Getting published - would you want to know the answer to
this question: "which guys make great mates?"

Part of the reason this community looked appealing
is that the top two popular tags listed is "love" and
"relationships". Now whilst my book is not really on these
topics, precisely, it is closely related.

So I am hoping this interest will mean some people are
happy to give their opinions on issues that may help me get
my book published.

First question: Is the topic of interest?

(I am about to write the cover letter to the publisher and
hope to get some feedback on that which I will post later)

Now I must admit that when I made the decision to write the
book I did not realize that there was any "gap" in what
is available to help us have great relationships.

In fact I was motivated by a book I had been recommended to
read by an author who had himself written a "relationship"
book - for men.

It's a book he recommends men to read because it has been
so  popular with women. He believed it would help men to
understand  just how women think.

I was horrified by the book! To my mind (his hugely popular)
book was shockingly bad and I thought just about anyone
could do better.....

Well that thought began a rather lengthy journey because I
discovered that writing a better book actually took a LOT
of research and  a LOT of hard work!

So what is the "gap" that has been missed. It sounds trite
and  obvious when using the following building analogy.
But is astonishingly not when it comes to personal relationships.

Its an obvious fact that no matter how skilled the builders,
no matter how much experience and knowledge is used in building
a home,  and no matter  how good the planning and design and
"problem solving" - if poor building materials are used, then the end
result will be a weak and potentially dangerous building.

Now one of the reasons we don't need  to think too hard about this
aspect of building is that in most places there are quite
comprehensive regulations that have been developed to make sure
that a building is constructed in asound condition.

But not so with love and relationships..

After I read the book recommended by the author I mentioned
above, I decided also to interview highly attractive women and
find out what they thought they most needed to know about love
and relationships. (I am almost embarrassed, looking back, at
the ignorance that lay behind the decision to target attractive
women - which from now on I will call HB's, for reasons I will
explain in a later post.)

And it turns out that the thing HB's most wanted to know - because
it's NOT covered in any of the multitude of books, magazines,
shows (you name it) is:

How can we tell WHICH guys will be good in a relationship?

They were sick of losing at love - sometimes BOG losses and
sometimes after significant personal time and effort on their part!

Huh! I thought. What a good question!

Answering it has taken the better part of two years and has
resulted in a complete ( and much needed) shake up of my world view.
...and a book titled -

Selection Secrets: How To Tell Which Guys Make Great Mates

Now, the 24 dollar question is: does this sound like something you want
to know more about?