• secretlife said on Jan 21, 2008....

  lioness:  my younger sister lost her husband in an accident when she was 26.
  they had no children.
  she mourned his loss for more than 10 years before she began to date again.
  she was 40 when her first son was born, and 42 when her second son was born. 
   
  it's not too late.
  i think it's most important to be ready before you have a child, and also that you find the right man....
   

• D6fer said on Jan 21, 2008....

  I agree with secretlife.....find a good guy....get ready for it...then have a baby or two.

• beyondtheveil said on Jan 21, 2008....

  lioness- My wife was concerned about being too old at twenty-six. Secretlife's last line said it all. The most important things are to want one and be ready along with the right guy. There are many women waiting to have children later in life. 

• Zayda said on Jan 21, 2008....

  I was in my 30s when my son was born. So, no, it's not too late. One of my closest friends just had her third child at age 41.

• Mamie said on Jan 21, 2008....

  no way do i think it is too late! Have a blast and then post your pictures here, hell we will have a big party for ya! :)) mamie

• anonymous said on Jan 21, 2008....

  she mourned his loss for more than 10 years before she began to date again.
  she was 40 when her first son was born, and 42 when her second son was born. 
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• dazed_and_confused said on Jan 22, 2008....

  Hi Lioness
  
  I actually understand where you are coming from. Here in the Philippines, it is considered too old to have a baby by the age of 35. I guess it has something to do with our upbringing, that by the age of 25, one should be ready to have a family.
  
  IMHO, I don't think it is too late. Just find a suitable partner whom you will be happy. :D
  
  Cheers
  

• skald said on Jan 22, 2008....

  No it is not too late and now women in their 40's are having children, some even their first child. I would say that you should do it soon still the same, if you want to have children. 

• RELICOLONY said on Jan 22, 2008....

  Do not worry: even 60-year old women give birth.
  
  Just watch your diet and weight for Mr. Right - not 'Mr. Perfect'!
  

• ahurb said on Jan 22, 2008....

  I agree with the comments above.  Enjoy your life.  When the right time/man comes along, it will come.
   
  So dont worry about being the last amongst your friends to marry or to have a child...so what...then they'll  all dote on you when its its your time.
   
   
   

• uniquely-ironic said on Jan 22, 2008....

  This question of having children is so complicated.  I had my children when I was 27 and 30.  At the time it was the right time.  Now, going into a second marriage, the question of children has come up.  My fiancee has no children and would like some.  I admit it took some time to come around to the idea of having more children.  I considered my age, the age of my children, and finances.  We went to see a specialist since I've had a tubal and I was shocked that at my age they heavily advocate using an egg from a young woman since apparently I've already peaked.  To me that kind of defeats the purpose of having children with a man.  If it were the only option due to medical inability to produce eggs I'd agree, but to me it seemed like a really second rate solution.

• husbandhater said on Jan 22, 2008....

  Not too late. But supposidly the longer you wait you increase your chances of retardation and a host of other things. But these are the same people who tell us something is good for us one month and tell us it's detramental for us the next. It seems to be all the rage having kids late in life as of late. So if you find Mr.Right in the next year or two go for it I say.
   
  With the way kids are today I wouldn't want to be old with them either. You need your wits and strength about you. Not that an older person doesn't have these things but after 25yrs of age your body tends to change and certain things tend to slow down. I think your body changes every 5yrs as it ages. I think your ability to produce eggs decreases also. But Mr.Right is also a good factor not just any Tom,Dick , and Harry. Good Luck Lioness.

• nytquill17 said on Jan 22, 2008....

  Funny, I just got done writing a post on almost the same subject, refreshed the home page, and saw yours.
  
  I say, as long as it's a question of "want" rather than "should have", go for it!  Just don't do it because you think you're supposed to.  It's so easy to fall for that without even realizing it.
  
  There is more physical risk for mothers over 35, but it's becoming more and more common.  If you want a baby, go for it!  Find yourself a good man (unless you want the baby more than the man, lol!) and a good doctor to take care of you.
  
  What's your heart telling you?  Or is it too confused, like mine is?
  

• rupert7 said on Jan 22, 2008....

  My mother was 41 when you youngest sister was born. A couple Jenny and I are friends with wad their youngest when the woman was42. Her husbands mother was in the Guinness book of records years ago because she had a baby at the age of 65! No fertility drugs or anything like that. All she had was a man! lol - the thing is you have plenty of time yet!

• cntlvmenuf said on Jan 22, 2008....

  Oh boy....I just had this conversation with one of my friends just yesterday....am almost in my 30s and she is 35....newly wed, only 3 months with no previous marriage or kids. She says she does want to wait for her and her husband to get "used" to each other and also to put a financial plan in place for when they do have kids. 
   
  I too had the same plans....married at 25 and at least two kids at 30.....so far nothing. From what I have been reading though pregnancies are individual and physicians have been known to be wrong. My big thing is I don't want to be my chidlren's "grandparents." I even told my friend that I will stop looking for Mr. Right and instead start looking for a baby daddy. Bottom line is children today are a huge financial responsibility....so I do hope you are in a place that if the time is right and you meet Mr. Right and have mini yous, you will be financially independent enough to take care of juniors without digging into your retirement pool.

• wakingharmony said on Jan 22, 2008....

  When is the time right to have a baby!! When it happens, that is the right time , not a moment too soon or a moment too late.... put it in Gods hands.... He is the best judge!

• queenparanoia said on Jan 23, 2008....

  of course not!!! you have plenty of time... don't worry lioness... by the way malapit na bday mo???

• Lioness said on Jan 23, 2008....

  That’s a very inspiring story secret, it seems that it was well worth it for your sister. I am hopeful things will turn out right for me as well.. Thanks!

  D6, seems like finding a good guy in itself would entail a lot of effort. *sigh* But I plan to have 3 children at most. :D Thank you..

  Thanks beyond, part of me says that I am still not ready for a bigger responsibility, but there’s this looming feeling pressuring me to act before it’s too late. Why do we females have some sort of a deadline?

  Wow, that’s encouraging Zayda, thanks. 

  Mamie, when I would be gutsy enough, I will let you know. :D

  Dazed, what scares me the most is that most of my maternal grandmother’s family are spinsters, so it runs in the family. I really really don’t want to be like them.

  Thanks Skald, when the opportunity comes, I will grab it right away. I don’t want to wait until I become 40.. Lord have mercy.

  Hi Relicolony, OMG, 60 is too much err too old…  

  Howdy ahurb, glad to see you here.. I really hope that time would be soon. :D

  U-I, I hope I won’t have to pass through such options. I must say it would be hard to decide.

  Thanks for that sound advice HH! Whew, It’s much much difficult than I think.

  LOL on liking the baby more than the man, nytquill. Well, truth to be told, I am confused! I’ll  drop by that post of yours.

  Now that explains it Rupe, LOL. Oh man, where art though? Maybe she could give some tips on how to choose a man who could impregnate a woman past her child-bearing age?

  Hi cntluvenuf, oo, raising kids is not a very easy task. I am actually thinking the same way you do, especially when my officemates’ kids drop by and they’re just like siblings. But hey, we can’t turn back time..

  I agree Waking, it shall happen in HIS time.

  Hello queen, my birthday is months from now.. Hay… Why does it seem to be so hard to find Mr. Right?

  To all, thanks a lot for sharing your thoughts on this matter... I am keeping my fingers crossed.
  

• queenparanoia said on Jan 24, 2008....

  kasi bulag sya... lol... =)

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