• uniquely-ironic said on Jan 17, 2008....

  You need anti depressants.  What you're feeling is depression and anxiety.  It's a chemical imbalance that CAN be fixed.

• abigale-annabella said on Jan 17, 2008....

  i appreciate your comments i really do but i cant go on anti-depressents.
   
  My mother..she says it will effect my career, people wont employ me, and itl look bad.
  again..how is that a life? how is that living
  i dont have many choices here..

• pickersplock said on Jan 17, 2008....

  There are some over the counter herbs and vitamins that are helpful for depression, but you should really be talking to your doctor about this, if your Mom is so against anti-depressants.  Uni is absolutely right, there may be a chemical imbalance.  Doctors can't discuss this information either.  It is confidential. 

• Me-Myself&I said on Jan 17, 2008....

  hon....no one knows you and can't see you so ....tell us...talk to us....even go read others and how they deal....some of us are old farts...but we have been there and done that and i'm sure out of hundreds here ....we all can line-up some help or just ....LISTEN don't be shamed neither...like i said ...we all have been there so....i'm listening!....Uniquely is one fine person too.

• uniquely-ironic said on Jan 17, 2008....

  I would worry less about being employable in the future than being happy in the moment.  I know a LOT of high level people who have taken anti-depressants at one time or another.  Pickers is right that unless you tell an employer, they should not ever know.  Doctors are held to confidentiality, same with many healthcare professionals.
   
  You might try herbal first and progress until you find what fixes you. 

• abigale-annabella said on Jan 17, 2008....

  I didnt know there were such things as herbal medicines to help, il certinely think about it.

  All your help has really touched me. im so greatful, i cant understand why someone maybe a million miles away from you can be more understanding than your mum or best friend.They cant handle it, they try ignore it. thats what makes you feel so alone.

  But sadly, i live in england, and an awful law is being put in place so that in 5years time employers will have the right to look at your medical records. if they see anti depressents, they will just think im crazy.

   

  My mum,my faimly my whole school will think im crazy if i take them, which is another thing i couldnt handle.

   

• uniquely-ironic said on Jan 17, 2008....

  That's too bad about the law, but do you realize that you may not need them that long?  What you're going through now may pass in time.  It does happen.  The one herbal remedy that might help is St.John's Wort.  Go see an herbalist, they should be able to fix up something for you.  Don't let your family keep you from getting the help you need.
   
  As for caring.  Well, I think they do care.  It's just hard and sometimes frustrating to deal with those closest to you.  Also, I've been where you are, maybe they haven't.  I don't know for sure.  Yes, I'm pretty far away, but caring isn't about distance  or being related, but about who a person is on the inside.
   
  Gee, there I go being all profound and stuff.

• Mamie said on Jan 17, 2008....

  Hi Abi,
  I ambeginning to get the picture. First of all, I doubt that you and your mom are right about employers have full access to medical records. But that is another conversation.
  My question is, if there was something that would make you feel better, take away the pain and help you enjoy the world again, would you want to know about it?
   
  My daughters girlfriend started feeling extreme anxiety in her senior year of high school. She also could not picture herself taking any meds ofr it. That as for other people. She was normal, just miserable...She started crying one day and could not stop. She became afraid to go to school. She stopped driving and she did school work with a tutor to get back the grades that were by that time all failures. She had panic attacks. Her days and nights got mixed up and she could not sleep anymore at night.
  and then she got some help.
   
  She is now at university. She is happy and has a great boyfriend. She laughs and goes out to eat with family and friends. She made new friends at school and got rid of the losers in her life. She has "okay" grades, because she does the work and applies herself. She is happy. Her mom is happy too.

• wakingharmony said on Jan 17, 2008....

  Abi I agree with everyone above.. there are options. Just wanted you to know I was here. {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Abi}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

• wakingharmony said on Jan 17, 2008....

  
  

• secretlife said on Jan 17, 2008....

  there is no shame in anti-depressants.  that's a very old fashioned view. 
  depression is like any other physical illness.  would it be your fault if you got cancer and needed chemotherapy to live?  it's not your fault if you have an imbalance of chemicals in your brain that are making you so sad.
   
  depression is actually something alot more common in teenagers than you might think. 
   
  i'm asking you to think about the science you say you loved so much.  there is science to back up what i've said above.  and there are medical doctors who can help you to get back to who you were last year before you fall even further behind.   take the step.  please. 

• secretary said on Jan 18, 2008....

   

  science, ehy? hah.
  well obviously your school sucks. not every school sucks but some schools do suck.
  i'm there right with ya.

  i don't like eating either unless my stomach starts attempting to kiss my backbone.
  anyhow, i like subway sandwiches. i can switch the meat and vegetable, you know.

  ha ha, you don't do your homework. i don't do my office work! every time my boss is gone off the sight,
  i google things up. i'm sure my co-workers know about it and the day they get pissed off of me
  and rat it to my boss, is the day they fire me. who cares? it's a shitty wage anyways. i barely pay my rent!
  i'm being underpaid, exploited! of course i fight right back with my under-working. i think they deserve it.
  you think your teachers suck? i think my bosses suck. so we're in this together.

  one question-- are you still alive or what? if you're dead, i won't be wasting my time typing all this.
  so do me a favor:
  thesecretaryoftruth@yahoo.com

  regards, abig.

• secretary said on Jan 18, 2008....

  ha ha, you're english, huh?
  shit i'm in america. i guess my plan to get laid with you is screwed.
  just kidding kiddo, just kidding. or, was it? ha ha ha.

  about anti-depressant. fuck that shit. fuck anti-anything.
  anti-depressants are for wimps and cowards.
  that fucking stupid doctor prescribed me 10 years ago and
  even in the looney bin, i spat it out down the toilet.

  if there is a devil, anti-depressant it is. my 2 cents, people.

  you start to hate me? hate-email me:

  thesecretaryoftruth@yahoo.com

  bye abi. thanks for the great thread you've put up. i owe you big, abig.
  i'm being very entertained and it's been a while. gee, it's been so lonely
  and now i think i have a friend. am i, abi? or do you hate me too?
  

• lfbno7 said on Jan 18, 2008....

  Did something happen? Did something in your life change? Are you angry about something? I'm not a big fan of anti-depressants or of drugs in general, though I know they sometimes do help people. The problem is that they can be addicting, physically or emotionally. To me they are scary. Maybe there is another reason for your symptoms. Maybe drugs is not the answer. I think of drugs as a last resort, and it might be better to talk to a shrink or a friend or a diary or something, and stay off drugs. Like Mrs. Reagan used to say, Just say no to drugs. Heroin used to be a prescription drug. There is absolutely no distinction between prescription drugs and so-called recreational drugs. It's all dangerous shit. A last resort, and hopefully you can escape your problem without having to take that last resort. MDs are the world's worst drug pushers.

• secretary said on Jan 18, 2008....

  i'm glad not everyone here is stupid. thank you for your smartness, Ifbno7.

  abi, you do not have any mental illness.
  depression is a disease that is haphazardously defined by
  pseudo-scientists who call themselves psychologists or psychiatrists, just for convenience.

  drug treatment approach of modern psychiatry is not based on science, but based on
  a theory that is scientifically proven to be false-- the Freudian Psychiatry.

  sorry for digression, but the bottom line is, psychiatric drugs are bullshits,
  and people who tell you, abi, that you have mental diseases are losers.
  they think they're smarter than you, abi. ha ha ha. as far as i've seen so far,
  their intelligence do not reach the level of your toe tipe, abi. not even close.
  open your eyes, abi. you're smarter than these people who blatantly judge you as a mental patient and
   recommend you drugs.

  abi, you're a smart girl. and you're a strong individual. that is exactly why
  you've survived the agony so far.  i admire you. i admire your strength.
  you're not weak, as far as i've seen. am i wrong?

  cheers, abi boo bee doo~ 

• pickersplock said on Jan 18, 2008....

  http://www.anxiety-and-depression-solutions.com/articles/complementary_alternative_medicine/herbs_supplements/valerian.php
   
  http://nccam.nih.gov/health/stjohnswort/sjwataglance.htm
   
   
  Here is the herbal information on St. John's Wort and Valerian Root.
  It's also important to eat well, exercise, and stay busy.  I've found that volunteering is an excellent pick me up!

• Mamie said on Jan 18, 2008....

  hi Abi,
  good morning. As you can see we all have different view points in here at SC. We are really tolerant of all kinds of ideas. Tolerant but still allowed to say : EWWWWWWWWW, when it seems appropriate.
  Here is my question: remember when you were 12 years old? What did  your world look like? What do you know now that you did not know then? The good, the bad and the ugly...what has changed in your thinking?
  talk to you soon, mamie

• elpasotruth said on Jan 18, 2008....

  As a survivor of someone who tried to kill herself let me please tell you,"DON"T EVEN CONSIDER IT". I'ts horrible and you can never,ever correct it,but you can correct your life. My wife tried twice to   end her life and she has regretted the day she tried,but we are on the road to recovery as a family and will gladly try to point you in the right direction for help. So please reconsider your choice's speak to those around you that know and love you.There are people out in your world who care and will help you.DON"T GIVE UP> 

• elpasotruth said on Jan 18, 2008....

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