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PassionTraveler said on Jan 23, 2008....
My exhusband was 8 years my senior. We didn't have successful pregnancies and the marriage eventually ended anyway.
Now I want kids, but most men in my age range already have kids and are done, or don't want any. I'm looking to younger as the 30-somethings tend to be more in the mindset for kids, family, et al. Not too much younger, as I find they aren't emotionally mature enough, but a tad younger, early to mid 30s. I'd welcome my own age group and a tad older IF they were interested in starting a family, but alas, that does not seem to be the case. (I'll be 40 in June, 2008)
As for eye-candy, I look about 10 years younger than I am, so I guess although I still seek the same age range, from early 30s to late 40s, I just hope they too share youthful genes.
PT
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Lucytorial said on Jan 23, 2008....
Okay so it looks like I am a lone in this big thing called life and the older man. my hb is 12 (or 13) years older than me, we are a great match yet at times the difference in wisdom comes through.
I keep him young he shows me some tricks in life! I don't think the age thing is all that big because he looks my age anyway....
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TaintedAtBirth said on Jan 23, 2008....
It's all good as far as I'm concerned, older guy younger gal, whatever.
Happiness doesn't discriminate !
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ShakenToTheCore said on Jan 23, 2008....
Hmm...when I was younger I would have said an older man, for sure! Now, 10 years either way I think (I'm 30). As long as he's smart and has a sexy smile, WOOHOO! -
polarheart said on Jan 23, 2008....
Queenie, the best sex is with the person you love, so yes I would say age plays little part there:-)Elapsotruth, so I take it you are not drawn to a certain age group?Zayda, it seems you've had a good selection from the age spectrum :-)Eilan, aha 16 years older than you? Do feel that him being so much older has negatively affected your relationship in any way?One.way, yes at your age if you are a female I would not advise dating anyone younger than 20 :-)Skald, 5 years is good too :-)Beyond, that makes perfect sense! BUT we like to pretend we dont know that! LOLPT, I get where you are coming from. I hope you find a nice specimen soon!!Lucy, you are not alone - look at Eilan - her hubby is 16 years older than her! If your hubby's age comes with wisdom then that is a BIG plus!Tainted, you are quite right - happiness does not discriminate :-)Shaken, I assume you are female(?) - would you really consider dating a 20 year old guy? I dont think I could have done that at the age of 30!Thanks for all your comments everyone! -
secretlife said on Jan 23, 2008....
polar: i didn't even realize he was 10 years younger. i knew he was some younger- just not how many years.
I think it pretty much depends on the two people. It's very hard to generalize.
my sister was 30 and her husband only 20 (and not even LEGAL) when they married. At the time we thought she was robbing the cradle. I specifically remember telling her to date him but why marry him??? Anyway, time has proven me wrong- She's in her early 40's now....and the marriage is strong.
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wakingharmony said on Jan 23, 2008....
Age didn't matter to me it was "Love".. Big problem no one believed me I was as old as I was a lot of the time .... my hubby now Thomas, we been together 11/12 yrs. he lied to me and said he was older cause he thought I was lying to scare him off hehe. He is 11 1/2 yrs younger than me. At first they were older.. then went younger then older age is a state of mind to me. -
CreativeWoman said on Jan 23, 2008....
My eye is drawn to older men who have a sense of maturity and accomplishment.
CW
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Imalovernotawriter said on Jan 23, 2008....
My wife is 15 years younger than me. Physically, sexually, and maturity-wise we are very well suited. Meanwhile, her dad is now married to a woman who is 1 year younger than me... and the thought of sharing a life (and a bed) with her is inconceivable to me... call me shallow if you must, but it's the younger ('younger', not 'young') woman who catches my eye... Ima xx -
FutureGoddess said on Jan 23, 2008....
I LOVE BOY TOYS!! I have this thing for guys who are in their late late 20's early 30's. They are a lot of fun to play with.
HOWEVER..... as for long term relationships, so far I find that guys who are nearer my age (40), either a two or three years older or two or three years younger, are the guys with whom I can be in relationships
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one_wired_kitty said on Jan 23, 2008....
I agree with moyz ... gotta love them older men ... 5 - 10 years older is good. -
lalalalalala said on Jan 23, 2008....
interesting topic! my answer: older by at least a few years. that way we can be on the same maturity level. or at least close enough to it. -
anonymous said on Jan 23, 2008....
I am a big woman and like older man. I am looking for my big older man at bigpersonal.com now. Wish me good luck! LOL -
rightwingwizard said on Jan 23, 2008....
My wife was five years younger. I don't recall ever dating anyone older than myself (except for perhaps a few months)
These days I don't particularly find a woman younger than say, forty-five, attractive. They tend to lack the grace and sophistocation I seek these days. Of couse, another factor, at my age, would be whether or not they are free from child rearing responsibilities. I don't think I could go through those years agian.
Selfish and shallow, perhaps. It is highly unlikely that I would persue anyone anyway. I'm simply too accostomed to being alone and having my feedom.
rww
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yani said on Jan 23, 2008....
Hi Polar!
Hi Everyone! muahhhhhhhhhh!
Since i haven't have much men in my life, i really couldn't say what i prefer in reference to age LOL my ex-husband, the one which i run away from, is 3 years older than i am, so i guess that crosses out older men? hehehe...
glad to be back. :)
hello Queen, bunso :)
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Eilan said on Jan 23, 2008....
I don't think we've had any issues that have negatively affected our relationship, though I'm sometimes paranoid that he'll die and leave me to raise the girls on my own. It's silly, because he's healthy, but anything's possible, I suppose.
When my husband decided to start dating after the breakdown of his marriage, he wanted someone who was still young enough to consider having children. A lot of women his age (44 at the time) were either raising teenagers or done with childrearing altogether. So he figured he'd have to look for a younger partner.
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wakingharmony said on Jan 23, 2008....
oh on another note I defiantly like "Mature" in a relationship. -
wakingharmony said on Jan 23, 2008....
oh on another note I defiantly like "Mature" in a relationship. -
gingersoul said on Jan 23, 2008....
Pollie.......my ex husband was 10 years younger than me.....before him i have dated guys extremely younger than me (the record is 14 years younger) and kissed guys older than me (in this case trhe records goes to a guy who is 20 years older than me)......but i laughed and have fun with both group age......
Now I wouldn't care about age but i seem to attract mostly younger men........even this last guy i had a date last Friday is 10 years younger than me.......
I found younger guys more open to experiment and to be trained.. *giggle*.... and older guys more intellectual stimulating.....i would like to believe than out there there is my man young in his heart and old by experience.....:-)
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queenparanoia said on Jan 23, 2008....
yani: ohmygod!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i missyou!!!!!!!!! =)
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josay1103 said on Jan 23, 2008....
I dated guys my age, two years older and seven years older than me. I am conservative, when I say "dated" it only means talk, had dinner and nothing intimate. With guys whose same age and two years older, I found them boring. I don't like it when I am so pleased by them. I didn't see any challenge. Sometimes, I overpower them which I feel he's not so man enough to control me and at the same time balance it with passion. With this man who's seven years older, I enjoyed being with him. He talks less but with substance. I was challenged mentally. -
cindylu said on Jan 23, 2008....
I am 34 and My husband is 36. I am very attracted to him. -
Lioness said on Jan 23, 2008....
I go for both, polar. Younger men who has matured thinking is okay for me; on the contrary, older men who are immature, are turn off. -
moyz said on Jan 23, 2008....
Oh Ginger...I like the last part of your comment
'I found younger guys more open to experiment and to be trained.. *giggle*.... and older guys more intellectual stimulating.....i would like to believe than out there there is my man young in his heart and old by experience.....:-)"
that's pretty slick!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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merlin said on Jan 24, 2008....
Hey polar ! Im 18 ,my husband is 5 years oldr than me. I definitly fancy older guys! They so much more mature and undestanding! -
Lucytorial said on Jan 24, 2008....
LUCY RUNNING NAKED THROUGH POLARS POSTS
WEEEEEEEE HEEE HE HEEEEE
**bounce bounce*
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gingersoul said on Jan 26, 2008....
Moyz...thank you....hey, great minds think alike...:-) -
polarheart said on Jan 26, 2008....
Hi Guys, just to say that I did read all your comments, but did not get back here to reply individually. Thank you all for your input! -
HoleInTheCosmos said on Jan 26, 2008....
The species will have longer lifespans if men 55 - 75 years old mate with women 18 - 49 who are fertile. Their offspring will live longer, healthier existences (statistically) than others. I do have a post on this if you check my blog. Personally, I'm more into a type than an age, and the type appeals to me almsot regardless of age (as long as somewhere between, say, 18 and 65). -
Racerboy said on Jan 29, 2008....
Never had the chance to date anyone much younger than me. My ex was 5 years younger. I would like to date someone who was younger and more vibrant, just because of the old adage, "she'll keep me young". But there are more women over 50 who look great these days! So I'm just going with the flow. Lacking experience I have to be willing to be trained.
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